If you two were going to restaurants/clubs or whatever and were fuckbuddies, that's cool...but emotional involvement with a hooker is a disasterQuote:
Originally Posted by MagnumDic
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If you two were going to restaurants/clubs or whatever and were fuckbuddies, that's cool...but emotional involvement with a hooker is a disasterQuote:
Originally Posted by MagnumDic
if it's right for you, why not? i wouldn't. may make me a hypocrite being on this site, but I couldn't date an escort either.Quote:
Originally Posted by MagnumDic
My Costa Rican TS girl and I aren't "boyfriend / girlfriend" but we date - it isn't just casual sex.
Yes - and no. I have a Costa Rican GG "novia" (girlfriend) who is paying her way through law school working 3-4 nights a week (when we aren't together - which is, at most 1-3 nights a month).Quote:
Originally Posted by nysprod
In our 'bubble' we are in love - in our mutual real worlds, we are friends and neither of us gets jealous. But she's a unicorn.
I could. In fact, I have. This relationship was actually with a young, naturally totally passable femboy. It was the one and only love of my life.
Working as what?Quote:
Originally Posted by kfortune
I definitely could
I have been in several relationships and have not had the best luck at all. It's a two way street and I'm comfortable with sharing some of the blame as I'm not the easiest to live with, but I'm not giving up on love. I think if you live in a major metro area, Dating Trans girls are not a problem, my friends seem to be very cool with it since my girlfriends looked better than there middle aged wives I'm sure.
That being said, I only have one thing I don't do anymore.... Never date an escort or a girl who previously escorted. It just fucks people up, self esteem torture for them, even if they say they liked it or love sex, it's soul killing. That doesn't mean I can't be a good friend if they need help, but I try my best to keep it friendly.
now I'm not saying that escorts are bad, not at all, people need to survive, but as far as a relationship, it's been the common denominator in all my past loves lives and I need to stay clear of this in the future.
My Wife is transgender and we are like any other happy couple, having said that I do wonder on occasion if it works so well because she was never an escort nor worked in the sex entertainment industry. In fact, I did not know that she was trans till after our first date. Added to that I am not attracted to her because of her anatomy, instead I was attracted to her mind, heart and soul. On our first date, we were so engrossed in our conversation about places that we had traveled to we ended up closing down the restaurant we talked so long.
Recently, I had a conversion with an escort, but first, a little back story about how the conversation came to be, my Wife is a real estate attorney and she volunteers at a Trans Support group to help with legal name changes, gender marker changes, general legal advice, etc. Recently, she had a client who is in the middle of her transition and is an escort. The woman is very nice, no two ways about it, but I met her through my Wife in her every day persona, not her escort persona and I do think that it does make a difference.
As she worked with my Wife on her gender marker change, she expressed interest in becoming an accountant as she is pretty good at math and getting her college degree. Since then my Wife has sort of taken her under her wing and we have both been providing her with advice and over all are trying to help her. In fact, she is about to earn her GED which is a big first step. And to date, she has never asked for a dime from either one of us, nor have we offered her any money either.
She is honest, that she would have a hard time dating any one of her clients as the relationship did not start out on even footing, it is a business/client relationship, not two individuals looking for love.
She says many of her clients want to convert the relationship and even go as far as to buy her things,etc. even though she says she is honest with them that a true relationship is not possible, yet they still continue, she believes because the men like the fantasy of it, even if there is no potential of things ever changing.
She says she has one client who paid for her breast augmentation and still pays her for sex, even though I have to imagine that the breast augmentation was not cheap and she claims that he is not a rich guy either. She said another guy who she says is very rich paid for her FFS and still pays her for sex like clockwork every two weeks and she says he is a really nice guy, but she is unable to develop feelings for any of her clients and does not want to either.
On the flip side, she really wants to meet someone in her every day non-escort persona, but it is hard to meet someone okay with her being transgender, even though she is clearly a female, as many people have trouble with the anatomical differences, especially the penis (and I do understand the difficulty, as does she)
Personally speaking, I am a realist, maybe too much of one, but I somehow would instinctively know that the chance of truly dating an escort that I was paying the week before for sex is extremely low and 99 out of 100 I would be throwing money out the window. Same goes for trying to date a stripper, or even a server in a restaurant, the dynamic is just wrong, imho.
I could as well. It's about the chemistry and connection.