Everbeen so stressed out that you are not even turned on by porn?

Ever been just so stressed out by life that
1) you are not even turned on by porn
and
2) when you do go out...you just lack the spark to flirt with women at the bars?

If so how did you ever get out of this funk?
I got my hormones tested...and for a guy who goes to the gym three days a week...holy hell my T levels were low....like 200....so i got on the injections regiment....but.....still.....

fuck...you cross 35 and all of a sudden your life can go to shit if you are out in the burbs....all your friends start having kids...no one wants to go out....your dating pool starts getting saggy skin around the arms and fuzz on their chin and still think they should be pulling 6 figure guys with flat guts and nice cars........and before you know it it's 11pm on a Saturday night and you are at home...doing work because no one is going out....and if they are...its with the wife and they will use you as the buffer for their arguments.

shit i can't be the only dick in this crack? anyone else kind of fucked like me?

yup.

After breakup with my ex who had borderline personality disorder

I loved her so much (still do truth be told) but she could not get past her demons and put me to hell and back

At the end i had a nervous breakdown and my dick died for like a month, no joke. Took a girl home after like 3 weeks to try take my mind of things and i was limp biscuit styles

Only way back from that level of stress is healthy living, and getting your life in balance

for me, clean eating, getting proper rest and a strict gym routine worked, but it's a hard thing.

Look into test freak or other test suppliments, maybe try horny goat weed, these things work, but even at 35 lifestyle changes should increase your test levels

Death of loved ones can kill the libido too.

Find something you enjoy doing non-sexual. Once you start feeling happy and content emotionally, your dingaling will find its purpose again.

And get OUT of the bar scene. Not saying don't go out, but find other venues and events besides hanging out at a bar. That entire scene isn't the best for your sex drive.

Being drugged up on cold medicine (due to a cold obviously) killed my libido as well one time. I happened to be at The Oxwood one Saturday when there were quite a few hot nubile babes there visiting. I STILL couldn't get it up. It actually took me about four days to get a quality hard on...and when I did finally get it I had a lot of pent up energy to expel (and I did).

Stress from worrying about other things in life also can kill the boner. Fortunately for me that doesn't happen too often. I can still pop wood easily. I'm hitting 40 next year so that may change gradually.

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Originally Posted by SXFX

fuck...you cross 35 and all of a sudden your life can go to shit if you are out in the burbs....all your friends start having kids...no one wants to go out....your dating pool starts getting saggy skin around the arms and fuzz on their chin and still think they should be pulling 6 figure guys with flat guts and nice cars........and before you know it it's 11pm on a Saturday night and you are at home...doing work because no one is going out....and if they are...its with the wife and they will use you as the buffer for their arguments.

shit i can't be the only dick in this crack? anyone else kind of fucked like me?

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Being over 35 myself,
I've found that the dating pool has exponentially increased for me...The "games" played during the 20s are over. The women are more aggressive and often make the first moves...

stress is the number 1 thing that kills boners - that's true. whenever a male performer fails in a scene, I can usually tell that it's because he is stressed out about money, girls, or both.

Coke and/or alcohol occasionally, but fortunately those are the only things that have ever interfered with my sex life.

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Originally Posted by MrFanti

Being over 35 myself,
I've found that the dating pool has exponentially increased for me...The "games" played during the 20s are over. The women are more aggressive and often make the first moves...

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yeah i think i fucked up something special.....i'm living in the burbs of NJ....about 40/50 miles out from the tunnel/bridge....and what i have out here is what PA threw up! went on a date with this one girl.....holy fuck she said she was 30 but the skin on her face look 65+ the women out here smoke and drink hard...and tan deep so the resulting product is just.......wow.....and add to it that NJ is a blue collar state and we have about 1.5 guys for every 1 girl more or less....so that adds to the stress.....

And then all of my fucking friends are either married or married with kids and though i fucking love them to death....ever been a single guy who got invited out to dinner or drinks with your married friends and they are fighting....holy fuck.....i mean shit here i am working 12 hour a fucking day at my job as the lead and i just want to get out and flirt and wingmen are nonexistent and what i have are these two fine friends......who are angry at each other because...she's not giving him enough head and he forgot to put away the spoons.....

Fuuuuuucccckkkkkk!

I hit the gym three days a week for an hour and a half of weights, i try to eat well if i had an apatite, i don't drink more than a beer or three a week......and still....fuck....

it was funny as hell i went to the endocrinologist to get my hormones tested out thinking the situational stress was somewhat hormonal...he had to test my blood twice to get any readings.....then looks at me, i'm in good shape 5'7" 200lbs and i bench 200 and i can squat 300 and i rock climb and i skydive and i ski and use to ride a sport bike and the Dr says....how do you do it...you have the testosterone levels of a 70yo man! And i'm like dude...i have to do "it" or i would die of a heart attack.....


Fuckkkkkkkk......so...sorry to bring everyone down from the plethora of tits and asses....but how do you pull out when you social network is shrinking, your work load is expanding and your dating pool is shallow......

what new hobbies did you pick up to meet new folks so you didn't feel like such an alien?
I mean other than the usual hobby of hookers and blow! =)

More times than I can remember, mostly from dealing with people whose laziness or incompetence piss me off or just plain assholes who drive me nuts when trying to get shit done, whether it's shippers, receivers, DOT, brokers, etc. it's a bit hard to get myself relaxed sometimes after the end of the day enough to view a bit of porn and get a quick wank out of the way.

Even pornstars get the blues.

~BB~

Yeah stress, anger, and anxiety definitely kills it for me, and it really sucks. You try not to think about whatever is stressing you out, but then (for me anyway) it just makes me think about it. And forcing a boner is like trying to will myself to sleep, I just can't do it. So I've got to try deep breathing, maybe do something that makes me laugh, and sometimes that helps.

Losing 12 pounds helped my libido big time.

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Originally Posted by SXFX

yeah i think i fucked up something special.....i'm living in the burbs of NJ....about 40/50 miles out from the tunnel/bridge....and what i have out here is what PA threw up! went on a date with this one girl.....holy fuck she said she was 30 but the skin on her face look 65+ the women out here smoke and drink hard...and tan deep so the resulting product is just.......wow.....and add to it that NJ is a blue collar state and we have about 1.5 guys for every 1 girl more or less....so that adds to the stress.....

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Jazz clubs & outdoor concerts (summer) are great place to meet over 35+ women whom have dumped the mind games of the 20s. Heck, I met at interesting lady about a year ago at an outdoor coffee event (had a live jazz band though) :cool:

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Originally Posted by svin_renigoth

Yeah stress, anger, and anxiety definitely kills it for me, and it really sucks. You try not to think about whatever is stressing you out, but then (for me anyway) it just makes me think about it. And forcing a boner is like trying to will myself to sleep, I just can't do it. So I've got to try deep breathing, maybe do something that makes me laugh, and sometimes that helps.

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i hear you.....i'm about to cross 40....and shit i look better than i did when i was 30....stronger......smarter....better paid......in better shape....but freaked the fuck out that i'm going to cross 40...and be one of those single guys....you know the one...all his friends are married or married with kids...and there he is in his sports car....fuck i already drive a BMW so i'm almost there i guess? Scares the shit out of me!

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Originally Posted by SXFX

...fuck i already drive a BMW so i'm almost there i guess? Scares the shit out of me!

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Mercedes here...:cool:
Off topic,...last time I had my car at the dealer, I was looking at the un-affordable Maybach. One of the guys that I was talking with said he drove a BMW...so I told him "that's blasphemy!"

But then he said he used to work at BMW before Mercedes....:wink:

Anyways....the only advice that I can tell you is to don't sweat the small shit....

No i just have a little 135...little BMW for little life...makes my cock look bigger =)

I know a guy who uses that Tinder app where the girls are shockingly upfront about sex and whatnot.
They people use each other, often meeting only once, then block their profiles to prevent further contact - depressing...

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Originally Posted by SXFX

No i just have a little 135...little BMW for little life...makes my cock look bigger =)

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IMHO,
135i is actually a pretty nice ride - congrats! :cool:

Yeah well...fuck...another dumb ass friend is getting married and another one is having kids....really....really really? WTF! Assholes buy jet skies! WTF are you having kids for!

I hear you bud. I had a ten year streak of going out to clubs and trying to date mentally challenged women who wrecked me emotionally. It burned me out. Add on top a good friend borrowing a pile of money then come find out he's an addict who lost his job and car. Then breaks into my house couple times. Then when he gets arrested and I'm about ready to sue him for money, he ends up stroking out and dies while on bail. That stress definitely destroys libido and caused some other permanent health issues. All the rest of friends are married to with kids in high school. I past 40 a couple years ago. But it's not the end of the world. I've started some new things lately.