It gets far more complicated than I could, or feel the need to, go into on here. As I alluded to, she and I have wound up in bed together a couple times. Her boyfriend wasn't jealous, he thought it was hot. :)Quote:
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It gets far more complicated than I could, or feel the need to, go into on here. As I alluded to, she and I have wound up in bed together a couple times. Her boyfriend wasn't jealous, he thought it was hot. :)Quote:
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Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
I am not looking to be a wiseguy or be disrepectful to you Julie but I'm confused ? Since he now knows that you are T and you two obviously have not had the time to develop an emotional attachment or even have a formal date, doesn't that make him just another "chaser" or at least simular to some of the civil guys on this forum who happen like tgirls ??
I can understand how a TGirl is flattered by a quality STR8 guy seeing you as a "woman" and showing interest. But when he finds out you are T within a matter of days and is still interested, what does that make him???
I'm sure quite of few men on this board (including myself) first became aware of TGirls in a simular way as your Long Island guy.
I am not posting this to try to change your mind or the other girls minds on what and who you find attractive. That is none of my business. I am just curious about how you girls qualify guys.
With due respect, best of luck with everything Julie.
Now I'm curious 8)Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
Julie of course can of course give her take on what she feels a chaser is.Quote:
Originally Posted by PatrickFromNYC
But my definitioni is a guy who chases the dick and the woman that
it is atached to is irrelevant.
They basically go from dick to dick, have no intentions whatsoever of
being in a relationship with the woman, and will say and do anything
that they have to, to get the dick.
They are pretty much the same as a player, who is on a constant mission
to get pussy, bottom line they both see the women as objects to get their
rocks off, and rarely take the women's emotions into consideration.
once again, I am puzzles by the "dick-centrics" in definitions. Because, as I read it, it would be ok for a guy to jump from tranny-ass to tranny-ass, as long as he is not into the dick.Quote:
Originally Posted by peggygee
You can be a "chaser" as a top as well. Not that it matters much because in the last paragraph you are using a more general definition.
On another sidenote: If a "straight" guy is still interested in meeting a T-Lady after she revealed her "T", he is at least "curious", simply due to the fact that in the western hemisphere, in densly populated areas, you will hardly find a guy who is NOT aware of the existance of TS.
Interesting distinction.Quote:
Originally Posted by mbf
Though I think more women are put off by the cock bandit than the ass
bandit.
However I don't think that most women, trans or natal, want to be sought
after only for their pussy or their ass.
For a man to interested in a woman beyond sex is based on so many things besides their sexual organs. Each man has his own unqiue view. But the compatibility issue has to do with being interested in what the other person is about, how they fit into their lifestlye.Quote:
Originally Posted by peggygee
For example I care a lot about the global political scene. If I met a woman to date she would at least have to be interested enough to listen to my views. If she actually knows something about current events or history, then that's a plus.
So basically what is a woman bringing to the table besides her physical self? Does she care enough about him to care about what he cares about. For example, he might spend a lot of time helping his family out. If the woman is jealous of that time, the relationship will not work out.
I was away for night and just got back. I went to spend the night with my friend that lives in Westchester and to see a dear friend in Harlem.Quote:
Originally Posted by PatrickFromNYC
Well I did not hear from him today so who knows if he is still interested? The last thing he said is that he still wants to go out and he will call me when he is felling better.
He isn't a chaser, I been around the block more then once and can spot the game a mile away. I play the game back and take the chasers cash and walk away lol. He hasn't been with a tranny before, I wont date men in my personal life that have been with a tranny.
To answer your question on why he is still interested. He is still interested because to him I am still the hot girl that was in the bar that he and a bunch of other guys were trying to talk to. Its all based on appearances at this point.
co sign, chasers are for cash not husbands lolQuote:
Originally Posted by peggygee
You best option is just to let it go NYTSJulie. Just look at this incident as a true test whether this guy is really into you or not. And if he is, he would be man enough to take your being T like a real man that he is! Being a T for the most part IMO shouldn't be the end of things. I know this because, awhile back when I worked for Lerner's New York as a store manager..a co-worker whom I told about my being T clocked me to this cute and hot mall security guy who drops by at our store every time he see's me. One time, On my day off he went there and asked for me. This fat bitch co-worker of mine said something like "You know she isn't really a ____". The guys response to her was "It doesn't matter"! LOL So when I returned from my day off all my staffs were telling me how he shut her up! :lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
I have another clocking incident back when I used to work at the Radisson giftshop when this filipina (yes filipina GG) clocked me to one of the chefs. As if I really wanted this chef in the first place. Anyways, we went out for drinks one night and he took me home (nothing happened). I didn't know this filipina gg's got the HOTS for him so she clocked me while they were talking back in the kitchen where they work together. Though the guy still went out with me after that clocking incident! :P And I did it just to further PISS her off!! LOL
;)
~Kisses.
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He hasn't been with a tranny before, I wont date men in my personal life that have been with a tranny.
????
You don't do second dates then? :D
That is so funny hara! I've encountered that too with filipina gg's. When a guy they like starts hitting on me then they just lay it all out there that i'm a tranny. In my mind, I think it's so funny that they get insecured with us girls when in fact they are the ones who we're born the right way and they are in a much better life than we do not to worry about shit. What the fuck are they complaining about??? We're the ones that are having a hard time. But most of my gg friends, I always tell them first , "BITCH, you better be not talking behind my back or telling my past bitch, it's none of your business because if I know later on then I will beat your ass" just to scare the shit out of them! HAHAH! Put them into place!Quote:
Originally Posted by Hara_Juku Tgirl
A woman being a spiteful bitch???? Shocking! And you have a potential boyfriend?* Upsetting.
*I didn't read the whole thread through
Girl, tell me about it! Most (not all) filipina GG's are CUNTS! :evil:Quote:
Originally Posted by GIA LOVES RON
They deserve to get NO DICK as far as I'm concern! LOL
~Kisses.
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Anywhere I go I just assume that everyone can clock my T. As long as they are nice, or at least civil to me, then I don't worry about anything else.
If a guy hits on me and can't tell I'm a T, that's HIS fault, not mine! LOL
(Of course, I don't exactly look like Julie or Kelly or Hara or.....) :wink:
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Yes, but you're more CUNT/FISH looking TBTS! ;)
How can we compete to that?!? LOL ;)
~Kisses.
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Oh please, girl. There ain't enough gold in Fort Knox to pay for all the work I'd need to get up there with you girls on this board!Quote:
Originally Posted by Hara_Juku Tgirl
But hey, it is what it is.
:wink:
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Nice place. Been there several times. :wink: Hope to run into you again sometime.Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
kiss kiss and feel better.
If you're still sporting a cock and balls, yes.Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
I don't think it's necessary. I would recommend saying so after a second or third date if it gets that far, but obviously it's up to you girls how you want to handle it. If I had... HIV, for example, I think I'd let her know at about that point, that way she can decide if she wanted to continue to see me or not without too many emotions clouding her thoughts.Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
There you go - finally setting the record straightQuote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
To me it all depends on the situation. First, if it was only to quench a thirst for a quickie..no. It's not like you'll bend over so he could fuck you. LOL Second, If he was bf material then yes. You should tell him after awhile of getting to know each other. It will be his test. If he pass or fail depends on how he would handle the whole situation. And if he likes you that much he will go for it! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
Then again, I myself am not doing a good job at it rightnow. I sometimes mistake guys who doesn't know to know and then the guys that know to don't know I'm a T! LOL It's a confusing world I know! So when some guy finds out I'm a T in the midst of *things.. I feel terrible! Though none ever got up and left thankgoddness. :lol: SCORE!! ;)
~Kisses.
HTG
Men look at their friend's girl and think,
"I want a girl like her."
Women look at their friend's man and think,
"I want him."
It's just how women think, unfortunately.
I'm sorry I got in on this late and didn't read all 19 pages so far, but I just wanted to say to Kelly and Julie that I feel for both of you. That's really low in both cases.
I have two GG GF's. One was my very first little GF in Jr High school believe it or not - and she's actually a cop in another state now. The other I've known since the 10th grade. They were the first and second people to know I was trans. We been best friends longer than many of you here have been alive. I can't imagine either one ever doing that to me, I'd be devastated.
Most of the other GG women I know are escorts, or else lesbians who are hot for Jessica, or service workers like my housekeeper, hair dresser, etc.
But the one thing I've noticed with all women, and perhaps it's just me, but GG's still relate to me as a guy once they know I'm trans. It's like they find it "cool" or something, to hang out with a trans girl, but they fall right into the female submissive role and I find myself usually forced into the domme position. Not just in sex, but just in general. Like I'm supposed to hold the door open for them and pay for dinner or something.
But I haven't experienced anyone acting vindictive like that (yet). Though perhaps it's because I'm not competing with them for suitors.
I've run into a few butch lesbians as I've mentioned before who have penis envy and can get really nasty. But they weren't people I knew personally.
Anyway ladies - just slap the bitch and be on your way.
Hugs,
TS Jamie :-)
It's a trip when I read stories like this. I have to alway wonder if the guys know what they're doing when they just start grabbing on a woman and why they dont get slapped?Quote:
Originally Posted by GIA LOVES RON
I second that woman are like that, is about competition same with some guys,, I know lots of gg and been around girls who dont know about my past and I seen them talking bout other girls, putting other girls on blasst ,,
I know how mean it is and we all been there but is facts of life besides how you think tranny chasers came to be.
The female species since they do not resort to physical fighting well not as the first defense mechanism like men. They are catty and start spreading rumors.
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Originally Posted by scroller
I think Transexuals have the biggest issue with Transexuals!
In my experience with gg's, I dont believe they have a big issue with us. I think we have an issue with ourselves. There is more hate amongst eachother, then anyone else. I have also found with gg's, that you give respect, to get respect. And If you carry yourself like a lady, there is less likely going to be a problem.
Yes, gg's do view us as, men trying to hard, to be women/gay. And may find humor in it. But c'mon now girls... how many ts's actually carry themselves like women?! Most are so over animated, flamboyant, over the top, its funny even to me. From the way we walk, to the way we talk, what we talk about, how we say it, hand movements, head movements, we stand out! Alot of trannies want to be noticed 24/7, Our main goal is to be sexually attractive to men 24/7, most of our lives... revolve around sex, and are very aggresive... thats not how women are. I dont believe they are threatened by us, but when we are out there "queening out", parading ourselves around, flaunting it in their face, they are bound to get upset.
I mean imagine yourself a gg, growing up, being taught things, going through things, living life... whats normal... male and female. Never in life ever being exposed to gay/tranny life, then BAM! :shock: You meet one or see one, it would be weird! Dont you think? Comical? a Joke? Maybe even gross, wrong, unethical, a sin... Wouldnt be able to understand or would even want to.
Julie: she may have felt she was being a friend to the guy, and not catty towards you. Now maybe she did you a favor... What if you had waited even longer to tell him, and he had a bad reaction to it, because he felt, you had strung him along? You never know! I know its hard for us, and whos to say whats right and whats wrong, but just take it as a lesson learned. But yeah I wouldnt go anywhere, him or her frequent, cause you know... words gonna spread :cry:
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Originally Posted by Celeste
Let me weigh in WAY late on this issue.
First of all Celeste.
I think your way naive about GGs true feelings towards TS women like you.
I think for the most part GG's are very fake with their friendship towards transexuals ESPECIALLY if the transexual is attractive.
I have personally seen GG's go around the club and OUT transexuals to EVERY guy in the club.
Its true about transexuals being very competitive with each other but as time goes on MORE AND MORE straight guys will be getting with transexuals....TRUST ME ON THAT POINT.
I use to be in the military and a lot of military guys get with trannys on the DL.
You all think "Oh he doesnt know my T"....BULLSHIT!
A lot of them do.
As for trannys being "honest" and telling a guy up front....i dont believe this is practical.
The real world doesnt work this way.
If a guy is attracted to you its not because he sees your penis dangling there...He sees the woman that you are.
Most guys arent "honest" about stuff either....they arent "up front" about a lot of stuff.
Transexuals should stop being so evil and nasty and too faced towards each other.
its hard i know because society is always telling you that your nothing.
Many trannys use the insults and nastiness they have experience by the straight world to insult each other.
You all have to love each other....dont look to some fucking GG for approval or acceptance or some false sense of "sisterhood".
AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! which is why I'm keeping my cock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by xxxsexyd
I guess I’m really really lucky.
I haven’t had any problems with any gender.
But I’m really non-confrontational in general. I’m really non-chalant and sometimes oblivious to ignorant or intolerant people.
I will say that gay guys are probably a little annoying. The guys on my campus flock around me like I’m mother goose. And it bothers me. They act as if I am(underneath it all) truly one of them. They get real queenly, and it makes me uncomfortable if other people are around. But even that, I doubt comes from a malicious place…
I’ve said this to you girls (about guys in my area) before.
But its really good down here on the Jersey Shore. Besides guys that aren’t trying to be secretive about dating me, people don’t seem give me very many problems about being-T..lol.
You should move down here! I’m the only TS I know. I have to travel to they city just to see you bitchezz…
oh!
And for the record, I’ve never tried to ‘play real’ for the boys when they try to kick it to me.
I like to whisper it in their ear. And if they’re with friends, I’ll tell him to go back to them and tell them that I said I’m a lesbian as to avoid embarrassment.
I didn't really go over too many posts in the topic so I apologize if this was covered already, but reading the first post I wouldn't really consider what the lady did to be anything to get worked up about, considering she was probably looking out for her friend. I mean even you said yourself that you guys drifted apart.
Honestly I wouldn't blame her. If I was in her position i'd do the same. Even though you and your friends and family have accepted who you are, you would be deluding yourself to thinking that everyone else would see you crossing over genders as being a minor thing to bring up during conversation. To many people its still a major thing.
That's just my 2c on the issue. I do hope you find someone but I really don't think that lady did that for the reasons you think.
Also, completely off topic, sorry, but Alyssa, you're absolutely gorgeous. <_<
well thank you very much, kind sir.
No need to thank me, i'm just telling it how it is. :P
The post is old but I still feel the same way. Your "T" is your business and you are not obligated to tell anyone.
If a guy had one testicle, couldn't have kids or only had a 2 inch dick.....he wouldn't tell you in first meeting you. If a girl stuffed her bra she wouldn't tell you. If a guy lives at home with is mom he wouldn't tell you. If he was bisexual he wouldn't tell you. The list goes on and on.
People go out and put on their best faces and dont tell people their deep personal business, so why should we be expected to?
Damn......
This one's still gettin resurrected.
Bottom line though.....if you plan a third and fourth date with dude, for real.....it's about time to come clean about havin a cock though, for real.
I don't think you can compare looking like a woman but having nice set of male bits to a guy having only 1 testical or a puny peter, or living at home with mom.
I can see where you're coming from but in the end I really can't just agree with you. I didn't mean to reignite the argument, i just saw the topic on the front page and had to put in my 2c.
I think it all depends on the situation. If you meet someone, have a good night hanging out and you feel a vibe from him, wait until the end of the night before you say anything. Determine what kind of guy you feel he is based on the time you've just spent together and use that as your measuring stick.Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
If you think it's safe to tell him, then tell him when the night is over and you're ready to head home. Trust your gut, because if you've found him to be someone that you really feel strongly about, then you should get one of two responses; either he won't have a problem with you, or he will but will just casually excuse himself and that will be that.
I think you can easily tell the other type of asshole in the first 5 minutes, so you don't need to worry about what to do there.
But overall, no, I don't think you need to go out and tell people that you still have a penis before you let them into your world. Your penis is not the measure of who you are as a person and as a woman, and if someone is unable to handle that fact then you need to keep searching for that someone who can love you for who you are, no matter what is between your legs.
I can't imagine how difficult it is to find that perfect someone who has the looks, intelligence, personality, and the willingness to love you for all you are. Oh, wait, duh! I'm right here . . . ;) IF I were available Julie, I would PROUDLY walk with you on my arm and be as good to you as any man possibly could.
You'll find that guy, I know you will. You're too beautiful and too sweet to not have it happen for you.
I think this is really all you can say. Only you can know when the time is right. I said above that you should tell him when the evening is at an end, but maybe it takes 2 or 3 evenings to get to that point. But my point was simply that you need to trust your gut, and do what feels best for you, because in the end it's all about you and what you want for your life.Quote:
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