How do you deal with stalker?

[steviedresses]

If you get a gun. Practice, practice, practice.... A lot. All the time. A gun does no good if it is not a part of you. It needs to be a extension of your very being. If you get a gun and shoot twice a year you are almost guaranteed to 'freeze' when the time comes.

A friend of mine is a competitive shooter. They simulate real world situations where they go threw a target area and have to shoot 'bad' guys and save the good guys. He said he shot every week for about three years.

Self defense classes are crap, unless you practice, practice, practice. A lot, for a long time. If your going to learn to fight, take a martial art, and make sure you actually fight. Put on the gear and FIGHT!

If the fucker ever breaks into your house... shoot the fucker. Too kill. Do not hesitate. For some stalkers it's just a game to fuck with you. Others are truly fucked up and the end game is to kill you. Always assume the fucker wants to kill you.

I hate to say this but the best defense is a good offense. So if you can find out who the fucker is... get a couple of 'bears' to fuck him up some... and let him know that you know who he is. Many stalkers are actually cowards, that's why the fuck with people behind their backs.

I hate fucking stalkers.

[yodajazz]

I'm not here to tell you what to do. That is, with the exception of telling you to think deeply about what is best to you. I think gun ownership is over sold as a solution to protection vs the risks self harm, accidents, and misused by others of your own weapon. I am not trans, but I know that most do feel depressive feelings at one time or the other, due to the negative perceptions of others, discrimination, as well as other reasons. Statistics show that more people commit suicide with the weapons they own, than are called on to defend themselves with it. I don't need to know, but ask yourself, have you ever had feelings that things are hopeless, even for a minute? How have you handled relationship break-ups in the past? All it takes is 1-2 minutes for gun owners to be able to follow through, with a suicide impulse. Do you have children who come to your home?

I have had some mental health education. Putting myself in place of a stalker, it would seem to me that one would prefer close contact, if they want to attempt harm. If so, pepper spray, or a knife could be very effective. Consider this, a person sending threats, may not attempt to follow through. Their kick is feeling powerful, by making someone else feel fear. I am not saying not to do anything. I'm only saying consider your options deeply. Professional law enforcement could give you greater insight. I wish you the best, and support whatever decision you make. Good luck!

Statistics: US 2009 suicides 36,909, murders 13,606. Of the homicides 71% were with guns.

[johnlinzer]

If you're not suicidal, firearms are best. There's some crazy fuckers out there.

[Captain Ahab]

You might want to read through these two AMAs (Ask Me Anything) done on Reddit from a woman who had a cyberstalker, how she dealt with, and eventually caught her.

AMA #1 I got my anonymous cyberstalker of 1.5 years arrested for harassing me and threatening to shoot up the college where I teach. AMA!

AMA #2 UPDATE: I got my anonymous cyberstalker of 1.5 years arrested for harassing me and threatening to shoot up the college where I teach. AMA!

[kittyKaiti]

Statistics: US 2009 suicides 36,909, murders 13,606. Of the homicides 71% were with guns.

And 80% of the gun homicides were gangbangers killing gangbangers in the ghetto.

>Momentary instances of depression vs. suicidal behavior.

I have been depressed over events that took place in my life. I have cried. All the time with a gun on my hip. I never once thought of using it. Being sad over something is not the same as a person with a serious psychotic issue.

Statistics show that more people commit suicide with the weapons they own, than are called on to defend themselves with it.

False. Approximately 19,000 people kill themselves with firearms. Firearms are also attributed to being used to some degree in acts of self defense an estimated 2 million times annually. Self defense with a gun can range from brandishing it to scare off an attacker all the way up to shooting and killing an attacker.

Statistics also show that the presence of a firearm during the right time and right place (private ownership and or concealed carry) saves 350,000 lives annually (where victims feared imminent harm would come had the attacker not been stopped).

[giovanni_hotel]

Statistics also show that the presence of a firearm during the right time and right place (private ownership and or concealed carry) saves 350,000 lives annually (where victims feared imminent harm would come had the attacker not been stopped).

There's no CDC or FBI stat for this, Kitti.

Where'd you get this from, the NRA???

[nysprod]

Folks, G lives in NYC, she won't be getting a carry permit for something concealable any time soon...

[Michelle Firestone]

call up guido & tell him somebody wants to be shorter

why did so many ppl downvote that? I'm joking but serious too. Escorting w/o people who can watch out for you is fucking bad. If G doesn't have anyone, she needs a dog. And if she can't have a dog in NYC apt, she needs to tell her neighbors/landlord that someone has been harassing/stalking/threatening her and ask them to keep their eyes open for anyone suspicious. You always gotta have people watching out for you.

[giovanni_hotel]

If the stalker is escorting related, that's different.
Is this person showing up where she lives unannounced??

A lot of women I know have either mace or a small taser in hand when they're out alone at night. Don't know the legality of a taser in NYC.

I'm really out of my depth on how escorts deal with problem clients.

[Dino Velvet]

I like the idea of a dog too. A dog that's protective can be an asset but one that's aggressive can be a liability. Research what breed is best for you and take an active part in the training. I had Akitas and used to work until 3AM. I knew when I came from work there would never be a problem. My girlfriend didn't even bother to lock the door. They were great dogs who also didn't bark excessively aggravating the other apartment people.

I had a girlfriend before her who went to USC which isn't located in the best part of town. I suggested she get a .38 Special. What I learned is that a gun is useless in the hands of someone not willing to defend themselves with it. The phone was the best solution for her. If a gun is your best option then choose that but remember your life changes forever too after you pull the trigger.

Who is crazy enough to challenge that?