Conflicted about liking trannies

I'm a conflicted dude. On one hand i'm ok with it, but on the other hand I'm not. I still like genetic chicks, but i also like trannie chicks. Sometimes I'm more into trannie chicks than genetic chicks. But a dude got too much on his plate. I have a 2 year old son (that's basically the only thing keepin me alive and out of trouble) and i fear likin trannies is gonna make him turn against me one day. It jus seems wrong to me because i'm livin a lie and keepin this part of me from everyone out of fear of rejection from my fam and boys. Where I'm from i don't feel comfortable proclaiming my love for trannies because i also feel it's ruin my chances with the ladies (because a dude still like pussy too) and i don't wanna be seen as a faggot because lets keep it real, nobody understands men who like trannies and labels them as gay regardless and this is somethin i'm not comfortable wit at all. Maybe i should jus like trannies from afar and never attempt to actually be wit one...It's jus too much added stress smh

Your son really should have no clue that his pop is sexual in the first place, forget about TGs/GGs.

I look at it like this, it's no one's business who you like/don't like. If at some point you were in a steady situation with a tgirl, you have to decide how you'd handle that, otherwise IMO it's best to keep your private life PRIVATE.

FOr what it's worth, there are hundreds of guys, if not thousands, who have gone or are going through the same personal conflicts when it comes to their attraction to transwomen.

GGs don't go around announcing they've been in previous relationships with women when they start dating a man. If it doesn't affect your current situation, there's no point in bringing it up. It's like telling a female how many people you've slept with; if it more than 10, it's best IMO to keep it quiet.

If it's too disruptive to your current lifestyle, maybe it's best to lust after them from afar, but if I were you I'd try to find a better balance.

It would be like me denying my attraction to GGs - denying my lust for TGs; at some point not admitting it and acting on it would drive me crazy.

On the other hand, if the whole TG thing is a minor fetish/curiosity for you, no need to take the plunge and keep it on the straight and narrow.


I'm at the point that theoretically, if I met the 'right' transgendered woman, I'd be willing to put it all out there and not think about the pussy I was missing. I mean, when I'm in a LTR with a GG, I don't really get caught up in the other GGs I could be fuccing.

BTW, most TGs are more than willing to let you keep you 'man' card, it's other GGs and str8 dudes who pull that faggot crap.

Yeah ur conflicted were not supposed to like this. W got turned out. This stuff is like a fetish so use sum self control and get out before it becomes an addiction boi.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

But a dude got too much on his plate.

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I was thinking about this the other day, and that's really what it comes down to. As for everything else, it's strange that you're so conflicted when you haven't even been with a tgirl.

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Originally Posted by giovanni_hotel

Your son really should have no clue that his pop is sexual in the first place, forget about TGs/GGs.

I look at it like this, it's no one's business who you like/don't like. If at some point you were in a steady situation with a tgirl, you have to decide how you'd handle that, otherwise IMO it's best to keep your private life PRIVATE.

FOr what it's worth, there are hundreds of guys, if not thousands, who have gone or are going through the same personal conflicts when it comes to their attraction to transwomen.

GGs don't go around announcing they've been in previous relationships with women when they start dating a man. If it doesn't affect your current situation, there's no point in bringing it up. It's like telling a female how many people you've slept with; if it more than 10, it's best IMO to keep it quiet.

If it's too disruptive to your current lifestyle, maybe it's best to lust after them from afar, but if I were you I'd try to find a better balance.

It would be like me denying my attraction to GGs - denying my lust for TGs; at some point not admitting it and acting on it would drive me crazy.

On the other hand, if the whole TG thing is a minor fetish/curiosity for you, no need to take the plunge and keep it on the straight and narrow.


I'm at the point that theoretically, if I met the 'right' transgendered woman, I'd be willing to put it all out there and not think about the pussy I was missing. I mean, when I'm in a LTR with a GG, I don't really get caught up in the other GGs I could be fuccing.

BTW, most TGs are more than willing to let you keep you 'man' card, it's other GGs and str8 dudes who pull that faggot crap.

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but it's like damn how do i let this lil dude know i like trannies when he gets older? i see him now and i can already tell dude is gonna be a wiseass and gonna be jus like me in certain aspects. he got a lot of my characteristics already. and my thing is i'd never accept him likin a trannie or another dude and i know that's kinda hypocritical but that's jus the way it is wit me so i guess that's why i'm havin a hard time wit him tryin to accept me wit a trannie.

that's why likin trannies is probably better for dudes who jus wanna pay for some ass and bounce. but i don't believe i should have to pay only because i get get some fine ass real chicks for free, so why should i have to pay a trannie? naw i don't get down like that.

As for chicks already being wit another chick, shyt that aint even somethin to stress over. two chicks together is like the norm and you know dudes is into that especially if both chicks look like females. i know i wouldnt even give a shyt if a chick i was messin wit got down wit another chick. shyt, i'd join the bitch lol

but idk if i wanna be in a relationship wit a trannie only because ima get the urge for some pussy from time to time and a trannie can't provide that. for the most part i'm into trannies for the ass and the female form and all, not really into the dick so i'd probably get alone better wit a trannie who's gone all the way wit the surgery thing. but i guess after i'm done wantin kids because a nigga still want at least one more. idk...

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Originally Posted by Schimmel

I was thinking about this the other day, and that's really what it comes down to. As for everything else, it's strange that you're so conflicted when you haven't even been with a tgirl.

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because i cant fight the attraction. that's why i feel conflicted. i wish i wasn't attracted to them.

If you want to bone a tgirl,just do it.Like a previous poster said,they're a lot of bisexual females who will not disclose similar info,so.........FUCK IT the trannys I mean

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Originally Posted by Evil Jay

If you want to bone a tgirl,just do it.Like a previous poster said,they're a lot of bisexual females who will not disclose similar info,so.........FUCK IT the trannys I mean

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bwahahaha findin the right one has been a challenge my dude

Just call yourself a hedonist & quit worrying about it.

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IMO just be your son's pop, not his friend. Meaning give him advice and counsel when he asks questions, but he doesn't need to know EVERY detail about how you get down!!lol

About not being stressed that you girl is bi, well, I was in a LTR relationship with a female who told me six months in that her 'roommate' was in reality her EX-GIRLFRIEND. And it wasn't some chummy 3's company bullshit 'cause he ex still had feelings for her.
If it's just sex, who gives a fucc?? But if you LOVE a bitch, competing with a dyke for some pussy is not cool.
Can't tell you how many times me and that dyke bitch almost came to blows!!!

If liking TGs is not a normal extension of your overall lifestyle, I would act accordingly and keep that attraction at a distance.

And stop thinking your son has a right to know about anything that you don't decide to tell him!!

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

because i cant fight the attraction. that's why i feel conflicted. i wish i wasn't attracted to them.

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hmm, good answer. I recommend just not creating an issue out of it. You're making a big issue out of something that really isn't a big issue. It's only a big issue in your mind.

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Originally Posted by giovanni_hotel

If liking TGs is not a normal extension of your overall lifestyle, I would act accordingly and keep that attraction at a distance.

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Not even keep it at a distance, just keep it secret.

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Originally Posted by giovanni_hotel

And stop thinking your son has a right to know about anything that you don't decide to tell him!!

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Yes, exactly.

idk i jus feel bad about it. like i'm lettin my son down by not bein a good father because i'm attracted to trannies. i'm overprotective of him.

ive been with a guy for over a year now i know his whole family we did tell some of them im a ts some we didnt...i would never be with ne1 who could not walk with me in walmart lol them im not to clocked but my bf was with me before i had work done..i would only be with a man who knows what he wants and would be proud to be with me ne where!

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

idk i jus feel bad about it. like i'm lettin my son down by not bein a good father because i'm attracted to trannies. i'm overprotective of him.

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Its crzy how some ppl would nather have ppl think they killed some1 then to like trannys..If ur a good father ur son will love and respect u either way ppl are not born with hate in there hearts its learned make sure u teach him respect and everything should be fine...

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Originally Posted by SunshyneMonroe

ive been with a guy for over a year now i know his whole family we did tell some of them im a ts some we didnt...i would never be with ne1 who could not walk with me in walmart lol them im not to clocked but my bf was with me before i had work done..i would only be with a man who knows what he wants and would be proud to be with me ne where!

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ditto girl.smh @ some of these replys

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Originally Posted by SunshyneMonroe

Its crzy how some ppl would nather have ppl think they killed some1 then to like trannys..If ur a good father ur son will love and respect u either way ppl are not born with hate in there hearts its learned make sure u teach him respect and everything should be fine...

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but his moms will try to start drama and tell him bullshyt and get him to turn on me because they gonna call me a faggot and shyt. smh

he only 2 anyway tho so ima try not to worry too much about it right now.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

but his moms will try to start drama and tell him bullshyt and get him to turn on me because they gonna call me a faggot and shyt. smh

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Like i said if ur in ur sons life and teach him different and show him ur just as much as a man as the next...by being there for him in everyway im sure who u lay with at nite will be the last thing on his mind...

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Originally Posted by amberskyi

ditto girl.smh @ some of these replys

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i know right then there mad cuz they have to pay?

Amber and Sunshyne, both of you have the 'looks' that go beyond a dude just wanting to sex you.
Hypothetically, if we had sex and I caught feelings and there was a possibility of a relationship, I would not be able to ignore those emotions. At that point a man has to know the full extent of his feeling for tgirls.

For some guys it's not that serious = no future in it, just sex.

For others, it's the same as being attracted to a GG. If everything is cool you simply go with it.

IMO most trans-attracted men just don't meet enough pretty, passable girls to make contemplating dating one a reality.

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Originally Posted by SunshyneMonroe

i know right then there mad cuz they have to pay?

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exactly.men and theyre insecurities.i tolerate it in clients but i dont know why they think we would but up with that dl stuff in our personal life

Hey brah,a secret is a secret and you said you wouldn't want him to follow your tranny path lol.Unless you get caught,THERE ISN'T A PROBLEM.

My mom knew my ex is a TS. I think she thinks I'm bi now. Oh well lol

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Originally Posted by giovanni_hotel

Amber and Sunshyne, both of you have the 'looks' that go beyond a dude just wanting to sex you.
Hypothetically, if we had sex and I caught feelings and there was a possibility of a relationship, I would not be able to ignore those emotions. At that point a man has to know the full extent of his feeling for tgirls.

For some guys it's not that serious = no future in it, just sex.

For others, it's the same as being attracted to a GG. If everything is cool you simply go with it.

IMO most trans-attracted men just don't meet enough pretty, passable girls to make contemplating dating one a reality.

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aww thanks hun.thats one of the sweetest compliments. your my new fav :D

but yea its just alittle upsetting to hear some of the things guys think of us, and these are the guys that are supposed to be in to ts girls.hard to feel more than one dimensional these days lol

I gotta a kid too and I feel ya on the not wanting him/her to grow to not love you and what you stand for. But you have a say in what they accept and what type of person they are.

I try to expose my daughter to a variety of people and things and she will occasionally say uncomfortable things. She has met some of my trans friends as well.

In the last month she has asked a person in a wheelchair why they don't walk, an Indian woman why she has a dot on her head and loudly asked me what happened to that woman's neck where the lady was in a brace. I used each of the incidents as a teaching moment and she seemed to understand and accept people are different.

Over the years I have discovered a great many things about my pops and my uncle (my best friend) and they were/are some wild mf's. Never will forget when a stripper hired for a bachelor party asked me was I related to my uncle....man was I proud.

Keep some things secret because not everything that is known needs to be told. Also use common sense with your ex as babes can be vindictive.

Last, remember HA ain't the real world, and neither is the world of escorts and porn stars. It's more like a xxx Disney Land but remember there are people out there in school, at work and living normal lives. HA can skew your perspective. Good advice and fun can be had here but this ain't really real.

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Originally Posted by ed_jaxon

I gotta a kid too and I feel ya on the not wanting him/her to grow to not love you and what you stand for. But you have a say in what they accept and what type of person they are.

I try to expose my daughter to a variety of people and things and she will occasionally say uncomfortable things. She has met some of my trans friends as well.

In the last month she has asked a person in a wheelchair why they don't walk, an Indian woman why she has a dot on her head and loudly asked me what happened to that woman's neck where the lady was in a brace. I used each of the incidents as a teaching moment and she seemed to understand and accept people are different.

Over the years I have discovered a great many things about my pops and my uncle (my best friend) and they were/are some wild mf's. Never will forget when a stripper hired for a bachelor party asked me was I related to my uncle....man was I proud.

Keep some things secret because not everything that is known needs to be told. Also use common sense with your ex as babes can be vindictive.

Last, remember HA ain't the real world, and neither is the world of escorts and porn stars. It's more like a xxx Disney Land but remember there are people out there in school, at work and living normal lives. HA can skew your perspective. Good advice and fun can be had here but this ain't really real.

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AMEN to That.

Do You! I discovered, my Step Father is attracted to TS, when i found his porn collection as a teen. Never looked at him any other way, thats the reason im attracted to TS, but i still never talk to him about that, and never felt the need to want to.

well i wasn't around for the first 1 and a half of my son's life, i was locked up. i wasnt there when he was born, i didnt see him walk for the first time or wasnt there for his first word. When i got to hold him for the first time he didn't even know who the fuck i was, it's taken a lil while but he knows who i am now....but i see alot of his personality already and he's very similar to when i was a young buck. he's a lil wise ass and has a temper but he's my lil man. i love him to death and i dont wanna lose him again. he hasn't gotten to that stage where he's curious about the world around him yet. which is a good thing, but when he does it's gonna be a challenge and i know i'm up for it.

Why don't you stop tying yourself up in knots by worrying about hyperthetical situations that may or may not happen. The more you worry about it, the more chance you have of getting a totally fucked head and a totally streesed out body. :( If you just live life as it comes and deal with situations as they arise, life should be easier. Also stop worrying about what other people think - it's nothing to do with them.

I say this and mean it, but maybe I'm lucky with my situation. The majority of my family, all my close friends and most of the people I work with know I like T-girls and nobody gives a damn. :)

Give him something to be proud of and admire and he will become just like you. Give him something to be ashamed of and more than likely he will still become just like you.

Do great things then challenge him to live up to your example. Being into transgendered babes doesn't change this.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

Maybe i should jus like trannies from afar and never attempt to actually be wit one...It's jus too much added stress smh

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It is your choice hun, it would be better for a ts that you did do that since DL dudes cause to many problems

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Originally Posted by giovanni_hotel

I look at it like this, it's no one's business who you like/don't like.

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Cosign

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Originally Posted by mac.B

This stuff is like a fetish so use sum self control and get out before it becomes an addiction boi.

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well then you are a trick if we are just a fetish

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Originally Posted by SunshyneMonroe

ive been with a guy for over a year now i know his whole family we did tell some of them im a ts some we didnt

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smh @ your tranny chaser husband girl poof!

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

but his moms will try to start drama and tell him bullshyt and get him to turn on me because they gonna call me a faggot and shyt. smh

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lol if she is passable then why would they need to know

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Originally Posted by giovanni_hotel

Amber and Sunshyne, both of you have the 'looks' that go beyond a dude just wanting to sex you.

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no such thing

If you are conflicted and a part of you feels being attracted to transsexual is wrong, then stick to genetic girls. There are a lot more options to choose from with genetic girls especially in the largest metropolis in the USA, New York City.

Maybe your liking of transsexuals is only meant to exist as a fantasy that you participate in by way of online forums, watching porn, and not meant to exit in the real world. Nothing wrong with just keeping it as your own personal fantasy.

This is why girls charge by the hour. You do all the work to have a relationship a guy and then because he can't handle the pressure he pulls the rug from under your feet.

I say, have sex with whomever you'd like but don't try to establish a relationship. As long as you're unsure about who you are and what you want....no good can come from that.

If you mislead someone into believing you want a relationship and then fold under pressure, its not fair to the lady you've misled. So for now have sex and do your thing but keep it sexual.

Another "am i gay" because i like transsexuals thread and as a added bonus will my kid think i'm gay as well :loser:

I feel bad for you kid because if he takes after you and that"no homo" environment he probably will reject you but if you a good father if wouldn't matter anyway.

TGlover, if you don't escort, why do you constantly feel entitled to speak for those girls that do???

And what world do you live in?? Having a relationship with a T for a 'str8 man', by definition, is DIFFICULT, initially.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

I'm a conflicted dude.

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Understandable, we've all been there.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

But a dude got too much on his plate.

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I'm conflicted on whether I am able to understand what you wrote! j/k (my written English isn't perfect either)

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

I have a 2 year old son (that's basically the only thing keepin me alive and out of trouble) and i fear likin trannies is gonna make him turn against me one day.

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Wow, well by the time he is old enough to understand I am hopeful that society will be more accepting of relationships with t-girls. It seems that TS are slowly becoming more common in the media these days compared to before. Once there is more awareness out there on the subject I am hopeful that people will understand more about it and be less fearful/hateful/intolerant towards us.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

It jus seems wrong to me because i'm livin a lie and keepin this part of me from everyone out of fear of rejection from my fam and boys.

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Yeah that sucks, no two ways about it. You're in a tight spot. But I think you should talk to someone about this face-to-face and get things off your chest. Try to pick someone who would be open minded and empathetic with your plight. You'll feel better like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. In my early twenties I went and saw a counselor at my university. It only took a half hour of back and forth for me to get a healthier perspective on my thoughts and motives.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

Where I'm from i don't feel comfortable proclaiming my love for trannies

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No need to advertise it. Lots of guys have relationships with TS that are on the down-low. It's a less than ideal but they can be fulfilling. But hey if two people love each other they can make anything work out. I live in Thailand which is way more tolerant than most places in the west when it comes to sexual relationships and people still date ladyboys in secret. I wouldn't know about the percentages on the matter though.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

because i also feel it's ruin my chances with the ladies (because a dude still like pussy too)

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A dude should consider making peace with the fact that dude is different from what is considered "normal" by society. Doing that would be better than living life with loads of secrets and skeletons in the closet. Living a lie can alienate you from your friends and loved ones. Things don't have to be so black and white. There are still lots of shades of grey in this matter.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

and i don't wanna be seen as a faggot because lets keep it real, nobody understands men who like trannies and labels them as gay regardless and this is somethin i'm not comfortable wit at all.

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Yeah general attitudes in the west towards the LGBT scene aren't so tolerant nor respectful. But, hopefully they will continue getting better with time.

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

Maybe i should jus like trannies from afar and never attempt to actually be wit one...It's jus too much added stress smh

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Yes it sounds like that is a good option for you for the time being. Once your kids are old enough to understand your choices with respect you could pursue things more openly. Along the way if you meet a TS and have a relationship on the down-low you could kick it up a notch once you are ready to be more "out" about things.
That way your kids will be fine. But, you need to realize that you can't go through your whole life trying to make others happy. Because, it is pretty much impossible to make everyone happy all at once. If/when you decide to pursue TS more openly and someone else doesn't like it forget about them. You would be pursuing your happiness and if someone else has a problem with that it would be a reflection on how shitty they are and not the other way around.

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Originally Posted by Legend

Another "am i gay" because i like transsexuals thread and as a added bonus will my kid think i'm gay as well :loser:

I feel bad for you kid because if he takes after you and that"no homo" environment he probably will reject you but if you a good father if would matter anyway.

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chile you are pressed.

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Originally Posted by dderek123

Understandable, we've all been there.

I'm conflicted on whether I am able to understand what you wrote! j/k (my written English isn't perfect either)

Wow, well by the time he is old enough to understand I am hopeful that society will be more accepting of relationships with t-girls. It seems that TS are slowly becoming more common in the media these days compared to before. Once there is more awareness out there on the subject I am hopeful that people will understand more about it and be less fearful/hateful/intolerant towards us.

Yeah that sucks, no two ways about it. You're in a tight spot. But I think you should talk to someone about this face-to-face and get things off your chest. Try to pick someone who would be open minded and empathetic with your plight.

No need to advertise it. Lots of guys have relationships with TS that are on the down-low. It's a little less than ideal but they can be fulfilling. I live in Thailand which is way more tolerant than most places in the west when it comes to sexual relationships and people still date ladyboys in secret. I wouldn't know about the percentages on the matter though.

A dude should consider making peace with the fact that dude is different from is considered "normal" by society. Doing that would be better than living life with loads of secrets and skeletons in the closet. Living a lie can alienate you from your friends and loved ones.

Yeah general attitudes in the west towards the LGBT scene aren't so tolerant nor respectful. But, hopefully they will continue getting better with time.

Yes it sounds like that is a good option for you for the time being. Once your kids are old enough to understand your choices with respect you could pursue things more openly. Along the way if you meet a TS and have a relationship on the down-low you could kick it up a notch once you are ready to be more "out" about things.
That way your kids will be fine. But, you need to realize that you can't go through your whole life trying to make others happy. Because, it is pretty much impossible to make everyone happy all at once. If/when you decide to pursue TS more openly and someone else doesn't like it forget about them. You would be pursuing your happiness and if someone else has a problem with that it would be a reflection on how shitty they are and not the other way around.

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dang that's alot to respond but i appreciate the time you took to reply. good lookin out

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Originally Posted by Legend

Another "am i gay" because i like transsexuals thread and as a added bonus will my kid think i'm gay as well :loser:

I feel bad for you kid because if he takes after you and that"no homo" environment he probably will reject you but if you a good father if would matter anyway.

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bwahahaha ... my godfather is gay and the dude practically raised me, but this don't mean i'm gay and isn't why i like trannies. i respect this dude for bein there when my real father never was. i want my son to appreciate him also, but he's not one of those fem faggoty type dudes. i understand if the trannie is passable then it makes it easier, but i'd always be worried about peeps finding out. Maybe i'm jus insecure...

If you do not want to like trannies then picture

all the bad stuff that goes

with liking them,the dangers,

the issues, the problems

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Originally Posted by FreddieGomez

because i cant fight the attraction. that's why i feel conflicted. i wish i wasn't attracted to them.

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