When you love someone- it's not easy to "run away fast". Anyway, I reckon if I did run away, she'd follow me - and still do the same.
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When you love someone- it's not easy to "run away fast". Anyway, I reckon if I did run away, she'd follow me - and still do the same.
That you were desperate enough to try and get advice by posting here should tell you that you're in an irrational state of mind right now. You cannot think clearly about this situation. You should try to put some distance between each other - go away for a week or two and disconnect. Give yourself time to think AND as Yogi said try to keep from whining about it - especially here as you'll only drive yourself deeper into misery.
I used to let a (now ex)girlfriend have bareback with whatever guys she wanted as long as they were clean and she was on the pill. I loved getting her with a creampie already inside her. Now, that's a bit different than your situation.
What are you more worried about? That she is having sex with others or that she is possibly not being safe with the clients' cumming on or in her?
If you are upset with her having sex with others, get over it. Seriously, you are dating a sex worker. It's like dating a girl who is a swinger or a pornstar and she was that way before she met you. It's her lifestyle and choice. When you date someone, you don't try to change them.
But if she is doing the raw bareback sex with sketchy clients, you should talk to her about that. Ask her to get tested if you feel she is at risk. Tell her you are concerned because you love her.
As for the lack of her sex-drive, she might be trying to to keep the intimacy going between you. She might be repulsed by sex. I have to imagine a lot of the clients out there make sex vulgar and perverse for her. Think about it; if you wanted to be a female and be treated as a female but her body has the sex organs of a male. And the only reason why most men around you want to have sex with you is because they want your penis there; the imperfection that you see it as. One of the things that is keeping you from really being a female. (In some cases that is. I know there are many who will never consider going post-op.)
Maybe you have to help build her up to try and find a reason to change her lifestyle for the better. Explain it is not for just you but for her. The health risks and safety risks might help explain that.
I suppose bareback sex is something that I regarded as special. We dated for ages before she'd let me do it uncovered. Nobody likes to think that someone else is getting the "special treatment", especially in way less time than it took me - It's not so much the safety aspect - she's sensible enough to be cautious. Besides she promised me that she'd always use condoms. Now that I am thinking she isn't, it seems like a bit of a betrayal. It cheapens everything, don't you think?
Do you have proof yet? Have you asked her about the stains?
Why are you with her? Why are you here trying to resolve this instead of being with her? Do you love her?
I feel like you have already told the executioner to kill the relationship before the investigation and the judge and jury have had a chance to make their case and gather the facts.
If you want to see it as 'betrayal' that is your call. You're the one dating the escort and now having issues with her business life.
Hopefully the next time you meet a girl, she doesn't happen to be a butcher and you decide to go vegan on her and expect her to quit her living. Best of luck, in all seriousness.
I've been with a working girl (no ts) for a couple of weeks, never again.
Worst part is I've known her since highschool, always had feelings for each other & now we haven't talked in years. It was too much for me, 2 phones and clients calling day & night, when going out i don't mind seeing my gf dancing & flirting but she was always hustling for clients, she even gave her private number to clients. So i talked to her about it, a lot, we agreed on some things so i thought it could work; but once they are in the 'I'm all about my money, everyday hustlin' state of mind it's over, run Forest run.
Now people tell the craziest stories about her, she lost her window, stabbed a client, has a major drug-habbit, even heard she's doing bareback gangbangs for her drugdealer who is also a pimp...
Good luck!
All out in the open now.
I bought a new sim card and sent her a text. "Hi there. Any chance of bareback?". Got a reply "If you have a current HIV test, it's $500 for B/B, $200 extra to cum inside. $200 for me to cum..."
I confronted her with it and we had a big fight. She reckons that it was all to fund new breast implants and other plastic surgery, hormones etc.
So that's that. What a fool I've been.
So you were both right?
She was lying about the condoms, but was telling the truth about being careful...
Shouldn't have done the sim card thing cos now she knows you dont trust her - more troubles round the corner :/
She totally deceived him - he had reasonable doubts and applied a test.Quote:
So you were both right?
I don't see why he should have any regrets for safeguarding his own health.
He's outta there -Quote:
So that's that. What a fool I've been.
....Why shouldn't he have? The next thing he needs to do this go to hospital and get tested for everything. Then next would be his exit strategy. If the lease to the apt. is in his name then give that bitch 30 days notice.Quote:
Originally Posted by loveboof
Dude is basically putting his health in this chicks hands and what the hell is the point of getting breast implants when you're walking around with viruses that modern medicine haven't found cures for??? Hell there's a new strain of Gonorrhea out there that fights off traditional antibiotics.
Shit condoms don't even protect from herpes or HPV. So if she's making out with random guys daily, the odds of you already having something is moderately high.
Don't believe me then ask your PCP. And if he doesnt' have anything then count himself lucky but not for too long if she's sticking around.