Men on dating ts women

[EvonRose]

Thats great...
Its not that i feel bad about myself...i love myself and my self worth i find in my soul...not my body...
Its just that i dont feel like a TS
My body and this whole situation will always be different from my feelings and desires...so then if i have to choose i see more advantage for me remaining pre-op....
I also talked to a lot of post op woman...and i am not under the impression that a lot of them are happy...i dont know...

Its a big step and im still too insecure for it

If your not happy with the dangling, maybe your a good candidate for the cutting... lol...

[EvonRose]

Yeah, I'm trying this "being nice" kick and it's not working. Anyways, you have a right to make your own reality, and I won't judge that. As long as you don't judge mine, deal?

Oh I never judge....

But your young like me and we tend to be very emotional trust me, I'm like the queen of emotional here on the forum. I argue a lot and talk shit.

But never use racist remark, because your so pretty for that kind of things, you don't want that. Be smart and classy and cheeky.. lol..

[KittyPride]

If your not happy with the dangling, maybe your a good candidate for the cutting... lol...

I know a very nice looking feminine TS that has been living like a woman for 15 years and she still doubt about getting srs or not lol...

I thought okay...im probably going to be like her...

I have doubt about a lot of things...
Srs i told myself ill do if i have nothing left to loose...still it might be the best thing to ever happen to me...

But how can you be sure?
What if something goes wrong pff

[BLKGSXR]

Oh I never judge....

But your young like me and we tend to be very emotional trust me, I'm like the queen of emotional here on the forum. I argue a lot and talk shit.

But never use racist remark, because your so pretty for that kind of things, you don't want that. Be smart and classy and cheeky.. lol..

Schawggin

[EvonRose]

I know a very nice looking feminine TS that has been living like a woman for 15 years and she still doubt about getting srs or not lol...

I thought okay...im probably going to be like her...

I have doubt about a lot of things...
Srs i told myself ill do if i have nothing left to loose...still it might be the best thing to ever happen to me...

But how can you be sure?
What if something goes wrong pff

What if everything goes perfect? Your so worried about it being imperfect you might miss out on a good life... What if one day your srs gets you a job, or an opportunity in life to make lots of money, the perfect husband?

Look at the miss universe, you think she would be able to compete if she had her penis? No but now she does and she can compete as a gg... Opportunities and happiness can come with it, you live once so jump off the clift.

[KittyPride]

Thats great...
Its not that i feel bad about myself...i love myself and my self worth i find in my soul...not my body...
Its just that i dont feel like a TS
My body and this whole situation will always be different from my feelings and desires...so then if i have to choose i see more advantage for me remaining pre-op....
I also talked to a lot of post op woman...and i am not under the impression that a lot of them are unhappy...i dont know...

Its a big step and im still too insecure for it

Shit my mistake...correction in bold...

Pff i need to sleep xxx byeee

[KittyPride]

What if everything goes perfect? Your so worried about it being imperfect you might miss out on a good life... What if one day your srs gets you a job, or an opportunity in life to make lots of money, the perfect husband?

Look at the miss universe, you think she would be able to compete if she had her penis? No but now she does and she can compete as a gg... Opportunities and happiness can come with it, you live once so jump off the clift.

I dont think srs will get me a job or husband...i can get that without srs too.
There are actually really some nice guys out there that treat you like woman despite your genitals...usually...they are 40plus though....but i love older men...i am 33...so im not the youngest anymore either...

That miss universe might be pretty to some...but i personally would feel fake after so much plastic surgery...ffs srs etc...

I dont think she is beautifull coz she is not natural looking

[Nicole Dupre]

Proportionately, yes. You have squatty legs, Ashley. What can I tell you? You lost some weight, it's true. But there are plenty of photos revealing your gut. So wear your bikini with your gay friends and have fun. But your thighs have a funny shape as well. Your proportions are just odd, if you must know. And if height has anything to do with anything, tell that to Sunny or Jennifer Paris. lol You think being 5 and half feet tall is necessarily fishy? lol That's laughable. I'm just under 6' tall. Elle McPherson is taller.

And if you don't appreciate tattoos, great. You're not very worldly or open to anything new. That's pretty obvious. And god knows you have no appreciation for Asians or Asian culture.

Snd SRS is a foreign concept to you it seems. Not to me. I've always wanted it. I will leave you behind in gay boy land and not think twice. lol

But let me tell you, you obviously do like reading what I say. That's for sure. But if you want to compare my life to yours, and it weighs heavily on your mind, you're not going to like the truth. In fact, some things are better left alone. lol But I can see what your story is, since we're going there. And it's an angry and sad one. Something obviously fell through with your family. Because last you told me Mimi was beating you up, no one in Chicago was your friend, and you were moving back to NY state to be with them. What happened? Something bad? I would never be your friend after all of your insanity and lies, but that sounded pretty real. But I guess it fell through. And all the back and forth and crying about Mimi, and now you're not friends. And I know you have your fallings out with Jasmine, but you have your business arrangement.

But you're just odd. Definitely not a satisfied person. I don't hate you, but you do ask give off a LOT of negativity. And you will attract it. I can see the cycle with you is a work in progress. lol

Oh, and you're right. I don't remember insisting that I was a girl when I was 2; my mother and grandmother do. lol And it's true. But Jasmine? How any TS who could do such a 180 of gender extremes, I don't know. The thing is, I know people who know the old Jasmine from Chicago. Wow. Creepy stories. lol But I wish nothing bad on her either. But that's one person I don't want in my life, just like you; creepy. lol But I had enough respect not to bring her up until now. But do you want me to? lol

But best of luck to you Ashley. I'll keep in mind you're on the edge of my every word. lol

[Nicole Dupre]

I'm not sure I'm getting SRS either. It's something I used to want badly. We'll see. But I have a feeling it will happen in about 2 years. I'm gonna start doing the psych testing by next fall, just to see.

[GrimFusion]

Is another reason it's hard to date trans-women because of the contempt many transsexual woman seem to have towards men?

Not really? I mean, are you equating contempt with mistrust? I'd imagine by the time dude's get familiar enough to date, any real sense of contempt for men would be gone. Contempt would make transwomen not want to date men in the first place. I'd say there's a genuine mistrust when anybody gets mistreated in relationship after relationship, and it simply becomes assumed that anybody new will resort to the same behaviors exhibited in past relationships. That's a problem dating anyone. It's a little more prolific in trans communities, but I'd figure that's mostly due to the kind of men who end up mistreating transwomen anyway. Vicious cycle shit, ya dig? Bitches like bad dudes, and all that other cliche crap.

I have never really understand the hate and how loosely the term "tranny chaser" is thrown about.

Artificial superiority complex? How else are you going to mentally separate from public misunderstanding? If you can't change someone's confused opinions and you can't walk away, it's way easier just to think you're better than them. Even though it sounds backward, it's more mature than endlessly bickering with dudes.

Also why the word shemale is such a sacrilege, besides it being a porn term. Some get mad, because of it having "male" in it. Well so does female = FE-MALE...

It's a porn term. It's like calling an escort a prostitute. It's practically the same thing, but it sounds more insulting. Sadly, half the dudes that refer to transwomen as shemales don't know it's insulting. The other half are purposefully goating. Tripping out on them is easier than determining which one is which and attempting to educate. Then again, this is a porn forum. Do we really need transwomen jumping from thread to thread and explaining why posts are insulting? Fuck that. Shit takes too much time.

Then you got the transsexuals who want this prince charming sort of man that has never been with a transsexual and would never ever want to be with another transsexual besides her or be attracted to another transsexual. It's like get a GRIP on reality...

Reality check. You've never felt like that? I figure you have and you matured past it by experience. Everybody has fantasies, even if they aren't necessarily sexual. Eventually most of the girls get it, so the issue works itself out.

Then a man is called a 'tranny chaser' due to the fact he has slept around with so many girls. Well girls men do the same with women...and if they dated one tgirl he may want to date another tgirl...

We're totally sluts. I'm such a slut, I've been sleeping with the same woman for the last five years. She calls it a serious relationship, but I'm just in it for the boring and predictable sex. lol. Dudes that aren't sluts still get called chasers. That's not the reason dudes get called chasers in the first place. Dudes that just want the dick are chasers. Dudes that can't be seen in public kissing other dudes but have a perma-woody for anything in a dress with a bulge... that's a chaser. Guys who run game like they're interested, but hit&quit, then move on... that's a chaser. Unfortunately, the same term ends up getting applied to just about any dude in any kind of non-favorable situation.

Or how insensitive transsexuals are to the men who are interested in them. It's like don't you remember what it was like to come out to your friends and family, the male has to deal with something similar who dates you. If you just gave the guy a chance he may not be such a bad guy after all. I just find transsexuals seem to demonize men.

Maybe, but what's the alternative? "We've been dating for four months, but it's totally okay that you haven't introduced me to anybody you know, honey". That's a bad sign. To any dude in a month-long relationship, hearing "You haven't introduced me to your mother yet!" is also a bad sign. Is that a valid generalization to make about the majority of transwomen? Fuck if I know, I just haven't heard of anything like that happening.

Do you think you would be more willing to date a transsexual woman if so many didn't have so many hang ups on men?

Or what is your perception...

I know this thread is going to cause a commotion and some hate...

But I think transsexuals have had their say on men on here 100 times over, so why not let the men INTELLECTUALLY (not disrespectfully) say theirs...

Just a few thoughts I had and a blog I want to write so it would be great to get some views from men.

It's tit for tat, and a little more tit than tat when tempers flare. People eventually realize they're being over-scrutinizing or biased and they mature. If they don't, they end up friendless and alone. Fuck'em.