Hiding your past

[PomonaCA]

Ok, it's important to have friends who really know us. It's important because without that we are living to our own will and as is obvious, without friends who can call us out our own bullshit we are dead. Post op, pre op, we are dead without each other.

[fred41]

Ok, it's important to have friends who really know us. It's important because without that we are living to our own will and as is obvious, without friends who can call us out our own bullshit we are dead. Post op, pre op, we are dead without each other.

That used to be one of the purposes of marriage (that and children of course)...but to have "bro-mates" for a life time is not a necessity.

[DL_NL]

Closed minds and repressed societies make for unhappy people... and sadly, few people realize that they can be part of the solution to the problem, if they are willing to change.

[dderek123]

Closed minds and repressed societies make for unhappy people... and sadly, few people realize that they can be part of the solution to the problem, if they are willing to change.

Yeah it's a less than ideal world that we live in. But things are going to change for the better I believe. If TS and there partners are seen as having healthy and productive relationships I think that acceptance/tolerance will grow.

Now if TS were seen in the media fostering healthy relationships that would be great. What ever is on TV the public gobbles up.

[TsVanessa69]

The way I see it, if a guy likes a woman enough, they won't be ashamed of her past.

very true, But i think some guys think that we can''t be happy being transgendered. I dont try to be what I am not, I try to enjoy who I am. The people in my life should feel the same way or they should not be a part of my life

[peggygee]

[TSMichelleAustin]

I have been with guys who try to hide you from the world and family! Or deny my past and in the end they find out... I have had my family take a long time to over their issues with me but they now are very supportive and love me. If your family loves you they will come around and if your friends cant accept who you love then they are not true friends!!! If they dont understand it, then educate them!

[rockabilly]

Some people can't be educated and are so stuck w/ their beliefs that it's too draining to try.

Some times you need a fresh start to be happy.

[phobun]

That used to be one of the purposes of marriage (that and children of course)...but to have "bro-mates" for a life time is not a necessity.

I agree....

[Niccolo]

Some strange comments on this thread: I've lost count of the people who I grew up with & went to school with who are now dead, or have emigrated, or whatever the fuck. That's life, and death goes hand in hand with it. So what that comment about knowing people since your twenties is about, I really don't know. And btw, anyone who would put the opinion of someone else above their own happiness and well-being, and who would then call that person a 'friend' is the one with something wrong inside their nut. We're each responsible for our own happiness in this life. And short as it is, we'd all do well to remember that fact every now and again.