Do you feel it's wrong?

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Originally Posted by pairodoxxx

As a heterosexual male it would be perfectly ok for you to post an ad as a woman. For a few different reasons, but most importantly because you feel, act and present yourself as a woman. If you are a woman at your very core. That is not what you are, but WHO you are.

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Smart guy :)

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

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Originally Posted by pairodoxxx

As a heterosexual male it would be perfectly ok for you to post an ad as a woman. For a few different reasons, but most importantly because you feel, act and present yourself as a woman. If you are a woman at your very core. That is not what you are, but WHO you are.

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Smart guy :)

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I could probably debate that.

Just older and learning that you treat everyone as an individual. No matter who they are.

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

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Oh and I'm not a "tranny chaser" by that definintion :) though, I do appreciate what a gurl has between her legs.

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But didn't you just say you dated a transexual?

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yes, but by your definition you made it sound as if the tranny chaser does not necessarily care about her as a person, just an object to .... or did I misunderstand?

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yeah and which case you did care about her no? If you decided to date her?

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Yeah, we dated for a long time and I still care for & about her.

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so why would you call yourself a tranny chaser?

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I said I am not a tranny chaser by your definition. I never said I was, I just didn't know what it meant. I like straight and ts porn, I enjoy dating genetic females as well as transsexual women. I think we understand each other. I like how women look and it doesn't really matter either way what she has between her legs, so long as she is pretty, feminine and smart - and if she shags like a minx, that a plus too...

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Originally Posted by specialk

From another perspective, look at it this way:

Your looking at profiles online, and you see the hottest guy, right age, lots of stuff in common. You get to talking online, it seems too good to be true. Soul mate stuff. After several days on the phone, when all is going great, the 2 of you get together for dinner. Dinner couldn't be better, so you invite him over for a drink. Things go great and you suggest a sleep over...he says "I'd love to but I'm married. with 3 kids.....How does that make you feel?......Do you wish you knew that he was married up front?

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SpecialK, I agree with you 100% and was even thinking of the
example you set forth. My time is finite, thus I would want both
parties to be upfront about any information that would possibly
effect a prospective relationship.

Even though I am post op, and could potentially get away with not
sharing that information, I feel that would be deceitful and starting
the relationship out on the wrong foot.

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Originally Posted by peggygee

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Originally Posted by specialk

From another perspective, look at it this way:

Your looking at profiles online, and you see the hottest guy, right age, lots of stuff in common. You get to talking online, it seems too good to be true. Soul mate stuff. After several days on the phone, when all is going great, the 2 of you get together for dinner. Dinner couldn't be better, so you invite him over for a drink. Things go great and you suggest a sleep over...he says "I'd love to but I'm married. with 3 kids.....How does that make you feel?......Do you wish you knew that he was married up front?

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SpecialK, I agree with you 100% and was even thinking of the
example you set forth. My time is finite, thus I would want both
parties to be upfront about any information that would possibly
effect a prospective relationship.

Even though I am post op, and could potentially get away with not
sharing that information, I feel that would be deceitful and starting
the relationship out on the wrong foot.

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Thanks Peggy. I think there may be a little confusion in this thread though.
I think Kelly meant to say ....is it OK to NOT post as a TS in an online profile. Obviously she would identify herself as a female for search reasons as Jen pointed out, then mention the TS part in the profile.

I was trying to get Kelly to see her question from another point of view, so she could maybe see the flipside of the coin if it happened to her.
Kelly's mention of not wanting to be viewed as a TS initially, just doesn't answer the question of right or wrong. It just says this is how I want handle it. I'm just trying to illustrate what it would be like to be on the receiving end of a little deception.

On Valas statement;

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I guess I can understand that. But personally, I feel it's a huge cop-out for a Tgirl to get SRS then deny any accounts of formerly being a TS anywhere, of course, this is a given in real life but on the net, not so much but it still happens.

Vala,

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I don't feel it is, she is a woman. Why should she say she is a transexual? She's a WOMAN. lol

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Like it or not a post op transexual is STILL a transexual, technically speaking. Know what I mean?

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Not to me and many other men I have spoken to. I am not talking about tranny chasers I'm talking about straight guys --- alot have said they would date me and be with me if I had had the change downstairs. But they couldn't fathom it while I still had it Vala. A lot of the men on here are just about the cock...no offense to them. I am talking real life situations or with your everyday straight guy. Not one with a fantasy to get freaky with a chick who has a penis.

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Weird. Those must be pretty desperate guys! lol! Most guys would still be put off even without the whole penis thing.

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Vala, by now I would have assumed that you would have understood
that the world of transsexuality does not revolve around
guys chasing t-girl cock, or seeing how many objects one can insert into
one's rectum.

As has been stated ad infinitum, ad nauseum, the gamut of transwomen
runs from the non op to the post op, with many stops on the continuum.

Contrary to the beliefs of the ill-informed the love life of a transwomen
does not cease by virtue of her having SRS.

Perhaps the tranny chasers will fall by the wayside, but the void is quickly
filled by those that are interested in her solely because of who she is
as an individual. Or by those that would experience angst bedding down
with someone who has a penis.

Thus there are many potential suitors both from the realm of those
that prefer transwomen and from men with a heterosexual predisposition.

Perhaps when you have been a transsexual a while longer,
you will find that this is neither weird nor are the parties involved
desperate.

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Originally Posted by specialk

Thanks Peggy. I think there may be a little confusion in this thread though.
I think Kelly meant to say ....is it OK to NOT post as a TS in an online profile. Obviously she would identify herself as a female for search reasons as Jen pointed out, then mention the TS part in the profile.

I was trying to get Kelly to see her question from another point of view, so she could maybe see the flipside of the coin if it happened to her.
Kelly's mention of not wanting to be viewed as a TS initially, just doesn't answer the question of right or wrong. It just says this is how I want handle it. I'm just trying to illustrate what it would be like to be on the receiving end of a little deception.

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I agree with Jens approach.

By all means I feel that it would be apropos to use a Female designation,
but I also feel that it would be prudent to mention a womens 'trans-status'
in her profile.

I really do not think that is right, and here is my reason.

MAYBE some guys won't care, and it will all work out, but like jenn said, you need to be up front and let them know the truth, because nothing will anger a straight man more than being 'tricked' into being gay...if you get my drift. And they may look at it that way.

Just by judging this forum, there are plenty of guys who want to be with a TS and do not consider themselves 'gay' as they are not attracted to men, so why not just stick with that??

I don't know if its a fantasy of your to 'tranny trick' them, but if you do some stuff like that...well, to say the least, its very risky. But you know all of this.

But I don't think its right, and I think it can lead to problems that aren't needed.

Tough to say. Obviously since I post here I wouldn't have a problem. But at the same time one can always feel like they were lied to.

It wouldn't bother me, but maybe just a little at first if the person wasn't totally honest with me. But if I liked her I would get over it.

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

So I am on a few "straight sites"...and I put my status as female. And I talk to the guys for awhile to let them get to know me, then if I want to meet them I tell them. It usually works out in my favor, but there's always that small percent that get mad. Do you think I am wrong for doing it this way? Should I tell them flat out?

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If it is just for friends, then no. If it is for dating and hooking up, Yes.

How would you handle it if you were with a guy you really liked and you get together only to find out it was a female that transitioned???

I ask this in a non judgemental, and personable tone.

I for one would want to know. Yet I admit if I did not know, and found out later................It would not stop me. That is how I got into T-girls in the first place. Fool me once shame on you.................Fool me twice, shame on me.

Just be yourself. if you have fun doing it, I guess it is harmless enough. You can certainly pass as GG and I am sure it is good for your confidence also.

PS

Your new photo is WAY stunning.