Originally Posted by
Faenon
I'm in a complicated situation right now, that I am trying my best to change. If I can do that I want to start a relationship with a pre-op/non op trans woman. I've eventually at the age of 53 grown up to be honest with myself that this is my "type" of woman. I'm not a total noob to the trans dating scene but one "relationship" no more than a handful of dates, makes me far from an expert.
I live in Calgary where there is literally zero trans community that I can find, there is next to no chance of me bumping into a transwoman in the supermarket or on our commute to work. It's basically the back end of nowhere and miles from other civilization.
So I thought that I should try looking on trans dating sites to see if I could meet someone. For the short term friendships and perhaps hook ups (although that's really not my thing) is what I'm after but if I can free myself from my situation I'm really looking for a long term relationship.
I've become very frustrated with what is out there in terms of trans dating sites and posting this here in the hope that someone can point me in the right direction. A lot of the sites seem re-skinned versions of the same one, the one promoted on this forum, is the same site with the same people as Adult friend finder, transdate, TSdates and probably many more. I've tried other sites like LGBT dating TSMatch and Butterfly but every single one of these sites have the same issue for me. To do anything of any note you have to sign up for their usually very expensive monthly plans. I can't do that in my situation ! I understand that this is how they make their money, but it's so very frustrating.
I've found two sites that I have enjoyed to a point but then become frustrated. Mytrangenderdate have a ton of very active girls on there with good filtering options, I'm very much attracted to petite Asian ladies so the fact that most of the girls are from the Philippians is fine for me. The familiar problem arose when you find a match, they send you a message and you are unable to send anything back, so it looks like you are ghosting them. I pissed off at least one girl here so decided to take my profile down, as I know how difficult it is in the community to find a partner and I didn't want to upset anyone. This was really disappointing because I got a really nice message from one girl who totally got me from my wordy and honest profile, was happy to start as friends, fit all my search criteria and was completely my type in appearance. I would have loved to be able to chat and strike up a friendship with her.
The other site was TGPersonals, which is probably everything I am looking for bar one major issue. On that site you can freely chat with each other, it advertises itself as 100% free, they obviously make their money through advertising and click throughs, I regularly use it to go to chaturbate to hopefully kick them back some money. Chaturbate is not my thing at all BTW, I only go on there in the hope of seeing Newivy :). The issue is, it seems completely dead ! There is an activity tracker and it shows so few people actually on the site. I found very few people in my area and those I tried to contact didn't respond mostly because they hadn't been on the site in months/years. I ended up taking my profile down there too because of this lack of activity.
Are trans dating sites purely just scams ? Do they really help people in my situation who want to meet trans women but can't do it in a more traditional manner ? In short am I just wasting my time looking for a utopia that doesn't exist ?
