Hiding your past

[phobun]

Close friends and maybe a few select family members, other than that, I'm not going there with people if I'm in a LTR with a TG.

I won't deny her if confronted about it, but IMO it's really no one else's business.
My family is very Black and very conservative/traditional. I mean they would still love me no doubt, but they would definitely be saying, 'you know cousin ----? Who knew he was a straight up FAGGOT?? You think he's coming to this year's family picnic??'

Again, I know names are just 'labels' other put on you and not yourself, but as a self identified str8 man, it takes a while sometimes for this to sink in.

Straight guys generally don't use gay shorthand like "str8"

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Str8

[LaCosa]

Some strange comments on this thread: I've lost count of the people who I grew up with & went to school with who are now dead, or have emigrated, or whatever the fuck. That's life, and death goes hand in hand with it. So what that comment about knowing people since your twenties is about, I really don't know. And btw, anyone who would put the opinion of someone else above their own happiness and well-being, and who would then call that person a 'friend' is the one with something wrong inside their nut. We're each responsible for our own happiness in this life. And short as it is, we'd all do well to remember that fact every now and again.

Some people come from neighborhoods and cultures with long time connections. One might think of the old Italian and Sicilian neighborhoods that lasted into the 1960's. A number of Black-American neighborhoods in the Midwest remain like that.

Italians and the Irish have pretty much assimilated fully into mainstream White-America and partly because as a "whole" they have risen out of the poverty that affected a large portion of them for so long. This is less so with Black-Americans (in fact it is the reverse with their Gen X on downward).

I come from a neighborhood of deep connections. Generations living in the same areas and even the same homes. Extended families sometimes. It's a world and culture much different from mainstream White-America. Here... you know people from the cradle and they don't run to tell the police on you. You don't need the bank when the person owning the store will borrow cash money to you at interest.

[aduusw]

I wont be afraid of telling because of lossing friends or family, I think is their lost....

but in the other hand, when dating a transgender, if we split up in the future, im afraid that future girls I date would hate the idea that I dated a transgender woman... thats the only thing that preoccupies me, cause most woman wont approve... and what can I do? I like woman.

[bte]

Then don't tell your future girlfriends that you dated a TS. You think your future girlfriend will divulge all of her past relationships?

[aduusw]

it will be a little hard if your family and friends know... dont you think??

[phobun]

it will be a little hard if your family and friends know... dont you think??

What will be a little hard?

[phobun]

Then don't tell your future girlfriends that you dated a TS.

Exactly. You aren't obligated to divulge someone else's private medical history.

[mtbazz]

Sorry, but if feel you would lose friends and family for dating a tgirl your friends arent that great and your family sucks.

[mtbazz]

I wont be afraid of telling because of lossing friends or family, I think is their lost....

but in the other hand, when dating a transgender, if we split up in the future, im afraid that future girls I date would hate the idea that I dated a transgender woman... thats the only thing that preoccupies me, cause most woman wont approve... and what can I do? I like woman.

Just dont tell a future girlfriend...besides, most "new" girlfriends dont want to hear about your previous relationships.

[Helvis2012]

Be brave.......