GUYS: How do you keep a girl INTERESTED?

Damn........1 more time, this time using the brain....... :oops:

Wow......sorry let's try that again.

Damn Oli, your good too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm startin' to think that guys really do get it!!!

I've been with my woman since '77 and married since '81, not bad for a 46 yr old. And yeah, we still do alot of laughing.

OK done.

Ahhhh.....peggygee. WOW. You got me. Seriously. Don't read Cosmo. Well that's not true. I read the covers in the supermarket lines. And that pretty much covers it anyway. But was raised by only women. Mom and much older sister with a few Aunts thrown in as babysitters. They put me in every sport and art school as well. Grew up in NYC and got the open mind athen the sad part. Had the woman-of-my-dreams twice. But now they're gone.

I'll take the joking as a compliment. I do keep life interesting. Even through all the heartbreak and problems and I got a ton of them. But I'm a monogamous male and currently "hunting" for a TS girl preferably but a GG will do. And the beauties just aren't into settling in.

But I never give up. Even here in Vegas.

You guys are funny.

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Originally Posted by Hara_Juku Tgirl

I loved everything you wrote except this sentence. LOL

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Originally Posted by bezane

Window shopping after midnite when everything's closed is a great date.

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Why go window shopping when stores are all closed tho? :lol: You can still window shop even when stores are open..just a bit tempting tho if she makes you go inside fredericks or victoria's secret and make you buy her a few pairs of sexy lingeries. ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

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Hara. C'mon give me a break. We can always shop when the stores are open. But strolling a desolate area after midnite is great. Just an idea rather than staying home or going to a bar. It doesn't have to consume the entire evening. And it leads to sex outside jammed in the doorway of Agent Provocateur. But at those prices I'm actually glad the damn place is closed. Victoria's......anytime. Sexy, inexpensive.....perfect.

So I defend midnite shopping.LOL.

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Originally Posted by bezane

Ahhhh.....peggygee. WOW. You got me. Seriously. Don't read Cosmo. Well that's not true. I read the covers in the supermarket lines. And that pretty much covers it anyway. But was raised by only women. Mom and much older sister with a few Aunts thrown in as babysitters. They put me in every sport and art school as well. Grew up in NYC and got the open mind athen the sad part. Had the woman-of-my-dreams twice. But now they're gone.

I'll take the joking as a compliment. I do keep life interesting. Even through all the heartbreak and problems and I got a ton of them. But I'm a monogamous male and currently "hunting" for a TS girl preferably but a GG will do. And the beauties just aren't into settling in.

But I never give up. Even here in Vegas.

You guys are funny.

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Yeah, you can usually tell the guys who were raised mostly by women.

They tend to be better mannered, more empathetic, and will generally
have more of the positive attributes of a good mate right out of 'the box'.

I've read your advice and posts a few times in the personals keep up the
good work. :wink:

Have a few credit cards, not just one. :lol:

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Originally Posted by PghTGrlLvr

Oh, and Hara...
You go window shopping a midnight because it is simply more romantic. Your not going into Fredrick's of VS because that would have more of a sexual overtone to it and that is not the intent. It's simplty to spend quality time with "her" and her alone. IMO

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PghTGlLvr, I understood the trying to be romantic part. I also know that not a lot of guys have the patience to go with their girl shopping. But personally for me I've done that before with my ex'es a few times (different guys) and just didn't find the whole thing special. Unless of course it was say Christmas and your both by Rockefeller Center. ;)

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Originally Posted by Oli

Hara, I met my gf my second year of college, and we've been together ever since. To me it's very simple, treat her better then anyone else, including your mother and Grandmother. Tell her you love her and mean it everytime you say it. Be the man she thinks you are everyday. JWBL has one of the real keys, listen to everything she says, and make sure you hear what she's saying.(Women, at times, talk around what they want to say) Give each other all the space you need, you don't own her, nor she you. Your both there by choice.

Do the little thing like clean the kitchen after a meal, leave the seat down on the head, keep the dirty clothes in the hamper, and don't bitch about it. Compromise on things that aren't vital to you, but may be to her. Be consistent, be flexible, allow each other to grow, laugh at yourself, and each other.

When you fight, don't be cruel, don't get physical, stay on topic, leave the past in the past, try to have empathy, and let it go when it ends. Sometimes a dustup is all thats needed to refresh things.

Be interested in each others lives outside of the relationship. Be nice to her friends. Engage in her activities and invite her to be part of yours. Ask how the day went and listen when she speaks.

Bezane covered manners...they are important.

Buy her a gift or flowers anytime, because she's worth it.

All in all, she wants you to be a man, so be her man, and hers alone.

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Great advice Oli. I can't believe that there are great guys here on HA that are boyfriend materials. :P

;)

~Kisses.

HTG

as a guy who has had about 10 relationships both short and long term(ending on MY terms),, let me give you my short list of things that I have learned to KEEP a woman (a real one) .. some people will tell me I am full of shit on here.. I dont care.. this is the realistic list of things to do and not do...this has even worked with a Miss (some city in California) while I dated her.. worked like a charm until I got bored and booted her.

1. dont act needy--there is nothing worse to a girl than a guy who NEEDS her,, they want a man to be his own act,, to have confidence to tackle the world on his own. women want what they cant have.. if they feel like they just GOT you, youre done.. you have to keep a little independence about you.. women have to think that there is still a 5% chance that you may leave at anytime

2. never never talk about your own bad news--you have to act like your life is going GREAT,, I dont care if you just got fired from your job.. or your ex wife is selling off all your investments or whatever.. women want to suspend reality while they are with you.. you should be her get away fantasy -- she should want to come to you for happiness and excitement-- if you bitch and complain and moan and whine,, she may as well go talk to her best friend.

3. Be busy- stop always penciling her in FIRST... live your own life .. its ok to here and there go out with YOUR friends.. or take a drive alone somewhere

4. dont go overboard with buying her things and compliments .. as a matter of fact,, dont be scared to tell her something she is wearing sucks if it really does ect (that doesnt mean being a dick about it though) and its ok once in a blue moon to buy her something out of context, but that does nothing to keep her LIKING YOU.. all it will do is keep her USING YOU.. and all gifts do is tell her that "I am not a real man.. I am a scared little boy.. here is a gift to buy me more time"

5. always prop yourself better than you really are.... just little white lies.. like if you work at a grocery store. your not a checker.. youre an assistant manager.. or if you live in a crappy apt,, tell her that your company is providing it while you are living in the area to work .. stuff like that

ill add more to the list as I think of things ..

what women say and what they want are two different things.. what their brains tell them.. and their subconscious tells them (which the later is what my list is based off of) are two different things

How do I keep a girl interested? Well, interested is interesting, so half the time I put my interests aside and focus on something she wants to do, despite how much I may dislike it... and I don't complain about it afterward.

I take care of the little day-to-day shit without being asked. Sure, half the time she won't act like she notices, and sometimes she flat out doesn't, but if I get home early and there are dishes or the floor is a mess, I'll clean up before she gets home and I don't point it out or ask for "thank you"s.

Newness. After the first couple of months, it's pretty global that you and your girl get to talking less. There just isn't anything new or exciting happening day to day, so when things get a little long in the nail, I usually try to replace new conversation with new activities. On the weekend, I'll take her out for a scenic drive. We might go check out a new restaurant, or if I'm feeling adventurous, we'll head for the mountains, the beach, a spa... whatever, so long as it helps to break up the monotony.

Humor is probably my biggest weapon of choice, though. No corny, scripted one-liners, jokes you heard from your buddies, or jokes of the knock-knock variety. I find that situational humor is the best. She'll love the hell out of you if you can take her from a bad mood right into laughing hysterically. Obviously, there are just some things you can't joke about... like a dead grandmother, but most everything else is fair game.

That's how I keep 'em interested.

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Originally Posted by OC-Guy99

as a guy who has had about 10 relationships both short and long term(ending on MY terms),, let me give you my short list of things that I have learned to KEEP a woman (a real one) .. some people will tell me I am full of shit on here.. I dont care.. this is the realistic list of things to do and not do...this has even worked with a Miss (some city in California) while I dated her.. worked like a charm until I got bored and booted her.

1. dont act needy--there is nothing worse to a girl than a guy who NEEDS her,, they want a man to be his own act,, to have confidence to tackle the world on his own. women want what they cant have.. if they feel like they just GOT you, youre done.. you have to keep a little independence about you.. women have to think that there is still a 5% chance that you may leave at anytime

2. never never talk about your own bad news--you have to act like your life is going GREAT,, I dont care if you just got fired from your job.. or your ex wife is selling off all your investments or whatever.. women want to suspend reality while they are with you.. you should be her get away fantasy -- she should want to come to you for happiness and excitement-- if you bitch and complain and moan and whine,, she may as well go talk to her best friend.

3. Be busy- stop always penciling her in FIRST... live your own life .. its ok to here and there go out with YOUR friends.. or take a drive alone somewhere

4. dont go overboard with buying her things and compliments .. as a matter of fact,, dont be scared to tell her something she is wearing sucks if it really does ect (that doesnt mean being a dick about it though) and its ok once in a blue moon to buy her something out of context, but that does nothing to keep her LIKING YOU.. all it will do is keep her USING YOU.. and all gifts do is tell her that "I am not a real man.. I am a scared little boy.. here is a gift to buy me more time"

5. always prop yourself better than you really are.... just little white lies.. like if you work at a grocery store. your not a checker.. youre an assistant manager.. or if you live in a crappy apt,, tell her that your company is providing it while you are living in the area to work .. stuff like that

ill add more to the list as I think of things ..

what women say and what they want are two different things.. what their brains tell them.. and their subconscious tells them (which the later is what my list is based off of) are two different things

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I agree with your first point (Don't be needy), but everything else is pretty much crap. That's shit some "player" dude would pull, and while I agree that a lot of women run the same type of game shiesty player dudes do, you can't expect a relationship to go anywhere if it's all based on little white lies.

I think you've done nothing but make it abundantly clear that you really like steady sex, and that's pretty much the only thing you're interested in out of a relationship.

I'm fat, ugly, and bald....so i don;t have to worry about keeping them interested. I can't even attract them..lol.