Men on dating ts women

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Originally Posted by EvonRose

Well I guess marry a gay man, then become one right?

How on earth can you make us feel bad for wanting something out of the comfort of the industry, and the scene?

How can you a ts yourself and not get the yearning for a normal life from normal men?

You have serious issues...

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I have a normal life and a healthy relationship...

I'm a step-mother and have a mother-in-law who loves me

And a family who loves me..

I have a very normal life lol

My husband is all man and very much dominate...

And I am very much a female...

This is just too much...

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

I have a normal life and a healthy relationship...

I'm a step-mother and have a mother-in-law who loves me

And a family who loves me..

I have a very normal life lol

My husband is all man and very much dominate...

And I am very much a female...

This is just too much...

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That's the problem what's normal to you is not normal to most of us. You can't fault us for that.

There is too much abnormalities in our life, it's fair to want something normal.

Chasers are not healthy, or normal to most of us. Yes many ts are jaded, but you lack the compassion or dignity to dissect the situation, because you don't really have physiology degree because that's exactly what one would do, as oppose to paint them in bad light, causing more hate from the opposing. As an activist I expected better... But hey your popularity is important, So I guess sell yourself short...

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Originally Posted by EvonRose

That's the problem what's normal to you is not normal to most of us. You can't fault us for that.

There is too much abnormalities in our life, it's fair to want something normal.

Chasers are not healthy, or normal to most of us. Yes many ts are jaded, but you lack the compassion or dignity to dissect the situation, because you don't really have physiology degree because that's exactly what one would do, as oppose to paint them in bad light, causing more hate from the opposing. As an activist I expected better... But hey your popularity is important, So I guess sell yourself short...

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My husband is not a chaser...omg lol

Girl you are crazy............................................. ......

Any man willing to date a transsexual...bring her home...say this is who I am dating deal with it..has got BALLS...especially a ts who is high profile in the porn world..

Then introduce you to his work friends...when one may notice you from a porn movie..

any man who will stand by your side proud...love you unconditionally...and treat you well..IS LUCKY TO HAVE...female or TRANSSEXUAL..

That's lucky...

Because sweetheart..relationships in this day and age are short...and if people are together it's usually for superficial reasons...and/or they stay together but can't stand each other so they spend loads of time apart....

You have a little girl view of the world..

And just because some guy at a straight club hits on you doesn't make you the best.

I've gone to plenty of straight clubs and had loads of guys hit on me..BIG DEAL..

I wouldn't take any of them home, because I DON'T TRICK guys..

Girls rate themselves on the stupidest things of what makes them passable or what makes them hot...

A man doesn't make you hot..

If you need that to validate you..fine..

But I don't never have...

I only tried to make money in this business for surgeries in the past...and surgeries I got..

I mean you put down men who would go the distance for you/us/transsexuals

It's just mind boggling..

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Originally Posted by yogi2002

I just recently got out of a relationship with a TS that lasted almost 4 years. I'll try not to repeat anything that hasn't already been said, but then again this post has 33 pages, and I got tired of reading the same things over and over. Many of you on this board know me, and know my EX as well. I will say this first off (and many of you will disagree). She is a wonderful woman and I will always love her, BUT over the time we'd spent together we had both changed, and made good and bad decisions.

We she and I had first met on (don't laugh) MYSPACE, we talked for a few months even before meeting face to face, and upon our first date we had a great time. At the end of the night she went to kiss me, and I had told her I don't kiss on the first date. Knowing in full that she wanted more than just a kiss, but out of respect for her I did not. The reason I didn't is that I wanted to show her that I am different than a majority of the men in the TS scene. After that night we had started to spend a lot of time together, and we didn't have sex until after we were together for over a month. She at the beginning of the relationship was not an escort. She had a full time well paying job (not in the industry). I had met her family, which was NOT easy for either of us at the beginning, but over time they saw that I had respect for her & treated her as the woman she is 100% of the time. She had also met my family as well. We had gone on vacations together, and when we were together everybody saw us as a happy couple in public and private. I did not nor will I ever hide the fact that I date transsexuals.
Well after time, and good and bad decisions on both of our parts we decided to call it quits.

It all broke down basically to this - She had a man that loved and respected her NOT for what is in between her legs, but for who she is as a woman. All she saw in me was a guy that prefers TS's opposed genetic women (yes I like both). So she labelled me a "tranny chaser", and she decided to listen to what other girls thought about "chasers", and that caused problems. For the later part of our relationship she preferred to go out to gay clubs or straight clubs, but didn't want me to go with her. So I'd go and hang out with my friends, and she decided to call me and my friends "Tranny Chasers" even though we did not go home with girls after the club, or really try to. We basically sit around have a couple drinks and talk about how delusional 85% of the TS's are....lol

No matter what we men do, no matter how much we try. Regardless if we support the community or not. If we like TS's we will all ways have the burden of being labelled as a chaser, a pervert, a client, etc....

My advice to the girls: DROP THE DRAMA, if the guy is a client keep it that way, if he's a dick or starts talking about sex right away then get rid of him unless he is a client. If he is generally interested in you then use your brain (AKA don't judge him or label him) and give it a shot. Don't have delusions of grandeur like the movies portray. Go on few dates with him, and treat them as real dates NOT PAY DATES. You may actually have fun, and meet a good guy.

My advice to the guys: The girls are NOT pieces of meat, or some toy for you play with and then discard at will. If she is an escort pay for it, don't expect a freebie. You don't work for free why should they? They are women and should be treated as such. Would you go up to a genetic girl at a club and start fondling them, and pawing all over them...No.

My advice to everybody: Just remember the Golden Rule - Do onto others as you would have them do on to you. We all have feelings, and don't like them to be hurt. Don't prejudge a person solely on what other people say, or where the go or who their friends are. We all have friends that are; Cool, better looking, uglier, idiots, etc...Be up front with your intentions, and if it's meant to happen it will, if it's not don't cause drama or label the person just because it didn't work out.

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MARRY ME! :salad

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Originally Posted by alyssaluxor

MARRY ME! :salad

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Come to Los Angeles.

Love and peace girls

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

My husband is not a chaser...omg lol

Girl you are crazy............................................. ......

Any man willing to date a transsexual...bring her home...say this is who I am dating deal with it..has got BALLS...especially a ts who is high profile in the porn world..

Then introduce you to his work friends...when one may notice you from a porn movie..

any man who will stand by your side proud...love you unconditionally...and treat you well..IS LUCKY TO HAVE...female or TRANSSEXUAL..

That's lucky...

Because sweetheart..relationships in this day and age are short...and if people are together it's usually for superficial reasons...and/or they stay together but can't stand each other so they spend loads of time apart....

You have a little girl view of the world..

And just because some guy at a straight club hits on you doesn't make you the best.

I've gone to plenty of straight clubs and had loads of guys hit on me..BIG DEAL..

I wouldn't take any of them home, because I DON'T TRICK guys..

Girls rate themselves on the stupidest things of what makes them passable or what makes them hot...

A man doesn't make you hot..

If you need that to validate you..fine..

But I don't never have...

I only tried to make money in this business for surgeries in the past...and surgeries I got..

I mean you put down men who would go the distance for you/us/transsexuals

It's just mind boggling..

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I never claimed to be the best or hottest, however someone here named Kelly was the one who is trying to appear better than the rest just because you can put down ts who want to avoid chasers. Let them be. You got you own chaser to work about at home.

You cannot speak for everyman, and every transexual about what the protocol is, you never dated straight man. So who are you to say what you know about their mentality, unless of course you are admitting to being man yourself.

You have absolutely no idea what your talking about, have never pointed out that a guy just hit on me, I have gone out dated it's more than just being hit on, where is your head?

Your married I get it your happy, But just because you have your own standards, don't put the rest of us for wanting to create our standard to better chance of happiness. In my opinion, dating a chaser is unhealthy in a relationship.

You and your husband are very open with sex and threesome etc. Not every transexual is good with that. Just as majority of real gg and man relationship.

Your not allowed to make protocols, and standards for the rest of us, because your standards are low for us. We would not tolerate being with a gay man, who fools around with other guys, tg, gg....

Chasers do not go the distance for us, so your confused honey!

I am not saying chasers are bad people, or evil. All I am saying is in a relationship I prefer that to not develop, i got tranny chaser friends, and I don't mind sitting with them having a drink and some covo... The point i am trying to make is sometimes the fetish aspect of it is too much for them and they have even told me themselves that they are confused.

they tell me they like gg women and rather keep a gg woman, but on the side mess around with other ts. I can understand that, but I don't think its necessarily healthy for anyone.

Dating a heterosexual can make one insecure too...i date a guy that does not touch my private parts...other then my behind...and he is.the best...

But i would date bisexual or even gay guys as long as they dont feel the need to wear lingerie and get fucked...and thats where it goes wrong with chaser types....

You can be a chaser...no problem...as long as you are top...you can be gay..as long as you top other boys...

Being top for me is the important part...and not have too much of a fixation on my private parts....

But a lot of chasers are exactly that...and a lot of them really dont treat us with yhe respect they would give woman..

I'm not trying to stir anything. And I don't care what you do or who your partner is. But it's not just transsexuals who think you're dishonest. Your porn career has given you a less than perfect reputation in terms of business. And you initially did a lot of extreme bullshitting with your photos here for quite a while. That, I witnessed for myself. It was definitely pretty maniacal. And I don't know about your parents' deaths for sure, but I've heard otherwise. That's all. But you didn't have to share your mom's name with me. Evon's the one you accused of things. And you did start this thread, which was pretty accusatory towards transsexual sex workers in regards to their personal relationships with men. So you sort of stirred this mess yourself.

And I have clinical psychologists in my family. I'm not sure what your degree is in, but something sounds sketchy imo.

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Originally Posted by EvonRose

It's horrible to to throw your community down to make yourself...

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What is this "Community" of which you speak?
Did I get automatically signed up when I transitioned? http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/s...asic/blink.gif

On HA there are a lot of Ts women who work/have worked/intend to work in the sex industry in some guise,
be it Whoring, Porn performing or in a 'behind the scenes' part of the Job.
There is certainly a loose Confederacy as we all share to varying degrees, common themes.
And I'd suggest that many of us hang around the Ts label rather a long time, for commercial reasons.

If you expand 'Ts community' to the wider world, this breaks down even further:
Other than the "Professional Transsexual", other Ts women often move through the Ts stage of their lives far faster,
and get on with 'being that woman' leaving the bad ts memories far behind.
Yes I've friends who have a Ts aspect to their lives, be it running up to transition through to having had SRS ten or more years ago. The Ts common starting point made us aware of each other but that's all.
I'd say we are friends despite the Ts stuff. The vast vast % of Ts women I know or am simply aware of is staggeringly huge. But they are no more than names and faces. I share nothing in common with them and consequently have zero sense of community.
The term "sister" from total strangers, creeps me out TBH.

And anyway, the clue is in the name Transsexual
That is a changing, moving target, somewhere most are in before they move on with their lives.

...IMHO http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/s...ic/biggrin.gif