Thanks for the kind words and the support. I can't believe you remembered the pics I posted; especially considering how seldom I post on here. I'm truly impressed!
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Thanks for the kind words and the support. I can't believe you remembered the pics I posted; especially considering how seldom I post on here. I'm truly impressed!
After walking out on a really long term marriage (for reasons other than hobbying) I was lucky enough to date a few beautiful girls (TS of course) who were interested in me eventhough I'm relatively old (late forties) and make a fairly pedestrian salary. My current girlfriend is an absolute doll who I adore and enjoy sharing all the simple things in life with.She's gorgeous and a real pleasure to be with..
Dating someone in the escorting business isn't always easy and probably not for everyone. I still make mistakes by saying stupid shit before thinking...and create some occasional rough patches in this budding relationship...but I really want this to work out.
If you want a relationship with an escort...you have to learn to put your jealousies aside (not always easy), with the realization that - with some of the clientelle these girls may have: some wealthy,maybe some famous, some younger or better looking - ....she still chooses to be with you..(and in my case...mental baggage and all)...and that says a lot.
In ALL relationships (GG or TS)..you get what you put into it.
Two things tho':
1- Make sure that it's a real relationship you want - not someone you can con into being your free sex toy...while you continue to fuck around with other girls so you can feed your own ego about what kinda playa you are.
2- If you're coming out of a long time , broken relationship- wait awhile to heal before you jump into the dating pool.
some people might find this funny but here is an ad i recently posted on craigslist
My name is Ruby. Im PR and Italian, 5'10 170 lbs with hazel green eyes and medium length brown hair (NO Weave) I model and have done some film work. Im here because im really sick of the typical guys im used to dealing with and i'm looking for a change of pace. I really dont expect to find what im looking for here, but u never know.
I live alone in Yonkers, i make my own schedule. Im self sufficient, versatile and a lil dominant but very sensual and passionate as well. I enjoy travelling, dining out, bar hopping, playing video games, ammusement parks and meeting new people.
Im college educated, intelligent, well spoken and an all around total package tgirl.
Im in search of a single man who is well hung, toned and fit as well as handsome. Someone GENEROUS who isn't into playing head games or random hookupz. Someone who is looking for that one person he can truly devoote himself to. A man who will spoil me with nice gifts, and can be here for me at the drop of a dime if i just want to cuddle and watch a movie, or dine out in the city.
IM NOT LOOKIONG FOR A ONE TIME MEETING. I'm looking for someone to potentially build a relationship with. A friend who can devote time money sweat and tears into a possible LTR.
Someone who will show me how a woman like me deserves to be treated. Someone who will appreciate my beauty and all of my special attributes that make me the amazing person that i am!
Please DO NOT respond if you
* dont have a car
* are not financially stable
* are married or currently involved in another relationship
* are concerned with what society would label you if u choose to date a transexual
* are looking just for sex
* have a small wee wee lol
* are FAT
Thanx for taking the time to read this and i hope to hear from u soon!
Please respond with photos
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Originally Posted by RubyTS
C'mon nobodies perfect. It looks like you're shooting for a pro athlete.
that would be sweeeeeet!
For our community it would be as long as he ain't ashamed or closetedQuote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
Well then daddy pass over that blk american express card and i really wont mind too muchQuote:
Originally Posted by T-girl hound
He aint goin play to well if you get ahold of em before gamedayQuote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
Thanks for your intelligent and non-judgmental assessment of my personality. It's amazing that you can tell someone's personality from a couple of words on an internet board, and generalizing makes you look smart too. Don't project your view on life on others.Quote:
Originally Posted by phobun
That'll guarantee you a great LTR.Quote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
hey u never know, there are guys out there who actually enjoy spoiling their women
\I like to treat my GF well, tell her I love her frequently and give her something now and then. The idea of being a walking credit card does not appeal to me.
I spoil my girl, but it's only a Visa. Black card out of the range of stay home writersQuote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
ok well maybe im just exagerrating a lil bit lol. i really dont expect to find a rich hubby, the fantasy is nice tho. Every girl likes to be spoiled. I mean imagine how much of a turnoff this scenario can be. A guy takes me to Dominican Republic, brags about the spa treatments and mud baths, we get to the spa... and IM expected to pay. I mean it was nice for him to pay my flight and he covered the accomodations, but when it came time for the extras, like the flying boat or swimming with the dolphins i was expected to pay my 1/2
Sounds like your slightly bitter....Quote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
I think you need a Rich hubby or somebody that's willing to go into deep debt for you, never the two shall meet.
I'll put my money on the dude that's willing to go deep into credit card debt just to keep you entertained and allows you to shop at Bebe, tisk tisk.
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Originally Posted by RubyTS
I'm guessing he left with dry cock huh
no he aint deserve sex i didnt give him any the whole vacation
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Originally Posted by RubyTS
I would've just had to come out of pocket, a sexless vacation is a no-no
Are you sure you are looking for a LTR? And not a no-limit-credit-card attached do a 10inch dildo?Quote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
Imagine how much off a turn off it is for a guy when he is expected to pay and pay and pay and pay and pay and ...
i believe a relationship is 50/50 but u dont take a girl out, invite her to show her things she has never seen or experienced before and exppect her to come out of pocket. This was right after my facial surgery so i was broke and he knew it. I was even considerring NOT going because i knew i had to pick back up my cashflow and also i was going thru a tranitionary period where i really deserved to be pampered. Also he pressure me for sex a lot and we were at a point in our relationship where things were spiraling downhill. What a way to rekindle the flame, by saying hey i wanna take u to a foreign country, ur gonnaput out every night oh and btw if u want a mud mask bitch ur gonna have to suck some dick for it
Works for me... LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by Teydyn
Can I have a car too?
Sweetie - you just don't understand. :-) Men have to pay for their fun. That's just the way it is. And remember - you get what you pay for.Quote:
Originally Posted by Teydyn
Giggles,
TS Jamie :-)
LOL - Lesson learned, ALWAYS get the arrangement made in advance and get your $$ and return ticket up front. LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
Hugs,
TS Jamie :-)
Look if they have been together for 5 years and are happy, then why criticize? It's working for them and that is not an easy thing to find.Quote:
Originally Posted by phobun
Sail on Captain...
I was with a Tgirl for 3 years and very much enjoyed it. She returned to Guatemala last year to undergo treatment of a chronic pancreatic condition. I hope she is able to return soon and we can get back together. I really miss her.
i wish i could have a relationship last that long. It always end up becoming a power struggle! They always end up pressuring me for sex and dont understand that if im not in the mood, IM NOT IN THE MOOD! Sometime's i'll do it when i really dont feel like it, but then it begins to feel like im being used and i start going into the whole ITS YOUR BODY empowered role and i get REALLY bitchy. Then we usuallly start fighting a lot. I start to dread being intimate and avoid it at all costs. After i while they continue pressuring me and i get so turned off to all the things about them that i once found to be cute and tell myself that all they care about is sex and thats not the kind of relationship i want to be in.
Thanks for sharing Ruby. It's good to hear the girls' perspective on this. Relationships are tough, and not always smooth. Looking back now though I only remember the good things, and I miss my Tgirl.Quote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
I dated a t-girl for sometime and she was the one true love of my life, did not matter that she was a t-girl, best relationship I ever had and want her back everyday........t-girls...GGs they are all people you can make whatever you want work.
Then stop dating "cute" assholes.Quote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
Cute may be good for a one-nighter, but for a relationship its only a small bonus. A good and fitting personality is so much more important.
yeah i dated an older gentleman who turned out to be just as big of a cock whore as the restQuote:
Originally Posted by Teydyn
I actually met my bf on a Yahoo group for tgirls(forgot exactly which one it was) back in 2003, I was not full time or taking any hormones and did not even meet him as a girl I was just to scared back then but he really did not care he still treated me as a girl he also took me to my first goth club and gladly intorduced me to all his friends, but he was/is very much into the fetish world and at the time that frieghtend me so I broke up with him. We still kept in touch and after a few years we met up again at a convention and that is when we actually fell in love.
He often wonders why i'm with him, granted he's not the best looking person but he's so loveable and nice and I support him in everything he does and give my honest opinion about everything. He does treat me more than I treat him well, until recently due to the economy but he makes more money than I do since he runs a few of the big fetish events in NYC and rents sheet music to orchestras and I only work at Starbucks but I am a very low maintenance person and am always worried about the money we spend.
As for the prostitution thing, I used to escort and there has been many times when I made $200 in one week and thought "Damn I could be making that in one hour." but after the horrible experience of being arrested in a hick town(going in my comic *angry face*) I really really do not want to go back to it, true it was easy to make that money I useually had to only shove my cock in their mouth but gah! Holding that money was great and after the first few times I did not care how ugly and fat a client would be as long as they had the money. Since then i've taught myself to wait instead of wanting it now now NOW! All good things come to those who wait eh? Now i'm trying to decide where I should finish my degree. What did my bf think of what I was doing? He had escorted himself at one point and understood the motivation for me but was constantly worried about my safely as a good boyfriend should be.
Another story, me and a few of my friends from the support group decided to go to the gay club and an older divorced guy came up to me nervous, but saying how hot I was. I was seriously talking to him untill he told me how much hotter I was than my friends and I took offense to that so yeah I got him to buy me a full cup of a butterynipple for $8 I drank it down really fast, went to dance then left without one word leaving him there waiting for me to come back.
Being in a relationship means maintaining a level of positivity in order for the relationship to remain functional. As adults we learn to abandon teenage habits of collecting things which only serve a temporary purpose with no lasting positive effect in one's life. As a couple, we must move to the next stages of our lives together in the most harmonious and progressive way as possible. If any time one individual compromises more than the other, resentment will brew within the one who feels pressured and usually the one who is obviously not compromising enough.
Having a monogamous, long term intimate partner means exclusivity if such premise is mutually agreed upon as being the parameter of the relationship. If so, then the pursuit of personal fantasies, fetishes and taboos must be abandoned, in order to make room for mutual and more satisfying exploration between the pair! The practice of self discipline and sense of responsibility over rides selfish indulgences once practiced as a teenager, ex: every time Mom and Dad left the house the horny devil tears off the proper child costume, who couldn't wait for this moment to masturbate 10 times with every flip of the pages in his private stash of nudie magz. What happens with the pair are committed in matrimony and one or both parties continues their eager bad habits of porno diving once the other one is not around? Temporary thrills no longer have the same appeal and will never bring you to the same intensity of satisfaction as it once did at age 12, so get rid of it!
What kind of a monogamous, long term intimate partnership is that? Why not remain single if its that much work and almost sexually frustrating when you can't wait to jump right into all the possible pornographic sources, just as soon as your partner is away. Where does that mentality come from?! Well they stem from your teenage years, unfortunately many people do not out grow.
More often than not the shame and embarrassment which follows, is quickly covered up and justified with extra, and more frequent I love yous, overly smothering compliments and much firmer embraces, which otherwise do not exist normally when present in each other's company. Rather, eyes are glued and distracted to shinny moving objects from both television, and computer screens!
You are lying to yourself, there is no healthy picture of a relationship there because you are incapable of such, being that you may not have had a true long term relationship before. When someone is so caring and so different, show sets a new bar of standard, who sets the finest example of how to be a partner, wouldn't clue in as soon as possible to preserve what is most precious in your life? Obviously potentially mutual and engagingly loving relationships don't exactly come around every day when you sit lazily on the couch waiting for it to happen. You must make it happen. Make choices to improving one's self is hard work and dedication, you do not learn this over night being alone. It is a divine opportunity when life gifts you someone so caring and so utterly giving of themselves they would sacrifice literally everything for you. However, if you do not see yourself doing the same, please don't keep them like you keep a huge collection of most other things which simply take up more and more room, which continue to pile on more and more stress in your life. This opportunity of a relationship is a great learning tool to better yourself. You must deserve to have a great relationship, it doesn't just happen because you are really good at convincing them you really love them, or that they are the world to you. Be proactive and have something to show for it rather than words alone.
Begin by throwing things out and making room for meaningful, and things which constantly bond one another, which serves purpose in the relationship for a life time!
Its my dream to have a bf also even a husband
But it seems so hard
Where could i find all the serious guys out there?
It is going to be hard enough for you because you're a transsexual, and a lot of guys ultimately want a wife to bear a child. A post-op living stealth, or near-stealth, would have an easier time, but there is still the kid issue.Quote:
Originally Posted by alyssats
Even if kids are not an issue with the guy, they might be for his family, and on top of that, most guys would not want to bring a prostitute home and introduce her to mom.
But most important of all, no guy with any self-respect is going to marry a prostitute. That is why the whole Pretty Woman fairytale is sheer fantasy.
If you're a transsexual prostitute whining about a lack of serious guys interested in marriage, then you need to get serious.
Looks to me like you're not going to find mr Right here, unless you don't mind a 'chaser' which would make his motives somewhat questionable at least. I guess meeting someone 'by accident' who isn't turned off by your status would be the way to go.Quote:
Originally Posted by alyssats
It's equally hard for me to find ms Right... TG or GG.
That said, if I met you somewhere I'd try to get noticed.
Well thats my take as well...Quote:
Originally Posted by phobun
Yet I'm a transsexual adult performer & escort as well.
And since these career directions, I've had two serious relationships
& currently have three seriously interested suitors.
All of these people know everything about me, yet they have had / want a full relationship with me.
Go figure?
I guess its down to the individuals concerned, both them & me.
I must agree that is is is extremely hard to find a bf or even have a relationship. I would say relationships are tough but being ts in a relationship makes things even more complicated. I would love to have a bf though, but it takes ALOT MORE work than your normal guy/girl couple.
This is hillarious.
One one side youve got 50 odd year old out of shape old transbian escorts saying 'men have to pay pay pay pay for everything', yet they have and never will get a decent man in their life.
On the other hand youve got escorts on here saying they want a boyfriend and cant understand why?
Lets put this extremely simple, as simple as it gets.
You are WOMEN therefore do what any regular genetic girl would do.
Most genetic women are not prostitutes/sex workers so that ruins it for you out of the minority of guys that will accept ts women down to maybe 10% of the original figure.
So you are left with a pool of 10% of the original figure who like ts women.
Now of that original figure, how many of the educated, good looking and hung men are going to want to bother paying for an escort? Some of them will instantly be turned off by the fact that you are a sex worker anyway because they dont want to have sex with a whore. So that takes the best guys out of the equation.
If lets say you managed to get a degree and hold down a good regular job, just the same as any regular girl who is successful, without all this sex work bullsh1t, then you might find that you have access to 100% of the men that are sexually attracted to ts women.
That will be quite a lot of men.
Out of that figure, there is bound to be a guy who you really fancy and who fancies you back. Someone with a decent job, good looks, a big dick and nice personality. Someone who will be faithful to you as well.
So then what would happen is what happens in any normal straight relationship. The guy will pay for the first few dates, then if it gets serious, both people either take turns to pay or pay for themselves or share the bill 50/50.
The whole point of a relationship is 'love', its not about a monetary policy, or a banking scheme, it is about loving each other. Who cares who pays?
Bottom of the story is this, if you are constantly worried about money and not focussing on meeting a nice guy you fancy and who treats you well and with respect, then you will never ever have a proper relationship.
Money might be important in life, but do you really think that a sexy guy (who can get practically any girl he wants, for free) is going to pay for everything so that his transexual prostitute girlfriend can be showered with gifts whilst he stays faithful to her and deals with her fucking 2-3 clients every single day?
Come on now, get real. Live in the real world.
Regular women can manage it, so you should manage it. You have less choice of men to choose from than regular women, yet you throw it all down the toilet with prostitution and expecting men to pay for everything.
Totally pathetic. No decent guy in their right mind would want to date someone who expects everything to be paid for. Not because he doesnt fancy you, but because he will think you are greedy and selfish. Greedy and selfish people do not end up in good relationships.
As for the comments on 'men have to pay', please, live in the real world will you.
MOST OF THE TS ON HERE (THE YOUNG SEXY ONES) FANCY MEN, THEY ARE NOT TRANSBIANS, THEY DO NOT FANCY WOMEN.
Therefore they want a decent man. Yet some idiots on here are telling them to 'charge' the men money for taking them on a date?
Pathetic.
I have to kinda agree. When i was in college i had a pool of str8 guys to choose from. Being an escort and especially dealing with men online is not the way to find a bf, cuz most the guys r just looking for sex and those who say otherwise are trying to run game. If you work a legit job, or are in school or do something regularly, you're likely to meet a cool guy in your school or at work, on the train, who WILL over time, begin to like u and appreciate u AS LONG AS youre not giving it up the first night and hoping hes gonna call, or acting out of character. Being modest but confident is the best way to draw a man to u. Although there ARE guys out there who dont mind being in a relationship with an escort, im pretty sure thats not the kind of relationship any of us want to be in
Dude - if that was directed at me you can - - FUCK OFF!Quote:
Originally Posted by igotmacedbymimi:(
Don't you ever fucking judge me or insult me unless you've walked 10 miles in my shoes.
It's no wonder Mimi maced you. LOL
Just curious loser - how much money do you make? I notice it's always the losers, pimps, or outright cheapskates who take issue with taking care of their girlfriends.
How about you putting your TS GF through the university so she doesn't have to prostitute. I am. How about you standing up for TS rights so they have the possibility of getting hired once they do get a degree. I do. How about you hiring transsexuals at your company - I DO!
How do you propose that most t-girls GET a high paying job? When we have States like Utah refusing to provide TS job discrimination protection. In Utah you can be FIRED just for being SUSPECTED of being gay, or trans. You can be refused a hotel room an apartment or even a MEAL for being trans and you have NO RECOURSE. The Federal government turned down ENDA last year that would have provided federal anti discrimination law.
In a survey done in San Diego in 2004 (the most recent one available), less than 4% of transsexuals earn above $100,000. 36% earn less than $10,000 and over 57% had incomes of under $20,000 a year.
Yes, I believe that men should take care of their girlfriends. That doesn't mean buying her a BMW on the first date - unless you are really rich... LOL Why should a girl put out for you just because. (Hotties get a pass. LOL)
As for me I don't NEED a man in my life. I don't need the money. I've got money. I'm in a relationship. But I also don't need to be used by a guy who's going to go home to his wife and kids and leave me to fend for myself UNLESS he's going to "take care" of me. I've got more self esteem than that.
As for your comment about love. Well love is great but it's just as easy for a girl to love a rich man as a poor one. And I'm sure as hell not going to support a poor man, no matter how nice or big his scholng is.
And my comments are not so much directed toward people who meet in one manner or another and fall in love, regardless of the T. I'm talking about men who just want sex with a hot young TS, and who then won't be seen in public with her, or take her home to Mom.
So let me ask you this - you want love, but you don't want to pay for it. Are you going to marry a TS girl and have your family and friends and employer know it? Are you still going to LOVE her when she's 50 - and when YOU are 50 and nobody wants your fat saggy beer gutted ass but her.
Are you going to stand by her when she is discriminated against by her employer, or her school. Are you going to adopt children with her? How? Can you support a family in a decent standard of living?
What are you going to do when your landlord kicks your ass out because you are a "fag" and you live with a transsexual. What are you going to do when you car is vandalized by a homophobic neighbor?
Are you going to hold her hand when she comes out of surgery after having her sex change - an operation that you have shared 50/50 in the expense.
And what are you going to to even AFTER her sex change when your friends and neighbors and employers whisper behind your back - "psst - that's the guy who's married to the girl who used to be a man."
If you aren't going to do all that and a 100 times more then STFU and go back to whacking off to your free HA porn pics.
Sheesh,
TS Jamie :-)
spot onQuote:
Originally Posted by igotmacedbymimi:(
I have no idea, thing is though, if you meet a considerably hot tranny NOT in an escort (online, club, wherever) situation, the likelihood of her doing some adult entertainment (whoring, webcam, milking some sugardaddy) is very high. Even if she is doing a "legit" job, she will make that easy money on the side. It's so widespread these days, also with GGs.Quote:
Originally Posted by flabeeboi
Such an arrengement might work for some young dude, aged between 20 and 35 roughly, but in no way for a career interested professional male later in his life.