Is anyone else frustrated with transsexual attraction?

[Ciffer]

Personally I never cared which box I landed in. I enjoy TG over Cis G, that's my preference! I'm very comfortable with my sexuality and can really care less what anyone else, including my family thinks of my beliefs. Sometimes I enjoy being bottom as well as top however I don't consider myself a gay male but if others do, so what, who gives a crap.

So I am definitely not confused, frustrated, or disoriented in any way. Life is way too short to get caught up in worrying about what society thinks. They can think and I will just keep doing.

Of note; I have only been on HA since Dec 2013 and this is the second time this topic surfaced. Hope these responses help with your frustration.

[livepersona]

Hi guys,

I've enjoyed this forum for some time, but this is my first post. I apologize if this topic has already been covered in another thread.

I'm interested to know if anyone else is frustrated by their attraction to transsexuals. I am more attracted to trans women than I am to any other kind of person - male or female. Because of this, I feel like the only outlets available for my sexuality are porn and escorts. It's frustrating, and sometimes I wish I were just gay because homosexuality has received such mainstream acceptance. The problem is - I know that I'm not gay. I am not attracted to anything on a man other than his penis.

Brad Pitt on the cover of GQ does nothing for me, while Jessica Alba on the cover of Vogue does something for me, but not that much. But a transsexual porn star like Honey Foxxx? Good lord, I'm overwhelmed with sexual attraction.

What's more frustrating is that despite how allegedly open-minded everyone is today about sexuality, the rest of the world - even so-called "allies" - insists on forcing people into one of two boxes - straight or gay. Unfortunately, I don't really think I fit either category. I have a girlfriend and I love her, and I actually very much enjoy sex with her - I'm ravenous when I'm physically with her. But I don't fantasize about her when she's not around. The image of her or any other woman naked, does nothing for me in the abstract.

Anyway - I just wanted to see if anyone else here felt the same way. I'm not ashamed of my attraction, it's way more complicated than that. I just want to try and find someone to talk to who can empathize, or who will at least try to understand me.

Thanks,

jer

Have you been with a Tgirl or is this only a fantasy?

[dderek123]

Have you been with a Tgirl or is this only a fantasy?

This reminds me of Bohemian Rhapsody.

[$$$Bill]

This reminds me of Bohemian Rhapsody.

Lmao

[livepersona]

RallyCola - I'm not sure what prompted your aggressive response. I have never been with an escort - it just seems like the only real life option available to me because I live in a small town that lacks a transsexual scene. Furthermore, I have no idea if I'm interested in a transsexual as a mate. How could I know if I've never even met a transwoman? And finally, I have a lot at stake - a career, a girlfriend, family and friends. I know that's not unique to my situation - every transwoman who made the transition also had to deal with those challenges.

However, I'm still trying to figure out whether satisfying an intense sexual urge is worth throwing away the wonderful things that I already have. Thus, I don't appreciate your assumption that my hesitation comes from a lack of courage. I hesitate because I don't fully understand a part of myself, and I hoped other posters could offer some insight.

Ok, so here's what I would recommend. Do some research and find the nearest big city or take a vacation to the West Coast. If you're really up for it go to Mexico or Brazil. Bring condoms, be safe and try it out.

-Your career will still be there unless you film it
- Family, well that depends on what they know. Same for your friends
- Do it now before you're married and it really becomes an issue
- Once you try it and like it then. Well it's pretty fucking hot
- After you try it you're officially a homo (just kidding)

In all seriousness just take some time and think about it. If you desire it enough you will seek it out. If not, then it was just a fantasy.

Did I mention it is crazy hot?

[Odelay]

Basically, get over your issues and sort out your sexuality or internal crisis... get on with your life....and THEN try to find a trans person.

Yup. I can't imagine better advice.

[dderek123]

This reminds me of Bohemian Rhapsody.

Lmao

I've re worded part of the song.

Translady Rhapsody

Have you been with a Tgirl?
Is this just fantasy?
A confused sex life,
No escape from reality.

Open your eyes,
Look up craigslist and see,
I'm just a poor chaser, I need no sympathy,
Because I'm easy cum, easy blow,
Little bit gay, little bit straight,
Anyway my sexuality goes doesn't really matter to me, to me.

Donna, you were born a man,
Put a wig on top your head,
Pulled out my weiner, now it's red.
Donna, the camshow has just begun,
And now I've bought some tokens to tip you all day.

Donna, ooh,
I want to see to your little guy,
If it’s not hard I won’t tip much at all,
But carry on, carry on as if my sexuality really matters.

....




I'll finish the rest some other time when I feel more inspired.

[RallyCola]

no aggression at all. clearly you are very sensitive.

i stand behind what i said which also was echoed by rabbit eyes...you have things you need to work through simply because you are frustrated with your own situation and are in conflict with your own desires. that is neither a unique or insurmountable situation to manage. get over yourself and get out of your own way dude.

[sukumvit boy]

"after you try it you're officially a homo" Good one!

[trish]

I have a girlfriend and I love her, and I actually very much enjoy sex with her - I'm ravenous when I'm physically with her. But I don't fantasize about her when she's not around. The image of her or any other woman naked, does nothing for me in the abstract.

We don’t live in the abstract. We live beneath the rainbow. That’s why we have to look up to see it. If you can’t be with the one you love, honey...love the one you’re with. Gotta love the one you’re with. ... Dah dit, dah dit, dah dit, dadada. Dah dit, dah dit, dah dit, dit.