Never given this much thought

I've never really given this much thought but I've met this guy at my work. He works as a trust attorney for the couple I work for (I take care of the woman who's suffered partial paralysis btw).

So anyways, It must have been a month and a half ago since I've met this guy (well we weren't exactly introduced. But he learned a way to get my name. Which I thought was cute). So going back, he was always been extra friendly to me. He is white (jewish?) but spoke (knew) some tagalog words and sentences. I asked how he learned the words and he said that he is married to a filipina. We've even talked about filipino dishes and which one's he likes etc. LOL

To cut the long story short..He left his calling cards at my desk. It must have been sitting there for a month and a half. And I really didn't give it much thoughts or meaning but today it just dawned on me that earlier when he came I caught him looking at me a few times while he was waiting on my patients husband to get back home from the bank. He again started talking to me in tagalog then giving me that sparkly smile, wink etc. Then just before he was leaving..he casually and loudly mentions to my patients husband that his wife is out of the country.

So my question is, do you think that he hitting on me? And what do you think I should do? Should I just ignore him? Go for it or what? LOL Everyone's input appreciated. ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

he is a lawyer so he is trying to screw you, one way or the other. LOL

meow

FK

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Originally Posted by Felicia Katt

he is a lawyer so he is trying to screw you, one way or the other. LOL

meow

FK

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Lmao :lol:

Girl, I dunno what to think or do! LOL I got the hots for guys in crispy dress shirts and slacks. :P He is really damn gorgeous. Great face, tall, got a lean body and..Hmm Let's just say I want to just kill my curiosity! LOL ;)

I mean, It's not like I'm trying to steal him from his wife right? :lol:

~Kisses.

HTG

never fuck around where you work..............
trust me on this
even if the party doesn't work with you
just not worth it IMO

Sound like he is hitting on you. I say give him a chance. He's married, but they might not be getting along, you never know. Anyway you could just be friends and occaisionly get some free lagal advice.

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Originally Posted by JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel

never fuck around where you work..............
trust me on this
even if the party doesn't work with you
just not worth it IMO

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I've been shrugging this off for awhile now. I even pretend I was busy doing things even if I wasn't doing anything really. Or go outside for a smoke to avoid further talking with him. LOL

But sometimes, those don't work much at all like what happened earlier today. LOL I feel like getting weak and near grabbing him (in my head)! Haha ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

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Originally Posted by yodajazz

Sound like he is hitting on you. I say give him a chance. He's married, but they might not be getting along, you never know. Anyway you could just be friends and occaisionly get some free lagal advice.

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LOL I like the sound of the last part! :lol: ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

I think Felicia and JWBL gave u all the advice you'll ever need on this one. Nothing wrong with being friends tho right? (so long as u can control yourselves)

I've no problems being friends with the guy really. ;) Though controlling ourselves is another thing. For the most part, I've been well behaved at work and have been ignoring his subtle advances. :P

~Kisses.

HTG

Sounds like a trannie chaser to me. May even be a closeted bi. One thing for sure: he desperately wants to pound your ass. My advice is go for it. You only live once and nothing ventured nothing gained.

I forgot: "the best way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it."

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Originally Posted by Hara_Juku Tgirl

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Originally Posted by JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel

never fuck around where you work..............
trust me on this
even if the party doesn't work with you
just not worth it IMO

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I've been shrugging this off for awhile now. I even pretend I was busy doing things even if I wasn't doing anything really. Or go outside for a smoke to avoid further talking with him. LOL

But sometimes, those don't work much at all like what happened earlier today. LOL I feel like getting weak and near grabbing him (in my head)! Haha ;)

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I dunno. The whole situation sounds like a lose-lose. He's married. You work with him. You haven't known him for a long time. You have your poor patient to care for who's probably thinking, "my son of a bitch lawyer is hitting on my caretaker!" I say it's better to be his friend first and foremost and if anything serious develops later on, then act on it at that time. Get the free legal advice :)

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Originally Posted by Hara_Juku Tgirl

I've never really given this much thought but I've met this guy at my work. He works as a trust attorney for the couple I work for
HTG

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Make him bottom for you first, so he knows who's boss

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Originally Posted by Felicia Katt

he is a lawyer so he is trying to screw you, one way or the other. LOL

meow

FK

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the problem with lawyers is that 99% of them are giving bad names to all the other lawyers........... :lol:

In his position as your employers attorney, does he have the ability to terminate your employment?

Do you enjoy your current employment situation?

What happens if you guys do hook up and it is not everything you or he had hoped for? Would the work situation change?

Regardless of your answer to my question and not an answer to yours, I believe he is walking the fine line of sexual harassment in the workplace.

Hara, not trying to be a downer here, just some food for thought.

And as a side note, attorneys have the highest rate of harassment complaints and typically settle early on.

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Originally Posted by Hara_Juku Tgirl

have been ignoring his subtle advances. :P

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Like your idea of subtle! :lol:

go for it..... better to regret something u have done etc.

Hara,
I'll go with Kalina's advice: I say it's better to be his friend first and foremost and if anything serious develops later on, then act on it at that time.
What's the hurry, (besides the fact that his wife is supposedly out of the country now). Take your time, tread lightly, and enjoy a nice long (maybe) flirtation. It will only make the experience more tittilating (sp) when and if it occurs.
Tease his ass off and enjoy the chase. You're worth it girl!! Stunning in my book.
Later babe.

And I know from previous discussions that you have a very level head on your lovely shoulders.

I have a standing rule with regard to relationships and work;

"Never, never shit in your own back yard!"

Well, I guess I'm going to have to sound the dissonant note here.

Hara, I would recommend that you NOT do anything sexual with the guy, because (1) he is still married and (2) one must be careful about doing anything with someone from work. If you and he did take the proverbial plunge and things didn't work out, you and he would still have to navigate your common relationship in a work environment. So 'tis better to let fantasies remain fantasies and still be able to respect one another.

Besides, ask yourself: do you REALLY want to hook up with and possibly get into a relationship with a guy whom you know does not take his marriage seriously? That already tells you how he might regard a relationship with you.

Ok, Hara - my bottom line is:
R U that desperate? There`s noone else around you?
C`mon...F him...to complicated.

Thanks for everyone who put forth their inputs. I appreciate all the advices. :P

I think I'll just wait it out a lot longer and just see if there's friendship at the very least in the offing. ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

First, I don't perceive this as a work situation so I think some of this cautious advice is misguided. It's a vendor-customer relationship, not an employee-employer one. Big difference. Harrassment issues can still apply but not in the same sense of 2 people working for the same company.

Second, I relate to the situation you outlined. I worked as the accountant/hrm guy in a small company that depended heavily on our attorneys. Our main attorney had a paralegal assistant who was very good looking. I worked with her on issues for our company from time to time. She was always very nice to me and we really hit it off in terms of our working relationship. After several months, I finally called her to see what her romantic situation was. Turns out she had a long-term boyfriend. But... the postscript to the story was that she was so happy that I called. She gave me the line that "all girls sit around and wait for the guy to call." She was truly flattered that I took the effort to call her.

Not exactly apples and apples here, but it gives you my perspective. Why not go for it and see where it goes.

P.S. Does he know you're a TS? If not, then definitely call him. It can be a nice little learning experience for him. :twisted:

Hmm..More wicked thoughts!! LOL I'm getting even more and more confused now. :lol:

~Kisses.

HTG

Hey, what's the postscript on this story?

Did you screw the Lawyer's brains out while his wife was away? 8)

I would say it probably is not a good idea to get involved with him for a few reasons.

1. He's married. That never makes things less complicated
2. If it doesn't work out it could make things uncomfortable and could affect you work
3. If he is not aware you are a TS that may be a problem as well.

But, if you decide to go for it I wish you the best of luck. Have fun.

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Originally Posted by Odelay

Hey, what's the postscript on this story?

Did you screw the Lawyer's brains out while his wife was away? 8)

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Nope! I have acted very lady like and well behaved at work. LOL ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

DO IT!!!

Hara, married men are a definite no for me.

And I really try to avoid on the job relationships.

from a guys point of view
it depends what you want.
if you want fun and dont have a conscience on behalf of his wife then go for it.
if you do then ignore him.
it would never work out and someone i think would get hurt.

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Originally Posted by bilko

from a guys point of view
it depends what you want.
if you want fun and dont have a conscience on behalf of his wife then go for it.
if you do then ignore him.
it would never work out and someone i think would get hurt.

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I already stated where I stand bilko.

Though, something at the back of my mind is bothering me: Note that this question isn't directed at the single guys who posted on this thread topic..It's aimed more at the guys with wives and long term girlfriends! LOL ;)

So here's my question for all you married men:

Is it acceptable for a married man (or men) to cheat on his (their) wife (wives/girlfriends) and hire escorts? But a single girl having a tryst with a married man is taboo? Hmm..Explain. LOL

Just a question. ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

Nope, I do not think that it is ok for a married man to go with an escort, unless he is ok with his wife doing the same (no not with a woman :D) I think that the cheating husband and the woman he cheats with are both in a weak moral position if she knows that he is married.