I have a question for all you Boys....

[Birgitta]

Well, I am sure you know that it isn't the easiest thing for guys to come to terms with their sexuality or to come out of the closet. I am so glad that I finally did, it was like a weight off my shoulders

My mom and daddy never build a closet for me lol,
I was too obviously feminine that i was considered gay
by nearly everyone and thats not easy in teen years, but
As an adult i dont see the reason when one should hide
They are dating a tgirl...doing so does not show us much respect either

[Birgitta]

I'm sure this has been explained multiple times by girls who like to top (and yes, in my experience there are many--and not just because they get paid to do it) and by guys who enjoy being fucked by t-girls (but not men).

If you still don't "understand," it's because on some level you don't want to...not because you haven't been informed. Of course, I've only been around here for a little less than two years, so what do I know?

Is it really hard to comprehend that some men have a specific attraction to versatile t-girls (but not necessarily men), and that some girls don't necessarily feel less feminine just because they enjoy actively using their sexual organs? It ain't rocket science--you can still like dick but not be attracted to the male form. And if that's the case, there aren't many possible alternatives, are there?

If females can enjoy using strap-ons even though they get no real physical enjoyment from it, is it really so hard to understand that t-girls might actually like using their penises to fuck?I totally agree, and more than anything else in this discussion, this seems self-evident to me. What I don't "understand" is why so many people seem so invested in denying the concept of bisexuality. Damn, in real life I get less resistance and more understanding by describing myself as "not straight" than by describing myself as bi.

Niceburn, to me that sounds a bit naive and incredibly politically correct, tgirls that love to top, its fine, but i dont think they identify as woman, you have no idea what us girls go through, if i liked to top i would have stayed gay, i can understand gg might find it enjoyable but not a ts that feels and thinks like a woman, thats my opinion... There are always exceptions to any rule

[SirCumsAlot]

My mom and daddy never build a closet for me lol,
I was too obviously feminine that i was considered gay
by nearly everyone and thats not easy in teen years, but
As an adult i dont see the reason when one should hide
They are dating a tgirl...doing so does not show us much respect either

I once knew a boy in Florida who wanted to transcend into a tgirl but it was too hard for him. He tried for like a year or so. He used to crossdress alot but he decided to quit all that stuff this year. He not a fan of escorting, dont care much for porn industry. He wants to get into the medical field and trying to get in there as a tgirl was too hard.

So I guess some people hide just because life's too hard if you're not esorting or not a pornstar and just trying to live a normal life as a tgirl but not being accepted by society outside escorting and porn. Idk though

[Birgitta]

I once knew a boy in Florida who wanted to transcend into a tgirl but it was too hard for him. He tried for like a year or so. He used to crossdress alot but he decided to quit all that stuff this year. He not a fan of escorting, dont care much for porn industry. He wants to get into the medical field and trying to get in there as a tgirl was too hard.

So I guess some people hide just because life's too hard if you're not esorting or not a pornstar and just trying to live a normal life as a tgirl but not being accepted by society outside escorting and porn. Idk though

there is a lot i dont understand about tgirls...i would have killed myself if i did not start living as a woman, hard or not, passable or not, i could not function as a male, i feel really liberated now that i live as a ts openly, less fear now then ever before....life is hard still but way better then how it was, and i rather die as myself then as someone im not...in short: having to live as a guy equals death to me

[nicebrn]

As an adult i dont see the reason when one should hide
They are dating a tgirl...doing so does not show us much respect either

I agree.

However, as always, life doesn't make it that simple.

My last job was quite a conservative environment. I was one who didn't discuss or reveal my sexuality at all there, though I know the few men who were out had to put up with incredibly juvenile attitudes at best. When you're in a position where you have to repress yourself and conform or not eat, most people are going to go along to get along.

This leaves aside those who have to deal with resistance from their family. I find it hard to judge people who aren't willing to pay the price of outing themselves when they face being disavowed by the people they love.

Niceburn, to me that sounds a bit naive and incredibly politically correct, tgirls that love to top, its fine, but i dont think they identify as woman, you have no idea what us girls go through, if i liked to top i would have stayed gay, i can understand gg might find it enjoyable but not a ts that feels and thinks like a woman, thats my opinion... There are always exceptions to any rule

Not naivete, just direct personal experience. And I would never take it upon myself to assume I know what t-girls go through. However, I am a pretty good listener, and I know how to ask rather personal questions with some sensitivity. I can say that I know three girls who've been living as women full-time for over ten years. If you were to question their womanhood because they're versatile, they'd rightly take it as an insult. I never said that this kind of thing is the norm, I've only said that it seems to be common enough that you can't make a blanket statement that topping=unfeminine.

[Birgitta]

. I can say that I know three girls who've been living as women full-time for over ten years. If you were to question their womanhood because they're versatile, they'd rightly take it as an insult.

I dont care lol. Then they should have thick skin right?
There are always exceptions but i dont understand it...this whole tgirl circus is too much for me to understand really. I question womanhood of tgirls all the time, and i let people question me too...

[Birgitta]

I agree.

However, as always, life doesn't make it that simple.

My last job was quite a conservative environment. I was one who didn't discuss or reveal my sexuality at all there, though I know the few men who were out had to put up with incredibly juvenile attitudes at best. When you're in a position where you have to repress yourself and conform or not eat, most people are going to go along to get along.

This leaves aside those who have to deal with resistance from their family. I find it hard to judge people who aren't willing to pay the price of outing themselves when they face being disavowed by the people they love.Not naivete, just direct personal experience. And I would never take it upon myself to assume I know what t-girls go through

Of course it depends on the country one lives in, but i find it offensive to date cowards while i am out and about, a lot of them just want to have it all, wife and children, keeping up the straight fairytale to their family, and a t girl that fucks them..

Those guys truely dont deserve us
Im not a toy, and no ones dirty little secret...

How would you feel?????????

[dgs925]

Of course it depends on the country one lives in, but i find it offensive to date cowards while i am out and about, a lot of them just want to have it all, wife and children, keeping up the straight fairytale to their family, and a t girl that fucks them..

What's wrong with wanting it all? That's what I want in a nutshell!

[Birgitta]

What's wrong with wanting it all? That's what I want in a nutshell!

I hope you pay your tgirls well....

[theone1982]

What's wrong with wanting it all? That's what I want in a nutshell!

Haven't you ever saw VH1 Behind the Music or E! True Hollywood Story? You can't have it all, because sooner or later it all comes crashing down!