I don't know if what is more proper though. If you are attracted to someone is it because they possess feminine features or are you attracted to someone because of the features seem feminine. Let me make it more simple, do we appreciate the attractiveness of someone because they possess likeable features (ie natural skin, the shape of their hips, or butt) or do we appreciate them for them seeming feminine to us.
And, you have also pointed out the slippery slope that I was trying to avoid. Slippery slopes in arguments never tip in the favor of intellectualism, but they seem to tumble down towards predispositions of preference.
So, I hate to answer your question with another question, but is there such a thing as identifying a man or woman because of her claim or does interpersonal relations such as one's methodology of the self strike standards into the hearts of all?