relationship Q

[zip84121]

She must be one helluva CD!!!LOL
I simply can't imagine that happening, especially after the alcohol wore off and we woke up the next day.

But seriously, how did you become aware that she was only a CD and not TG?? How did she identify herself??

she stayed dressed for the first few times, and said she had to work so i left.. and like i said, shes very passable(thai) when dressed. there was one time a couple weeks ago, and we were talking after sex, and she asked what i would think if i saw her without the wig and makeup etc.. i said i dunno.. and she came back in the room undressed. it was a little awkward, but i couldnt be rude about it, im not like that. like i said she really is beautiful when shes dressed, thats why ive stuck around ..

chelchel, i highly doubt he'll go fulltime.. but i wish lol

[CORVETTEDUDE]

I say kick her/him (???) to the curb! Or classify yourself as gay. Nothing wrong with that but, you need to decide....Are you gay or, are you not? Let us know how it turns out for you.

[yodajazz]

I say kick her/him (???) to the curb! Or classify yourself as gay. Nothing wrong with that but, you need to decide....Are you gay or, are you not? Let us know how it turns out for you.

After sleeping on this, I think the OP is worried too much about labels, instead seaching for what makes them truly happy. So the question should be, "are you happy or not?" It even sounded like the OP wanted to be affectionate in public, but felt restrained, thinking about others opinions. It really should be about the person, and not some category. would the OP be happier with a fulltime ts, who was escorting, or streetwalking? I'm only a outsider giving advice myself. I don't have to live with the consequences. But there are a lot of people out there, who have regrets about someone they let get away, for reasons they thought were important at the time.

[alyssats]

for me i find true beauty and attraction if a person doesnt put make up and wigs and all those clothes

so better decide if youll still like her if she all goes natural without all those things

[bte]

If you are not attracted to men why are you with the person? Unless he plans on transitioning, I just say you are wasting your time. Why not try to date a TS or someone who really wants to transition? Seems like you are just in love with the illusion.

[zip84121]

After sleeping on this, I think the OP is worried too much about labels, instead seaching for what makes them truly happy. So the question should be, "are you happy or not?" It even sounded like the OP wanted to be affectionate in public, but felt restrained, thinking about others opinions. It really should be about the person, and not some category. would the OP be happier with a fulltime ts, who was escorting, or streetwalking? I'm only a outsider giving advice myself. I don't have to live with the consequences. But there are a lot of people out there, who have regrets about someone they let get away, for reasons they thought were important at the time.

well, i really dont classify myself as gay.. i have mostly dated gg's and a few ts's inbetween. im just attracted to the femininity of a woman(long hair, the way they smell and look in sexy outfits etc). not every ts thats fulltime will escort or do the things that go along with that, and im not the type of guy to date someone that does those things.. a hookup is a different story though.

for me i find true beauty and attraction if a person doesnt put make up and wigs and all those clothes

so better decide if youll still like her if she all goes natural without all those things

i understand what your saying, but im sure you used those things as you were transitioning. the way you look now is totally passable, with or without makeup, and if i was with you, it wouldnt bother me if you wanted to go natural all the time

If you are not attracted to men why are you with the person? Unless he plans on transitioning, I just say you are wasting your time. Why not try to date a TS or someone who really wants to transition? Seems like you are just in love with the illusion.

i guess this is the best question.. i like them. i like hanging out with them, and i have a good time when we are together. i very well could be wasting my time, but i know what i like. he's only partially that, but rtight now im going to just take it as it goes and see what happens. i just moved to a new area from a big city where it wasnt too much of a problem finding someone that wanted to be fulltime or transition.. but here its less populated and i dont see myself finding a girl in that category. i wouldnt even know where to look..

[DL_NL]

Don't worry about the 'am I gay' problem, just ask her if she intends to go full time and decide if you can live with the outcome.

[alyssats]

i understand what your saying, but im sure you used those things as you were transitioning. the way you look now is totally passable, with or without makeup, and if i was with you, it wouldnt bother me if you wanted to go natural all the time

sorry to inform you but i even use more make up now compared when i was starting to transition. i started transitioning when i was 4 or 5 years old and i dont even wear any make up at that time. when i was in high school i only used loose powder

[MrF]

I hesitate to give relationship advice because I don't know you, nor do I know all the parameters.

But it seems to me you've got to be comfortable going out in public with your CD friend in his natural state if you plan to stay with him for a long time. You've only been dating a month and there are plenty of fish in the sea. He's presumably attractive, so he'll find someone new on the rebound, and probably soon get over it. On the other hand, if you really like him then you might try a little longer to make it work and see if you can change. The main thing is to keep communicating with him about your feelings.

[Caff_Racer]

For what it's worth, I found myself in a similar situation (meeting a passable "part-time" CD) some years ago. After much thought I stayed with the person and had a relationship, which unfortunately ended some months later for a rather trivial reason...