Being a gentleman these day's shock most women. When my gf and I first met. She thought it was an act that would ware out. Well, I still open doors, pull out chairs and rise from the table when a lady leaves/arrives. But, I'm an OG.
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Being a gentleman these day's shock most women. When my gf and I first met. She thought it was an act that would ware out. Well, I still open doors, pull out chairs and rise from the table when a lady leaves/arrives. But, I'm an OG.
i am very lucky that my boyfriend is such a gentleman, he opens the door for me, opens the door of the car too, stands up when im going to the ladies room, whenever we're out dining, he also, and i remember that when we walk on the street, he holds my hand and keeps me safe, i love it!, i love him! :D
Not only manners, but respect and kindness in general seems to be a smaller and smaller needle in a haystack.!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by AllanahStarrNYC
But I hold doors for guys too! Its only about kindness for your fellow man or woman.
I tend to be gentlemanly, but on the whole, yeah I agree, people, a lot of guys mostly, seem to be more asholeish these days, like last week I was walking into a restaraunt and I held open the door for some people that were leaving, and they said happy holidays, and as I started to walk in, they turned around and said "by the way, fuck you" and it caught me totally off guard so I just forgot about it and went in.
I lay the blame on society. These days all the music is about 'slapping a hoe' and just generally being disrespectful to everyone. Damn kids and their modern noise that they call music (Ironic that I'm saying this, yet I'm only 20)
While I agree with your sentiment about demeaning lyrics, I hope you're not dismissing all new music (rap or otherwise). There's still some good stuff coming out that has a real message behind it. The biggest problem is those are the songs that get airplay priority (when editted), or in the clubs. Some of the songs with real messages need better beats, I guess. :PQuote:
Originally Posted by Leverage87
All fine and good. Lots of these hot girls don't date gentlemen. They get all hot and want to fuck a guy for whatever. And after two dates this week where I couldn't have been more of a gentleman, well the girls should have been ladies to me and treated me with respect.
I'm over it. Why don't you only go out with guys that ARE gentlemen and stop giving everyone a free pass because of their money or looks. Something tells me they'll get their act together real quick when they get ZERO action.
Fox, I agree with you, the music that gets played is usually the demeaning stuff, but that aside, I usually just dont like todays music at all (some bands aside) I generally listen to 80s music.
I wish high schools would make etiquette and mannerism classes mandatory (I took my optional one in High School, at first just for the easy grade, then I realized that generally assholes die angry and unhappy)
i find a lot of women dont say thank you when u hold a door 4 them...when i ride the train more times than not i give up my seat for someone else...i have good manners but i see a lot of the opposite sex not very appreciative 4 that....
It's all in how you're taught. Look at what's on TV, especially kids TV, listen to what people are taught and you have your answer.
well my two cent on this goes like this, a man expect something in return, and a woman expect nothing in return, now before you get your underwears in a bunch this is what I mean, ie a gentlemen opens a door for a woman all he expect in return is a "thank you and a smile", not all woman, but some will not say a word and expect you to do that for them anyway, now once the gentlemen has his full of "lack of gratitude" he tends to become less of a gentlemen.in a sense men are becoming more desensitized over time.
and men only want to be noticed by that woman, and woman want to be notice by all men, and for me i don't expect a phone number or anything like that, things have a way of coming full circle.