Is anyone else frustrated with transsexual attraction?

[nysprod]

well, cant deny that there are also a lot of gays and sissy boys who are interested in tgirls.

as long as these girls have a dick, they will always be part of the gay scene

Gay men and sissy boys have zero interest in tgirls.

[Tina Francis]

I think the OP has the same nature as most of the posters on here. Most, if not all, would never consider sex with another man, but enjoy it with tgirls. Many, i'm sure, would never bottom for one the girls. The 'am I gay' thing has been beaten to death on this forum and should be put to bed. As for your frustration, Jer, just try to get happy in your own skin; I know I have. Take a look at my avatar; Kay O' Hara...I never really wanted to BE Kay, but I would love to look like her!

[Jackal]

It can be a bit frustrating and lonely in the sense that it can be so difficult to meet a trans woman to talk with, date, have a real relationship, etc. Also, not even easy to meet many for platonic friends or to know other guys who are also attracted to or primarily attracted to trans women. I care a lot less about it being socially accepted or not but rather how difficult it can be.

I've been wondering about just picking up Thai and moving there for some time.

[RallyCola]

i do not agree with the OP's point regarding frustration because I'm attracted to transwomen. I feel no frustration at all. this is not a gay or straight debate and it is irrelevant whether or not strict homosexuality is socially more acceptable than it ever has been in the past. At issue is how you choose to define yourself and what norms you choose to follow. If you said you were frustrated because you can't find a transwoman to date, that would be one thing...that is just part of life because whether you want a woman (genetic or trans...doesn't matter) doesn't mean you can get a woman.

i submit that there are millions of men that would love to have a ggirl as a mate but can't find one and life a life of porn and escorts even though they are attracted to a standard issue woman.

moveover, i contend that if you were truly interested in a transwoman as a mate, and not a sexual object, you could do much more than use escorts and porn to feed your libido...you can go out to where these women are and try to impress one of them.

finally, frustration with what you like is really self-defeating. how can you be frustrated with something you choose to bring pleasure to your life. that is inherently a problem that you need to correct, regardless if that means bucking the norms you feel are placed upon you or just choosing to enjoy yourself regardless of what other's think.

i would just like the OP to step out of his box for a moment and think about the escorts he is with...or the porn stars he lusts after. These women did not like the hand that genetics dealt them so they have chosen a lifestyle of transition. don't you think you could muster a wee bit of that moxxy and own up to your sexual desires? if you were half the person a woman in transition has to be to cope with such stresses, i don't believe you would feel as frustrated as you do.

[saifan]

To answer the OP's question, no.

[jernonymous]

Wow this whole website is amazing. I think I've found some reading material for a while. Thanks for the responses, everyone.

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[jernonymous]

RallyCola - I'm not sure what prompted your aggressive response. I have never been with an escort - it just seems like the only real life option available to me because I live in a small town that lacks a transsexual scene. Furthermore, I have no idea if I'm interested in a transsexual as a mate. How could I know if I've never even met a transwoman? And finally, I have a lot at stake - a career, a girlfriend, family and friends. I know that's not unique to my situation - every transwoman who made the transition also had to deal with those challenges.

However, I'm still trying to figure out whether satisfying an intense sexual urge is worth throwing away the wonderful things that I already have. Thus, I don't appreciate your assumption that my hesitation comes from a lack of courage. I hesitate because I don't fully understand a part of myself, and I hoped other posters could offer some insight.

[newstinger1976]

I agree with Jer's posts. Back off, RallyCola. Or if you have something really meaningful to say, post the research and check your grammar. It means a lot.

[Vivian Dawn]

Gay men and sissy boys have zero interest in tgirls.

In my experience, gay men sometimes do, but a random straight dude is more likely to be into me than a random gay dude. Labels are just labels--they're just whatever box someone feels most comfortable stuffing themselves into.

[Rabbiteyes]

If you live in a bigger city - London. Manchester, New York, LA for example... then you can meet girls at clubs. You don't have to go down the porn or escort route. In smaller places it is harder. (like in Indiana, clearly)

Not really a lot of "mainstream" trans people hang out at clubs....

When I say mainstream, I mean the ones with a typical job and life. Accountant, programmer, artist, and so on. The ones who spend most of their day just working a normal job and socializing with every day people (going out to get food at a quiet restaurant instead of hanging out in trans clubs).

Because of this, I feel like the only outlets available for my sexuality are porn and escorts.

Why not date a trans person?

You know they are around right? All over?

Again, if you are looking for "in the scene" types of trans people....they are going to be more likely to be involved in sex work of some type.

Try looking "out of the scene". Okcupid...facebook... network and get involved in LGBT groups perhaps? ((Or at least get to know other lgbt people, trans people especially tend to know others in the area)).



See, this is part of the big problem....people assume trans people are just in the escort / porn world. When, actually, I know more trans mainstream professionals (game developers, hair stylists, actresses) than i do trans sex workers.

Oh, here is a tip for you. If you approach a mainstream professional in a crude way...they are going to blow you off (well, ignore or block you). Remember, these are people who are used to a bit more of a mainstream life... they have friends, they have jobs and coworkers, they have the respect of those around them, they go out anywhere they want and don't really have issues.... you actually have to impress them a bit (and have basic things like a good career and attraction going).

Some guys seem to think only the willingness to see a trans person should be enough to woo a trans person. Or they think that offering to be seen in public with a trans person is some type of amazing feat that deserves respect. It is kind of sad.

Basically, get over your issues and sort out your sexuality or internal crisis... get on with your life....and THEN try to find a trans person.