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Blackaddaer wrote:
"If i spent all week talking to a girl and then she told me she was in prison for dismembering and eating people, well...Id kinda not want to talk to her. "
Are you seriously equating being TG with murder, dismemberment and cannibalism?
On this forum?
And you're also implying that if she told you up front about being a homicidal cannibal, you WOULD talk to her?
Hey, im only espousing being up front with a guy when you KNOW your interested and he may be interested back.... To my way of thinking it really behooves you to make every attempt to find out if hes going to be trassexual friendly from the get go.
Regular schmucks in your day to day life dont need to know anything.
Your wrong. If someone is turned on and attracted to another person it isn't something you can just turn off. Secondly, sexually orientation is the attraction to a man or a woman, not the attraction to a pussy or a cock. The mind doesn't work like that, its a mind funk in a way but its true.Quote:
Originally Posted by BlackAdder
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Originally Posted by str8curiousm
Quiet noob...
Oh i know just how complicated it is lol....But if were going to bandy words like "straight", "gay" and "bi" in the strictest sense.....Then i still think you cant be truly straight if your going to cross over...even with a truly beautiful TS like yourself or some of the other girls who post here....Im not sure what you are even after years of thinking about it, but i know your not "straight" by the definition.
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Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
I think you are wrong.......
Some guys DO NOT WANT a penis, Julie.
Edit in........
In fact, I KNOW I'm right about that.
I'm willing to bet that you do too.
I agree....some guys do not...its not anywhere in there worldview.
Some guys do, and are generally labeled as chasers by the community...unfortunate because again a small, malicious minority has ruined it for everyone.
And then theres the guys that might be okay with it after they know you for awhile..
But Ill tell you straight up......getting a guy emotionally hooked on you and then revealing your a TS can be devastating and dangerous.
Again, those are not the people I like to associate with. So what??? Let them talk! It takes more strength and compassion for others to be a transsexual then people will ever know. I am not asking for a man to tell his parents BUT if the convo came up he could just ask " Do you love her, do you think she loves me? Do you see how happy I am? Then why should it matter what's between her legs? That's between me and her and a very personal subject. I am a grown man and I love my girl, no matter who she is physically she is a respectful, smart, amaizing human being and you should care for her for that reason and that reason only! "
That's my kind of man, my kind of person.
Transsexuals tend to carry alot of burden on their shoulders. We sometimes forget that we are the only ones who can need to accept ourselves, and we do not need that from others to retain our happiness. Once we let go of some of that, and love ourselves, then you can be above any one who may not accept us. We need to search for those who do accept us. Like burn victims who feel ugly outside and just want someone to see who they are on the inside, or a blind person who can only see inner beauty, we need to do both for the sake of our own sanity. For ourselves.
Sexual orientation is not the attraction to a pussy or a cock. People are not attracted to genital. Example I like cock but I dont want to be with a tranny. I would be with a FTM be4 a tranny. I am attracted to a man, and someone who has the gender roles of a man.
By the way, if you think that SRS will release you from the responsability of being honest or being who you are - That is a HUUUUUUGE mistake. You will still need to be honest with yourself and others to acheave true happiness. That goes for the tranny chasers as well. Releasing yourself from what holds you from completing your lessons in life is a HUUUUGE mistake.
Love is about honesty - It starts with yourself first!
Don't be delusional thinking SRS will change things. MOST men will turn you down just out of fear of being "OUTED " even if you do have a pussy. You were still born a man and that will always be part of who you are. A relationship is based on honesty first. That is why alot of people are unhappy in their current relationships, they forget what is the fundemental basis of a healthy living.
There is a big difference between Living and just Surviving
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Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
Hey Julie,
I respect you as a person,
but it seems now that in your attempt at fooling others,
You've now managed to fool yourself.
*shrug*
Good luck, I suppose.
Oh suck my dick, but give me 300 bucks first....silly trickQuote:
Originally Posted by ARMANIXXX
I hope things can work out in your favor next time Julie.
I get so frustrated when every trick comes out from under their rock to "tell it how it is". Myself and other girls have lived it. We know what works and what doesn't. We know how it works because we have been in all kinds of situations many times over. Its like me trying to tell a black lady how to be black.
Armani - why must you always start shit with the girls? Jeeeeese get a life!
I am surprised you haven't been banned yet - What a hater - do you have anything nice or inteligent to say? EVER?
The whole dating process is about getting to know someone you're interested in. There's no way of knowing what random characteristic could be a deal killer for someone who is interested in you.
I know guys that would dump a girl if they found out she was of a certain ethnicity or religious background, does that mean that every girl should immediately point out their genealogy or religious history/views upon being hit on?
Just because rather or not a girl has a given characteristic influences rather YOU are wanting to have them in a LTR does not mean everyone else has the same views.
Well, GG's have problems with T-girls because you show them what it is like to be true women.
What do expect Julie? You're on a forum populated with guys with an attraction for tgirls. If I met a hot lady at a straight bar on the Island and discovered she was t, I'd feel like I just hit the daily double. This is not exactly the feelings your future husband has right now. But if the guy is all you say he is, he'll want to see you again.Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
And I would certainly surpress the urge to go ghetto on the bitch who outed you. It'll give you like 10 minutes of satisfaction and buy your chances with the dude you're interested in.
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Originally Posted by xxxsexyd
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No one was attacking Julie nor do we want to attack her. When I was a dude my mom told me " Do not ever strike a woman, not with words, your hands or ever a rose ". I am not sure where people's respect for others has gone these days, and why some of us always find the most oportune times to lash out and strike their hate - I mean seriously...
Exactly I love how the men on here tell us what's best for us, but our way has obviously been working.
aww thank u babe........i am going to Starbucks I need to get my ass moving today this whole thing got me all twisted up I been in my pjs all day.Quote:
Originally Posted by flabbybody
Julie, you are a very attactive woman - the girl must like him and that is why she did it - she was very offended that he was more attracted to a transsexual then for her...
You are gorgeous and you don't need to be anyone but yourself. Hold your chin up and next time you see her " Kill her with kindness " . Don't ever mention it, just let her fall into her misery, because her true reason behind what she did was to hurt you in the long run. Don't give her the satisfaction. I think that every guy you meet now you should go to her and brag! LOL
Cheer up and be honest with people - they will value you alot more!
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Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
Again Julie,
I don't know how it is, and I can't really speak on that.
I can speak of my experiences about honesty.
But I can relay others' experiences as told to me.
And from what you said, you may have lost a "potential good one" because of tendency/philosophy.
Obviously it's up to you to change that or not,
But it does stand to reason.......
--SomeguyQuote:
"If you don't like getting what you're getting, stop doing what your doing".
My sister want to go with me and confront herQuote:
Originally Posted by xxxsexyd
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Kelly, as long as you're not generalizing then I see your point. If you are generalizing then this quote below, of mine, is not the only one voiced along a similar vein...Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyShore
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Originally Posted by Odelay
My ex's GG girlfriend wrote me an email saying " He is just trying to be a woman and he will never be one because he can't give birth. He wears makeup and he is gay...." All this nasty shit... I wish i still had the letter. Me and my ex are still great friends and she just hates that. She hates that I have more love for him now then when we were dating. She hates that I accomplished everything she ever wish she could even attempt. When he mentions her now he says " I was talking to the woman you hate the other day... " I quickly correct him and say " I don't hate her, I actually love her for teaching me the lessons she did. It was through the pain she imposed on me that I realized a very important lesson. I hate the fact that she fells the way she does about me because all I ever wanted to do is love you. And she told your brother I was a TS which imposed alot of pain on you, her actions are malicious and I feel saddness for her. I hope she gets better... And no... I don't hate her at all - I hate what she did to me, and what you allowed her to do to our relationship "... Danmmmmm that must hit a soft spot! LOL I am sure he tells her everything so.... I get my message across
If you confront her not only will you be showing her you are less of a person but also showing her you are an angry person. Like I said, take a deep breath, go do something that makes you feel good with your sister, go get a pedicure... A new shirt... and just spend the day with yoru sis instead of causing trouble.
A great friend of mine once said " Pick your battles " and that was after I broke a 14 yo girl's cell phone at the movie theater because she would not shut up LOL
That was then... I wish I had the inner balance then I do now. I am actually pretty ashamed of my actions then. But I feel alot better when I handle myself above those who cause other's harm. It's like when you were a kid looking at an ant farm... You start to see the world and people who just populate it as just that...
One example: When in a croud and I am being pushed around, I just sorta stand there and let others go first, as opposed to my old self who would start shit. I now find others who are even watching my actions and we make eye contact and it's sort of a weird mental connection that happends. You will always find similar minds if you just look hard enough.
DO NOT LET HER ACTIONS BUG YOU!
You are gorgeous - that's the only reason why she did what she did.
I guess Rothmann's Steakhouse on Thursday nights is not the Island place I should be hanging at to met hot ladies.
LOL been to Rothmanns but thats not the placeQuote:
Originally Posted by flabbybody
Tricks coming out from under there rocks eh??
Also, I didnt realize you needed to be transsexual to live an honest life Kellly..wow... revelation!
Sorry, but your way has not been working as i hear far more about how keeping that kind of secret has turned out badly rather then well.
If you girls care to post some stories about how hiding your real gender from your intended boyfriend has helped you, Im all ears.
go to 4 on 110 its the new hot spot.
I kept it from a guy for 2 months and then ended up having a year long relationship with him.Quote:
Originally Posted by BlackAdder
Another I kept it from for a month back when I lived in MN, we dated for 6 months and now he keeps calling me telling me he misses me.
Do you want more?
Ok I am outta here 4 now.........kiss kiss
I have met a guy once who I gave head to and he didn't know LOL
He wanted to fuck but I said I was on the rag LOL
Aside from that I really have not had a long term relationship with a man as a woman yet. Well, I did actually, if you count a year of relapses and fights as a relationship. Also had one a year ago that lasted 6 months, but he wanted to be my father and he was Italian/Irish. That temper UGHHHH! But they both met me knowing I was transsexual. So that made it pretty easy.
But I find that men who are into transsexuals sometimes carry around the same ammount of drama if not more, then the girls do. It's pathetic. Once you learn the game you smell it from a Mile away.
That's why I am single - I will not settle!
Besides that I have plenty of fun braking in the newbees I meet on regular settings who just have a curiosity... That's enough for now.
Men are like kids sometimes... LOL
What does that mean, Adder?
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Originally Posted by Nicole Dupree
That I harass people or somethin?
Yeah. I'm confused about that.
Damn near offended...........if this wasn't the internet I mean :wink:
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Originally Posted by DaLonelyGuyNJ
Its means just because ive never been to Cairo, doesnt mean I dont know anything about it....
Whatever...girls will do what they are gonna do...But i still maintain its a bad idea and works out poorly more often then not....and sometimes fatally.