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Can you afford to live on your own? Is she the reason money got tight? Sounds like she has a new love, (money)? Hard to kick that monster out. Might be best to go separate ways. If, and I mean a big if, you tell her how you feel and she quits escorting, how will she then feel towards you? Most likely she will dump you and find a way to becoming an escort again. Might as well face the music and to quote Barney Fife, "nip it in the bud".
why did i read this guys posts ........?
Jerry, Jerry, Jerry........
Why would it,I don't love my clients.there's no real intimacy with a client.you can't be intimate with someone you don't know.what they are getting is a fantasy.nothing about escort Amber is really me.there's no real connection.Quote:
Originally Posted by bluesoul
My lover is getting me, the real me.the me that loves, has feelings, fears, goals , interest etc.i'm there with him cause I want to be, cause I love to be.the only real intimacy I have is with lovers.
I guess I had a unrealistic and "romantic" view of the sex industry. I'd seen so many porno videos and - at the beginning - it was a bit of a turn on. Then the reality kicks in Looking back, though, we really didn't have an alternative. I did have a talk with ------ and she assured me again that she's using protection. (but I wonder if those performers who do B/B videos tell their partners that they're using protection....) Don't think I'm only focusing on this aspect but it's a concern.
I was in a very similar situation (dirty sheets NOT included, nor was she working out of our apartment). All you can do is try your best. If you don't have communication & trust in your relationship you don't have a relationship. If she has been doing it for a while now, and is making good money then she may have been bitten by the money bug, and unfortunately the only cure for that is for you to win the lotto. Otherwise she will continue to work, and if she say's she will quit that's great, but that's only if she really does.
You are the only person that knows how you really feel, and the complete story. If you can live with it then more power to you. If you can't then end it now, and try your best to remain friends. Otherwise all you are going to do is start to resent her and eventually end up disliking or hating her. If you don't tell her your true feeling then she won't know how it's hurting you. If she feels anything for you then you will work something out that's amicable for the both of you. Do it fast! The longer you wait you lessen your chances of salvaging what damage has already been done.
i could not say it any better than yogi. i was prepared to write, read his post then realized i was going to convey the exact same ideas. i too have experience in this situation.
she has feelings for you, but she also (as we all do) has feelings for the money.
Personally, as long as there are no tight bonds between the two of us, I'd say goodbye. Plenty of fish in the sea, as they say.
But it's hard to give or take advice on a forum like this. Only you know all the variables and what's in your heart.
its quite simple in my eyes.....do you believe her or not...??? if not get out of there...if you do...then realize that its only buisness...and you will actually win in the long end...;)
Been with a P4P girl now for more than 5 year...and yes...in the start i had a lot of "funny" feelings... but i come to terms now...and frankly ....shes just doing her job...;)
and for the part about her kissing a costumer a long time... well if he paid over the term...its normal to try keep a good costumer comming back;) i know for sure i would have done the same....;)
get over your jealousi....and you will profit in the end...:D
It's not quite as simple as to just make a decision one way or the other. If I left her, I'd be gutted, if I stay, I'll have doubts. She does change the sheets after each client, I was just a pathetic loser and checked through the linen basket. - Jealousy is its own punishment. Why has she gone off sex with me? (not completely - just less than we used to). What's going through my mind is that it's either because she does it so often that she's fed up with it or - more worryingly - that she's found someone else she prefers to do it with.
How on earth am I going to discuss it with her? I can hardly say I've been through the linen basket and spied on the clients leaving the apartment - that's going to look good, isn't it? Like I say, I must be a loser.