My husband cheated on me with TS/TV

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Originally Posted by Upsetwife

But if someone has a dick between their legs they are male end off!!!

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Everyone here would disagree with this. You're being far too thoughtless and closed-minded.

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Originally Posted by Upsetwife

A few years back I was very good friends with a ts who had everything done to become a woman. She always said that she had never had sex as a man because the thought of using her penis revolted her. Once she had gone through all the surgeries and was a complete woman she met an amazing man and sadly moved away and we lost contact after a few more years. This is why I find it so hard to call a ts who still has their duck a woman. I know not everyone is the same and it's a hell of a thing to go through but surely to go so far and not complete the journey means there are doubts in that person's head as to whether or not they are doing the right thing

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I can think of a number of reasons off the top of my head. But instead of making assumptions why not be polite and ask questions.

Also, you really should talk to your husband about this. If you're too nervous to broach the subject, you're not going to get very far in understanding why he likes what he likes. If you see his behavior as a betrayal, why wouldn't you talk to him about it instead of insulting a bunch of people?

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Originally Posted by broncofan

Everyone here would disagree with this. You're being far too thoughtless and closed-minded.

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Ok so what about a woman who dresses like a man, looks like a man but has a fanny still, does that make her a man? I'm not insulting anyone just asking a question of which I don't understand

People have no set preference especially men. People are attracted to whatever they find attractive. And with everyone it varies. Here is the truth no matter how beautiful a woman is, a man will always turn their head to look at another. Let's say if you're husband expressed he liked your cousin who, for the sake of discussion, is 7.1ft, thin woman with short green hair, you would wonder is that the type of person that excites him? If he slept with your cousin, co-worker, mail main,there would be a thousand of questions to why that person. He sought to explorewhat he wanted. I generally of the opinion, after a period of time in relationship a person will start think the grass is greener on the other side.

I give you a lot of credit, you want you're husband to be open with you about what he is feeling and keep open that line of communication. You're trying to find what went wrong or was it something you did. The honest answer is no. If feel that you still want to have a relationship or you want to understand more about where both you stand in your marriage seek marriage counseling. The crazy part you will just have to confront him about it eventually and the uncertainty of that proposition can be scary. Best of luck.

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Originally Posted by Upsetwife

Ok so what about a woman who dresses like a man, looks like a man but has a fanny still, does that make her a man? I'm not insulting anyone just asking a question of which I don't understand

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you just can't ...its all about making your fantasies come true

Don't divorce him. Just get marriage counseling.

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Originally Posted by broncofan

Everyone here would disagree with this. You're being far too thoughtless and closed-minded.

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and you don't even need to be on a trans forum OR be a person who loves transwomen to know that stupid as fuck. Because she could say: oh you are just saying this because you like them. But no! There is a lot of guys and girls who are not attracted to trans at all and yet they are no that stupid to think if a person has a dick that person IS a man.

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Originally Posted by Upsetwife

Ok so what about a woman who dresses like a man, looks like a man but has a fanny still, does that make her a man? I'm not insulting anyone just asking a question of which I don't understand

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two things:
1: if this woman identifies herself as a man, then she's a fucking man!
2: and since this person is a trans man, call THIS PERSON a man is uneducated because you are purposely calling him by the pronoun he does not identify.
that's a trans man for fucks sake!

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Originally Posted by Upsetwife

Ok so what about a woman who dresses like a man, looks like a man but has a fanny still, does that make her a man? I'm not insulting anyone just asking a question of which I don't understand

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LOOK AT THIS PHOTO
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do you really look at this person and say: NOPE that's not a man. That's a woman?

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Originally Posted by lifeisfiction

People have no set preference especially men. People are attracted to whatever they find attractive. And with everyone it varies. Here is the truth no matter how beautiful a woman is, a man will always turn their head to look at another. Let's say if you're husband expressed he liked your cousin who, for the sake of discussion, is 7.1ft, thin woman with short green hair, you would wonder is that the type of person that excites him? If he slept with your cousin, co-worker, mail main,there would be a thousand of questions to why that person. He sought to explorewhat he wanted. I generally of the opinion, after a period of time in relationship a person will start think the grass is greener on the other side.

I give you a lot of credit, you want you're husband to be open with you about what he is feeling and keep open that line of communication. You're trying to find what went wrong or was it something you did. The honest answer is no. If feel that you still want to have a relationship or you want to understand more about where both you stand in your marriage seek marriage counseling. The crazy part you will just have to confront him about it eventually and the uncertainty of that proposition can be scary. Best of luck.

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Thank you so much
I'm just so scared to confront him about this for a number of reasons. Scared of the way he may react knowing he's been caught, that he will say that's it and walk away without even discussing it or maybe even tell me the scariest thing and that's he finds ts's so attractive he can't stop
At the end of the day I'm so scared of losing him not matter what cause I love him so much it hurts, I haven't stopped crying since I found all this out and yes I may not have reacted as I should of and yes have said something's on here tgat I shouldn't off but I'm so hurt and broken I don't know what to do and it doesn't help when some people on here are so nice, like yourself and others are just plain nasty. It's my life I'm trying to deal with and I have kids to consider who absolutely adore him. I spent almost 7 years on my own before meeting him and thought I'd be on my own for good which I was fine with. But then he came along and changed my world. I know it sounds dramatic but that's how I truly feel. I can't live without him no matter how much this has hurt me ��