GGs have the biggest issue with transsexuals

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Don't be delusional thinking SRS will change things. MOST men will turn you down just out of fear of being "OUTED " even if you do have a pussy. You were still born a man and that will always be part of who you are. A relationship is based on honesty first. That is why alot of people are unhappy in their current relationships, they forget what is the fundemental basis of a healthy living.

There is a big difference between Living and just Surviving

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I tend to agree, to some point. Fact is, that many men will have sex with a pre-op, mainly just out of curiousity, or go with a post-op as well. But having a LTR is a totally different thing. As well as getting married.

I suspect many men will not go that far to marry a TS no matter what plumbing she has just for the reason she is unable to bear children. Possible future children are one of the main reasons for marriage, also on the men´s part. Like it or not, when you reached 30 xou BEGIN to think of the possibility to become a father (unimaginable five, ten yrs ago)

Hmm..have to agree....the biological children issue is extremely thorny for men...Ive wrestled with it back and forth a few times.....when i was in my 20's i was dead set against having children....Now that im in my mid 30's well....its a bit more of a concern...

Well this guy I am sorta seeing now has a 2 yo. I got to spend some time with them today, bought him a toy cop car today and we had lunch at Fridays. He's quite the lady's man already.

Funny the waiter was like " Ohhhh he looks just like mommy" and me and him looked at each other and laughed a bit.

He came about on a drunken night with a GG. Many women have no clue about how to raise kids or even when to have them. I am not sure being able to physically make babies will make a woman better at being a mother at all.

If things work out with me and his dad, I hope to spend more and more time with them.

Ohhh and btw - there are millions of kids in foster homes needing adoption. Prior to procreation one must consider giving one of them a better life.

I think that's one of the reasons Bob Barker tells us " Spay and Neuter your pets "...

i have distinct problems dealing with my own sexuality in regard to the ramifications of living my life as i would like (with a person i care about who happens to be TG) and not have it controlled by the fears that well up inside me when i think about all of this.

i have the utmost admiration for those of you who have been able to make the choice, live as you feel and get on with your lives. your courage and bravery are truly awesome.

i have so many t-friends (very few gg's any more) and at times we talk about this issue of mine, as i am trying to sort out my life and they are the only ones i can confide in and who can relate to what i am going through.

it all boils down to the fact that most people are prejudiced about something, or someone, its basic human insecurity, and until all of that goes away, little else will change on this planet.

sad, but true.

i will end this post the way i end all my phone conversations with my friends.

be safe and know someone cares about you and appreciates you.

but you know that already.

TOTALLY CORRECT, JULIE

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TOTALLY CORRECT, JULIE

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On which part.




Honestly, philosophical shit aside,

as I said before , bartender was a friend of guy of the present, Julie was a friend of bartender of the past.

Since barkeep told guy Julie was born a man, barkeep was being a friend. If my friend didn't tell me what was what, then I would have no business calling that person my friend.

Really nothing more to say than that other than "its a small world".

Women.....some times you just have to fuckem to keep them quiet!
Yeah it's not the best thing to say but women will say and do things to each other that guys won't even consider doing to each other.
They are on a good day borderline evil!
Thank god, god gave them tits!

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Originally Posted by NYTSJulie

I get so frustrated when every trick comes out from under their rock to "tell it how it is". Myself and other girls have lived it. We know what works and what doesn't. We know how it works because we have been in all kinds of situations many times over. Its like me trying to tell a black lady how to be black.

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If you haven't walked the walk, you shouldn't talk the talk. :smh

Sorry guys the information and experience that you have picked up
from TS porn sites, and escort experiences, do not qualify you as
experts or qualified to make informed comments.

For us, as women this is our life 24/7/365.

For many of you, you haven't even met a transwoman, let alone been
in a relationship with one.

And on the SRS tip, I distinctly recall that only a handful of you have
stated that you have been with a post op, so again I will assert that
you do not know wherof you speak.

Finally, Julie, by no means would I get violent with the woman in question,
but I would explain to her in no uncertain terms why what she did wasn't
cool, and to keep my name and my business out of her mouth.

Me and another t-girl actually just went to a straight club in Boston the other week and I have to say I had lots of fun. But when I go to these places, I make sure that i'm very careful with these kind of situations. There we're a few guys that tried to buy us drinks, wanted to dance with us but I just said no. I was there to have fun for myself and my friend. So we we're dancing and two guys came on to us and started grinding and almost touching to a point where they are actually going to touch my private part.

I SAID "OH HELL NO" , I am not gonna be stupid and act that I have a pussy down there cause I don't (not yet anyway) :lol: So I immediately told my tgirl friend that i'm gonna make an excuse so we can get the hell out of there. I feel so much better when I left and we went down to the bar area and the guys that we're hitting on us started going towards me, and said "what ethnicity are you? and can I ask your number?" and I just said no, I have a bf which is true in my case cause I actually do. And my main purpose in going to that bar is to have fun....a CLEAN FUN!

But the lesson to my story is: if I didn't get out of the situation and was smart enough to save my life then I would probably get in trouble right there and then. Thankfully I wasn't too drunk to have my right judgement blurred out yet. :D

And I agree with NYTSjulie and kelly Shore. If I meet staright guys in a random straight club then I don't tell them my being a T. It's really non of their business or anyones for that matter. I am there to have fun not to "FUCK AROUND" or "SLEEP AROUND" .

When I get closer to where I want to be (esp if I have SRS), I kind of just want to move to a new town where nobody knows. I hate it when people talk about me behind my back, doubly when it's in regards to what's between my legs.

Historically, most of my friends have been female. Unlike the hag stereotype, most were Queer. Now that my friends include plenty of straight women, I get shit. Not from all, but enough. My sister always had lots of male friends, now I understand why. Ugh. I'm tired of the bullshit from GGs and I'm tired of the bullshit from TSes. That's why I'm trying to meet more guy friends (which gets me called a "man" again!) At least guys aren't afraid to be friends with me like they were in high school... Yay men and yay beer!

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Originally Posted by NYTSJulie

I started transition 13 years ago, lol wow it’s been a long time. Through the years I have come to the conclusion that genetic women are the ones who have the biggest issue with transsexuals. At least that has been my experience.

I went out last weekend for my sister’s birthday. It was myself, my sister, 6 other girls and 4 guys. We went out on the North Shore of Long Island, it’s a very vanilla yuppie crowd. I met a few guys and one of them I really liked. We hit it off and have been talking all week. He is exactly my type, perfect. He looks very GQ, 34, tall, Italian and Irish mix, great face and hot body. He has a great personality, comes from money and lives in a cute new 1.5 million dollar condo here on the Island. I am thinking husband material lol.

Now I don’t run around telling people my “T”. I feel that it is my business and unless I am about to go to bed with someone then I have no obligation to divulge it. People treat you differently when they know right off the bat rather than finding out down the road.

So I am all excited thinking I have met my future husband lol, now here is the catch. I know one of the bar tenders who works at the bar where I met him. I knew her when I was still living as boy. We worked together and actually used to be really good friends. We drifted apart and then I ran into her about 2 years ago after not seeing or speaking to her in 10 years, but that’s another story.

It turned out that my soon to be husband lol knew her also. One of his friends is a bartender at the bar also. Long story short, he went down there last night for a drink and then I got the 1AM phone call asking “is this true”.

I don’t know if I should verbally confront her, or I should wait for her when she is getting off work. I want to get all ghetto on her ass, throw my hair up, take my earrings off and rub Vaseline on my face lol.

I swear women feel threatened. They get all catty when you’re more attractive than them or you get more attention, they think “and she isn’t even a real girl”.

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Thats fucked up. Straight scumbag shit. Shes twatblockin/cockblockin (whichever u prefer) to the full extent. Id say to respond depending on your status with the guy. Im the type who in a moment like this would confront the person only if they werent the type to call the police after i punched them in the face. What a bitch though. I hate shit like that. I hope she gets a very itchy yeast infection.

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Originally Posted by NYTSJulie

If you went to dinner with a transsexual you would look around the restaurant to see if anyone clocks her. You would think twice about bringing her home to meet your parents, then probably decide that its not a good idea to chance it. You might care or you may not, but you would still be treating her differently. Its natural human behavior, thats why its best to tell someone when the time is right.

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Been there, done that.

And, as we speak so much about personal experience, it was usually the T-chick beeing worried about getting clocked or "talked about". I still hear them "Oh , did you hear anything? Do they talk behind my back?...."

I didn´t take any of them home to "mommy" though - bc I don´t do that with my GG dates either. Reason: when I was 16 I took my first two "serious" GG dates home and all I got was bitching from my over-protactive mother that none of them was "good enough for my son". I am done with "parentel approval".

And, shallow me, my dates were all passable.

And regarding the treating differently issue. Yes, I treat my dates differently, because any of them is a different person and I may have different goals. I will not invest as much (time, money, feelings) in a no strings attached relationship than in a possible LTR or marriage.

And after a ltr with a TS I rather not repeat that experience for quite some time ( can you spell *m.o.o.d.s.w.i.n.g.s.*? ). Although I have found the presence of and interaction with TS still appealing to me, and that´s why I still visit this board.

But, as I have observed with many issues I threw in my 2 cents on here, I seem to have differing views than the majority. *shrug*

Moodswings. Thats gotta be some pretty weird shit right there.

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I started transition 13 years ago, lol wow it’s been a long time. Through the years I have come to the conclusion that genetic women are the ones who have the biggest issue with transsexuals. At least that has been my experience.

I went out last weekend for my sister’s birthday. It was myself, my sister, 6 other girls and 4 guys. We went out on the North Shore of Long Island, it’s a very vanilla yuppie crowd. I met a few guys and one of them I really liked. We hit it off and have been talking all week. He is exactly my type, perfect. He looks very GQ, 34, tall, Italian and Irish mix, great face and hot body. He has a great personality, comes from money and lives in a cute new 1.5 million dollar condo here on the Island. I am thinking husband material lol.

Now I don’t run around telling people my “T”. I feel that it is my business and unless I am about to go to bed with someone then I have no obligation to divulge it. People treat you differently when they know right off the bat rather than finding out down the road.

So I am all excited thinking I have met my future husband lol, now here is the catch. I know one of the bar tenders who works at the bar where I met him. I knew her when I was still living as boy. We worked together and actually used to be really good friends. We drifted apart and then I ran into her about 2 years ago after not seeing or speaking to her in 10 years, but that’s another story.

It turned out that my soon to be husband lol knew her also. One of his friends is a bartender at the bar also. Long story short, he went down there last night for a drink and then I got the 1AM phone call asking “is this true”.

I don’t know if I should verbally confront her, or I should wait for her when she is getting off work. I want to get all ghetto on her ass, throw my hair up, take my earrings off and rub Vaseline on my face lol.

I swear women feel threatened. They get all catty when you’re more attractive than them or you get more attention, they think “and she isn’t even a real girl”.

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Thats fucked up. Straight scumbag shit. Shes twatblockin/cockblockin (whichever u prefer) to the full extent. Id say to respond depending on your status with the guy. Im the type who in a moment like this would confront the person only if they werent the type to call the police after i punched them in the face. What a bitch though. I hate shit like that. I hope she gets a very itchy yeast infection.

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I will give u 50 bucks to hit her in the knees with a 2x4 lol.

THOSES DAMN CUNTS...I GOT SOME ADVICE AND SOMETHING TO ADD TO THIS BUT ILL BE RIGHT BACK ..DAMN CLIENT

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I started transition 13 years ago, lol wow it’s been a long time. Through the years I have come to the conclusion that genetic women are the ones who have the biggest issue with transsexuals. At least that has been my experience.

I went out last weekend for my sister’s birthday. It was myself, my sister, 6 other girls and 4 guys. We went out on the North Shore of Long Island, it’s a very vanilla yuppie crowd. I met a few guys and one of them I really liked. We hit it off and have been talking all week. He is exactly my type, perfect. He looks very GQ, 34, tall, Italian and Irish mix, great face and hot body. He has a great personality, comes from money and lives in a cute new 1.5 million dollar condo here on the Island. I am thinking husband material lol.

Now I don’t run around telling people my “T”. I feel that it is my business and unless I am about to go to bed with someone then I have no obligation to divulge it. People treat you differently when they know right off the bat rather than finding out down the road.

So I am all excited thinking I have met my future husband lol, now here is the catch. I know one of the bar tenders who works at the bar where I met him. I knew her when I was still living as boy. We worked together and actually used to be really good friends. We drifted apart and then I ran into her about 2 years ago after not seeing or speaking to her in 10 years, but that’s another story.

It turned out that my soon to be husband lol knew her also. One of his friends is a bartender at the bar also. Long story short, he went down there last night for a drink and then I got the 1AM phone call asking “is this true”.

I don’t know if I should verbally confront her, or I should wait for her when she is getting off work. I want to get all ghetto on her ass, throw my hair up, take my earrings off and rub Vaseline on my face lol.

I swear women feel threatened. They get all catty when you’re more attractive than them or you get more attention, they think “and she isn’t even a real girl”.

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Sounds like she was clearly jealous of you having a chance with this guy in the first place. So when the opportunity presented itself for her to "blow up your spot" she in true woman form obliged. Pure jealousy plain and simple.

I am a totally GQ, Armani nice guy with a chillout, lounge personality but I find that when you are that women don't care for that nice guy stuff, way too easy for them, you still have to be a prick player and have broads lined up for you and it triggers something primitive in them that makes them want you then. :) No wonder guys can never figure women out. Its when they see you with another woman that it gets to them. Seems like that is what happened with that hater former coworker of yours, Julie. She may have seen you talking to him in the bar or he mentioned you to her or something along those lines and she showed her jealousy of you.

I'd want to know. Just saying. Wouldn't necessarily change wether I'd go for the person, but I'd want to know.

I agree that if you're just at the club having fun, or you're just talking, no need to bring it up. But once it gets romantic in anyway, it really isn't fair to keep it from the guy. Because honestly, for 80% (at least) of 'straight' guys, your having a penis is going to be a complete deal breaker. Not for all. There will be exceptions. Most of the ones who are exceptions will want nothing to do with your 7 inches, lol, but they are out there. However for most, the idea of dating someone with the same genitals is not something they're into. Yes, for some, its downright gross. For many, having even kissed you would gross them out. You're beautiful but you aren't genetically female and even if you get SRS, that will always matter to the majority. To hide that from someone and waste both of your time is counter-productive.

I will tell a guy on the second date if there is one. I do believe the guys should be informed, and be allowed to decide on their own within a cpl of dates, and then be givin the choice to pursue a relationship vs investing months of their time being kept in the dark, about our past.

Yes, we deserve a fair shake, but so do the men.

Seems fair, assuming you don't let it go too far on the first date, lol. As a guy, I'd personally rather know on the first... but obviously its easier to wait a bit longer.

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Seems fair, assuming you don't let it go too far on the first date, lol. As a guy, I'd personally rather know on the first... but obviously its easier to wait a bit longer.

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The only time it goes to far on the first date, is if the guys a client and paying.

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Seems fair, assuming you don't let it go too far on the first date, lol. As a guy, I'd personally rather know on the first... but obviously its easier to wait a bit longer.

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I can Understand that but if hes a creep or you dont click, why tell guy you will never see again

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I'd want to know. Just saying. Wouldn't necessarily change wether I'd go for the person, but I'd want to know.

I agree that if you're just at the club having fun, or you're just talking, no need to bring it up. But once it gets romantic in anyway, it really isn't fair to keep it from the guy. Because honestly, for 80% (at least) of 'straight' guys, your having a penis is going to be a complete deal breaker. Not for all. There will be exceptions. Most of the ones who are exceptions will want nothing to do with your 7 inches, lol, but they are out there. However for most, the idea of dating someone with the same genitals is not something they're into. Yes, for some, its downright gross. For many, having even kissed you would gross them out. You're beautiful but you aren't genetically female and even if you get SRS, that will always matter to the majority. To hide that from someone and waste both of your time is counter-productive.

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This would argue for not telling the guy until far later into the relationship. If 80% of guys will get turned off automatically, then she won't want to tell guys right off the bat. Why would she want to endure negative reactions from 80% of the guys she dates? Most of those 80% can be weeded out by the girl on the 1st date, 2nd date, etc., until she is left with a guy who she knows is pretty liberal, not a homophobe, accepting of all types of people, and not some Romeo looking for a one night stand.

By that point there's probably only a 5% chance of a negative reaction.

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Originally Posted by NYTSJulie

I get so frustrated when every trick comes out from under their rock to "tell it how it is". Myself and other girls have lived it. We know what works and what doesn't. We know how it works because we have been in all kinds of situations many times over. Its like me trying to tell a black lady how to be black.

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If you haven't walked the walk, you shouldn't talk the talk. :smh

Sorry guys the information and experience that you have picked up
from TS porn sites, and escort experiences, do not qualify you as
experts or qualified to make informed comments.

For us, as women this is our life 24/7/365.

For many of you, you haven't even met a transwoman, let alone been
in a relationship with one.

And on the SRS tip, I distinctly recall that only a handful of you have
stated that you have been with a post op, so again I will assert that
you do not know wherof you speak.

Finally, Julie, by no means would I get violent with the woman in question,
but I would explain to her in no uncertain terms why what she did wasn't
cool, and to keep my name and my business out of her mouth.

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Hi Peggygee,

I understand what you're saying here, and I agree, to at least some extent.

But where I disagree, are on the basic principles of right and wrong, honesty and dishonesty, truth and lies.

I consider myself a reasonable thinker, with a reasonable sense of right and wrong, and in this case, dealing in the terms of what were given here, Julie's "mode of operation" (Modus operandi), is dishonest at best.

I'm not saying she doesn't have her own personal reasons or rationale for doing "her thing" this way, and I'm not saying that it works or doesn't work for her most of the time or otherwise, but what I am saying is it clearly didn't work this time, and her way may have cost her THE TIME.






But, of course,

What do silly tricks know.

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This would argue for not telling the guy until far later into the relationship. If 80% of guys will get turned off automatically, then she won't want to tell guys right off the bat. Why would she want to endure negative reactions from 80% of the guys she dates? Most of those 80% can be weeded out by the girl on the 1st date, 2nd date, etc., until she is left with a guy who she knows is pretty liberal, not a homophobe, accepting of all types of people, and not some Romeo looking for a one night stand.

By that point there's probably only a 5% chance of a negative reaction.

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That's my point exactly. The guys that get "weeded out" for whatever reason (bad personality, nothing in common, whatever) aren't being wronged by not being told because- it wouldn't have worked even IF they were cool with it.

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I get so frustrated when every trick comes out from under their rock to "tell it how it is". Myself and other girls have lived it. We know what works and what doesn't. We know how it works because we have been in all kinds of situations many times over. Its like me trying to tell a black lady how to be black.

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If you haven't walked the walk, you shouldn't talk the talk. :smh

Sorry guys the information and experience that you have picked up
from TS porn sites, and escort experiences, do not qualify you as
experts or qualified to make informed comments.

For us, as women this is our life 24/7/365.

For many of you, you haven't even met a transwoman, let alone been
in a relationship with one.

And on the SRS tip, I distinctly recall that only a handful of you have
stated that you have been with a post op, so again I will assert that
you do not know wherof you speak.

Finally, Julie, by no means would I get violent with the woman in question,
but I would explain to her in no uncertain terms why what she did wasn't
cool, and to keep my name and my business out of her mouth.

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After sleeping on it I decided that I am not going to beat the piss out of her, but I do feel that i MUST say something. The question is should I call her, or go into the bar and speak with her there, or wait outside for when she gets off work. I feel I need to be effective because I frequent this place often and I do not need her telling anyone else.

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After sleeping on it I decided that I am not going to beat the piss out of her, but I do feel that i MUST say something. The question is should I call her, or go into the bar and speak with her there, or wait outside for when she gets off work. I feel I need to be effective because I frequent this place often and I do not need her telling anyone else.

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Good luck, I've never been in this situation, but I easily could be. Please keep the board updated.

Also something to keep in mind is that she may not have done it maliciously? People can be real ignorant - if you've continued to be an acquaintance of hers for a few years since telling her and this is the first issue, then it might not be a huge deal?

UPDATE UPDATE UPDATE............I just got a text form the guy saying........."sorry I haven't called I wasn't blowing you off I have been sick with strep-throat". I will wait 1 hour then text him back saying "hope you feel better". I will wait the hour so he don't think he is too important lol. I will also just text him back "I hope you feel better". I have learned you cant seem over anxious, if you act less interested they want you more.

Think GG have no issue with transexuals, they do not aspire to be a TS whereas transexuals have a desire to be a GG. Who has the biggest issue?

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Think GG have no issue with transexuals, they do not aspire to be a TS whereas transexuals have a desire to be a GG. Who has the biggest issue?

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Your so dumb, they have issue if we look better then them and get more attention. I know they dont aspire to be ts, your a fool.

It does suck what happenend and I understand your anger, but at the end of the day if this guy wasn't cool about who you are, then he isn't really a long term prospect.

It prehaps would have been nice if you had more a chance to get to know each other as a person, then prehaps that would have made for a different outcome.

Plenty more fish in the sea, all you have to do is swing your bait around. :peanutbutter

Truth hurt Julie? lol

Women are lot of the times there worse enemies when guys online its real shame

The only time it is a tie is a good looking TS vs an average to less than average GG. A good looking GG is no competition to any TS. Sorry Julie, that is the way it is as much as you might hate to admit it. You always have your dreams to think otherwise. lol

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The only time it is a tie is a good looking TS vs an average to less than average GG. A good looking GG is no competition to any TS. Sorry Julie, that is the way it is as much as you might hate to admit it. You always have your dreams to think otherwise. lol

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You're so dumb and offensive. Why did you even sign up?

Actually, after thinking about it, my roommate only really started bashing on me when she realized I liked her boyfriend and kept trying to mess with his head. Haha, I even told her one time this summer that if they ever break up, he's fair-game. She was all, "You can't go after your friends' ex-boyfriend!" I totally would though. I guess this town has twisted me into driving myself crazy over a younger passive dirty hippie boy.

She has been trying to curb the whole thing ~ warning him about extraneous touching and hanging out too much. I liked it better when it had the air of a triad. Now they're engaged after only a year together (he's 21, she's 20) but I'll bet dollars to donuts they'll break up before they go through with it.

Anyway, not to go into too much detail but I think she attacks me when she feels threatened. She also feels awkward about the fact that he likes boys (bi-curious, never even kissed a guy, this is the first girl he's had sex with). He swears he likes pussy ~ soft and warm, intricate and the gateway to the world. His dad warned him to not marry the first girl that comes along, but I think he needs to experience being with a man before he gets married.

I think that guys who date tgirls have thought about it before, even if they assume a girl is a GG. My first straight BB boyfriend admitted some curiosity about penises, even though he said he'd never touch a man (he didn't particularly have any male friends either, only females). I got to teach him and that was nice but he mainly was just into anal (which he had done with GGs before).

Since he texted you, he's probably been rolling it around in his head for the past few days (whether he actually had strep or not). My guess is that he's intrigued. If he doesn't chicken out, I think you're in.

As for telling, one young, post-op girl told me that she didn't break the news until after they started sleeping together. She said this way he isn't freaked about the sexual aspect. She also had introduced him to a friend who was earlier in her transition and he had reacted well to her. She suggested this plan.

Of course you have to tell at some point (although there are stories about women in years past never revealing their secret to their husbands) but I'd be less nervous if I was post-op. I think phobic guys are more freaked out that a girl has a penis than just if she used to. Then the sterile issue is a big problem.

Zoe - putting up with people shitting on you is one thing,

Shitting on your own doorstep, thats something else entirely

@calieguy

Go jump off a bridge asshole.

@Kelly

As a wise ol TS told me "fish" are the enemy. She said more words but that says it all. You are a threat to them now.

@julie

To hell with him. He will just be loosing out on knowing you.

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As for telling, one young, post-op girl told me that she didn't break the news until after they started sleeping together. She said this way he isn't freaked about the sexual aspect. She also had introduced him to a friend who was earlier in her transition and he had reacted well to her. She suggested this plan.

Of course you have to tell at some point (although there are stories about women in years past never revealing their secret to their husbands) but I'd be less nervous if I was post-op. I think phobic guys are more freaked out that a girl has a penis than just if she used to. Then the sterile issue is a big problem.

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I consider myself a very honest and forthright person, but if I were
just going to have a casual encounter with someone I might not tell
them that I once upon a time had a penis.

Of course if they were relationship material I would share my 'herstory'

Fortunately I don't have alot of casual sex, so I'm not faced with that
conundrum often.

But Zoe you're right guys are more concerned with what you're working
with now, rather than what you used to have.

I've had more than a few tell me that if I still had a penis, it would be a
deal breaker.

But a very interesting aside is that if you mention to men in the
transcommunity, that you are a transwoman, you'd better be very
clear to them that you don't have a dick.

Or else you get treated like a red headed step child. :?

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Originally Posted by NYTSJulie

UPDATE UPDATE UPDATE............I just got a text form the guy saying........."sorry I haven't called I wasn't blowing you off I have been sick with strep-throat". I will wait 1 hour then text him back saying "hope you feel better". I will wait the hour so he don't think he is too important lol. I will also just text him back "I hope you feel better". I have learned you cant seem over anxious, if you act less interested they want you more.

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LOL... dating is so much fun.