Transsexual boy at my work?
First of all, this is not a sexual thread, so please be serious with your answers:)
I work at a school with kids who is 6 years old, and there is this boy who I really wonder about wanting to be a girl.
He is only friends with girls, and only want to be with them. That's okay by me, but I reacted to something he did today. He took a curtain and threw around himself, and said: "I have a dress", and soon he wanted to use it as a skirt.
So what do people here think: Is he a transsexual, or at least going to be a CD when he's older. And should I tell his parents about my thougts? If he wants to be a girl, I think it is better to start now when he is a kid, because of the abuse many transsexual teenagers get?
I don't know his parents so well, just by saying "hello" when they pick up their son after school, so to tell them that their son maybe wants to be a girl is not exactly a thing i want to do...
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Originally Posted by tsadmirer83
kid who is 6 years old, and there is this boy who I really wonder about wanting to be a girl.
It happens once, it happens twice and it doesnt matter. Look at it for a year or two...
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Is he a transsexual
Maybe, but probably not.
[/quote]at least going to be a CD[/quote]
Are you an astronaut? I guess 1) not and 2) you wanted to be one when you were young
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If he wants to be a girl, I think it is better to start now when he is a kid
At age 6? Are you serious? There is this thing called puberty, THATs when the changed start and could be stopped. But not at age 6...
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so to tell them that their son maybe wants to be a girl is not exactly a thing i want to do...
1) Kids play and experiment. Its nothing serious.
2) Dont do it. If he behaves the same way in some years, maybe there is something.. (a BIG maybe)
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Originally Posted by tsadmirer83
So what do people here think: Is he a transsexual, or at least going to be a CD when he's older. And should I tell his parents about my thougts? If he wants to be a girl, I think it is better to start now when he is a kid, because of the abuse many transsexual teenagers get?
Yes he is a baby tg and you should inform his parents next time you see them. Let us know how things turn out.
Re: Transsexual boy at my work?
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Originally Posted by tsadmirer83
First of all, this is not a sexual thread, so please be serious with your answers:)
I work at a school with kids who is 6 years old, and there is this boy who I really wonder about wanting to be a girl.
He is only friends with girls, and only want to be with them. That's okay by me, but I reacted to something he did today. He took a curtain and threw around himself, and said: "I have a dress", and soon he wanted to use it as a skirt.
So what do people here think: Is he a transsexual, or at least going to be a CD when he's older. And should I tell his parents about my thougts? If he wants to be a girl, I think it is better to start now when he is a kid, because of the abuse many transsexual teenagers get?
I don't know his parents so well, just by saying "hello" when they pick up their son after school, so to tell them that their son maybe wants to be a girl is not exactly a thing i want to do...
tsadmirer83... Probably a 26 year old single male and trannychaser who now has a special interest in the transgender thoughts of a 6 year old boy.
You need to distance yourself from this immediately, creep. It is none of your business and you are not qualified to weigh in on it anyway.
What are you supposed to say when the parents ask you about the basis of your concerns? That he is friends with girls? That he pretended a curtain was a skirt? That you masturbate every night to pictures of chicks-with-dicks on a porn forum?
Fuck off you nosy weirdo and let a kid be a kid. No one needs the school janitor to help turn their son into the next Kim Petras.
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Wow- let's give the guy the benefit of the doubt and assume he's got good intentions at heart & isn't a pedophile.
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Originally Posted by tsadmirer83
I work at a school with kids who is 6 years old, and there is this boy who I really wonder about wanting to be a girl.
Unfortunately there is no good diagnostic scheme for transsexualism, and making a diagnosis is even harder when you're dealing with little kids. The way this is usually explained is, most (if not all) trans people showed signs when they were little, but not everyone who shows what could be construed as a "warning sign" at that age ends up being trans. Some little kids just like playing dress up, or playing with girls toys, or whatever else that might confuse people.
My brother when he was that age loved playing with girls toys, but it was just a 1-2 year phase, he out grew it- and that was all there ever were of "warning signs." Today he's just a typical guy, and IDK if he even remembers what he played with at ~5 years old. And for all I know he was only interested in what he playing with during that short time period because of what he saw me playing with.
So what do you do about it? The short & easy answer is nothing. If it is just a phase, the kid will stop it on its own after a while, so coercing the child to assimilate to gender roles would just unnecessarily cause the kid grief.
I'll use an example; when I was in kindergarten my teacher was so horrified at what toys I played with, and which classmates I was friends with, that she refused to let me have "play time" (which, as we all know- makes up most of the school day for kindergarteners). So what did she do? She made me sit alone, at a desk, doing additional school work. Eventually my mom found out about it, and the teacher was so militantly defensive in her idea of how she should be teaching that I ended up having to be bused to another district just to get the hell away from the crazy bitch. I ended up spending that grade in three different schools, the last of which was over an hour away which meant I had to wake up at 5am just to get on the bus the first district was paying to drive me, just me- to another district. Don't be that teacher! Stuff like that just makes kids targets for bullies, its rough on the kids, and it accomplishes nothing.
There's really not much that could be done, if the other kids start bullying him. The school should intervene as it should with any other bullying scenario. But, imho those types of anti-bullying measures are rarely successful, once bullies have labeled a kid as a target there is no way to completely stop it- kids are smart enough to know when to hurt another kid without getting caught, when to say something mean when no one can hear it, etc.
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And should I tell his parents about my thougts?
Telling the parents would be an emergency intervention measure- this should only be done if the situation merits it.
One of the "textbook" symptoms of transsexualism in kids is self injury, especially genital self injury. If the kid tries to give itself a smoothy using sharp objects- then that would be more then enough reason to set up a parent-teacher meeting to talk about it before the kid inflicts self harm. But this should really be a no brainer, if any kid comes out of a bathroom dripping blood everywhere they should be sent to the nurses office.
Prematurely running to the parents could be dangerous. If they're close minded religious zealouts you could be putting the kid in danger. The last thing you want is some bigoted parent going "Omg not my son!" and start thinking violence would "beat it out of him."
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I think it is better to start now when he is a kid, because of the abuse many transsexual teenagers get?
As far as medical treatments go the big issue is puberty which won't be for at least another ~6 years.
Even then, the medical establishments in the US really loathe the idea of doing anything to treat trans patients younger than 16. At most they'll put the kid in therapy, but it would be unrealistic to expect anything tangible beyond that. This isn't northern Europe where they'd be willing to try delaying puberty until the kid is in its late teens.
Even at 16, unless the case is 1- very severe, 2- has full support of the parents, nothing will be done about it in the United States using the medical establishments. The SoC allows treating patients starting at 16, but they just don't like to do it. And if the parents aren't 100% on board? Expect the kid to have to wait until 18 if doing things the SoC way.
Re: Transsexual boy at my work?
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Originally Posted by tsadmirer83
First of all, this is not a sexual thread, so please be serious with your answers:)
I work at a school with kids who is 6 years old, and there is this boy who I really wonder about wanting to be a girl.
He is only friends with girls, and only want to be with them. That's okay by me, but I reacted to something he did today. He took a curtain and threw around himself, and said: "I have a dress", and soon he wanted to use it as a skirt.
So what do people here think: Is he a transsexual, or at least going to be a CD when he's older. And should I tell his parents about my thougts? If he wants to be a girl, I think it is better to start now when he is a kid, because of the abuse many transsexual teenagers get?
I don't know his parents so well, just by saying "hello" when they pick up their son after school, so to tell them that their son maybe wants to be a girl is not exactly a thing i want to do...
"That's okay by me, but I reacted to something he did today."
You reacted?.... what, you got a boner and jerked off in the closet?
Re: Transsexual boy at my work?
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Originally Posted by tsadmirer83
First of all, this is not a sexual thread, so please be serious with your answers:)
I work at a school with kids who is 6 years old, and there is this boy who I really wonder about wanting to be a girl.
He is only friends with girls, and only want to be with them. That's okay by me, but I reacted to something he did today. He took a curtain and threw around himself, and said: "I have a dress", and soon he wanted to use it as a skirt.
So what do people here think: Is he a transsexual, or at least going to be a CD when he's older. And should I tell his parents about my thougts? If he wants to be a girl, I think it is better to start now when he is a kid, because of the abuse many transsexual teenagers get?
I don't know his parents so well, just by saying "hello" when they pick up their son after school, so to tell them that their son maybe wants to be a girl is not exactly a thing i want to do...
If you are not a teacher, then its just creepy. If you are a teacher, then its still not your business. I am sure that his parents probably notice that he is different. Also when did hanging out with girls become a sign of being a transsexual?
