cmon were talking 20 minutes of chatting here not month and month of building a connectionQuote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
and if they really think that that would give them "teh gay" they probably deserve it... and need it too
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cmon were talking 20 minutes of chatting here not month and month of building a connectionQuote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
and if they really think that that would give them "teh gay" they probably deserve it... and need it too
I honestly think half of you didn't even read what I stated lol
let me restate I DON'T TELL THEM WHEN WE FIRST START TALKING IT'S JUST A CONVERSATION -- IF THEY END UP LIKING ME AND WANTING TO MEET ME OF COURSE I TELL THEM...DID ANYONE MISS THAT..YOU GUYS ARE CALLING IT TRANNY TRICKING WHEN IT ISN'T AT ALL.
I DON'T THINK ANY GIRL GOES UP TO SOMEONE AND SAY HEY HOW ARE YOU DOING MY NAME IS KELLY AND I HAVE A PENIS... :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: COME OFF IT.
AND OF COURSE YOU MISSED MY OTHER POINTS GO BACK AND READ BEFORE YOU START TYPING.
thats what im talking about, straight guys do not want that, that is why they are looking for women!! Its no big deal to you, cuz your into it. Im just being realistic here.
People get attached to people onthe internet, you have to be careful. Thats how miriam situations happen.
Look at the jenny jones thing. If you humiliate a straight guy into making him look gay, that is one of the WORST things you can do to his reputation.
THANK YOU SOMEONE WITH COMMON LOGIC...THEY ARE SO ENWRAPPED WITH TRANNY TRICKING LOL THE REASON I LEAVE IT OUT IS CAUSE OF THE PRE-JUDGMENTS THEY HAVE ABOUT WHAT A TRANSEXUAL LOOKS LIKE, SOUNDS LIKE, AND ACTS LIKE.Quote:
Originally Posted by muhmuh
NOT TO MENTION EVERY TRANNY CHASING COCK BANDIT SEES TRANSEXUAL AND THEY ARE ADDING THEMSELVES MESSAGING YOU FOR SEX ETC!
I DON'T GET TREATED RUDELY OR TREATED LIKE A SEX OBJECT WHEN THEY DON'T KNOW THE THAT I'M A TRANSEXUAL.. THEY TAKE THE TIME TO GET TO KNOW ME BUT WHEN THEY SEE TRANSEXUAL IT'S OOH I'D STILL LET YOU SUCK MY DICK :lol: LIKE THEY ARE DOING ME A FAVOR OR I'M THAT DESPERATE.
Exactly! Right when someone messages you and starts showing interest, you have to be honest with them. I think Mark Twain said it best when he said something about honesty being the best policy.Quote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
Maybe you forgot what this post was all about???Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyShore
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So I am on a few "straight sites"...and I put my status as female. And I talk to the guys for awhile to let them get to know me, then if I want to meet them I tell them. It usually works out in my favor, but there's always that small percent that get mad. Do you think I am wrong for doing it this way? Should I tell them flat out?
I read what you said, but I still don't think its right...its not a huge deal as long as you dont meet them, but it sounds likeyour just trying to get straight guys to think your a hot chick, which is just the way it is today...
im not hating on you....they do it all the time on maury and all those shows, so its not that its that rare nowadays. but yea, i dunno. if your consistently talkin to said dude, then you really shouldnt do it, but thats no different than a fat girl posting a models picture and saying its her talking to some dude...its not just a TS thing.
20 minutes of talking to someone is a commitment? :lol: ONLINEQuote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
IT was about online special K and I stated it was 20 minutes to an hour at the most...Quote:
Originally Posted by specialk
No what I'm trying to do is for them to see me as a PERSON first rather than what I have downstairs. With out the PREJUDICE and HATE of gays and transexuals.Quote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
I think as someone said already, it's not about what you have between your legs, or even your physical appearance for that matter. Sure, looks play a huge part in initial conversation, online personals etc., but what you have inside and what you have to offer speak larger volumes to your character as a person.
Sure people are going to start messaging you saying "hey sexy, what's up?" and that will evolve to "Let's do dinner sometime." But then, like you said - before doing anything you have to come clean and let the guy know.
Moral of the story - the sooner into the conversation you can be honest as to who you are, the better.
Your a funny girl Kelly Shore. You start out mentioning some guys (small%) get mad, and you solicited an opinion from other members what they think.Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyShore
Then you say Quote:Can one of the individuals that answered to yes its wrong..give their insight. I'd like to hear it.
Then...when the opinions you solicited thought it was wrong, you got testy...well you asked for them.
Thats a fine strategy, but you will probably run into alot of walls with it, theoretically. I can see were you are coming from, you consider yourself female even if genetically you werent born one, why is society so ignorant and prejudice....but it is what it is. Im sure you'll find some open minded guys, but your betting onthe long shot.
Didnt the movie Casino tell you anything about betting on the long shot??
I defintely dont think its wrong. If you are a woman you are a woman. And i agree, alot of times if you just put Transexual on a profile all of a sudden they prejude, they might think you sound manly or are just a freak. I wouldnt want to date a "tranny Chaser" either. I did once but i broke up with him, he treated me like i was his sex object.
On anything I was on before,(myspace, facebook...etc) i neversaid i was transexual or trans anything. Personally i am a woman. Nope im not going to say "i feel like im a woman"...because i dont feel like i am. I am. And thats that. Just because i was born with a penis doesnt mean i have to go around telling everyone.
This is something I have been debateing in my mind for a long time. Ive actually thought of not even telling my husband when i get married, but then i think i might if it gets that far for my sake aswell. If i didnt i would feel like our connection is not complete. But everyone must do what they feel is best for them.
But in the beging, im sure there are things about both parties past that both are not sharing with eachothe
I was dating a guy for a week before i told him, he said that he didnt know anything about me and that if i would have told him in the begining he would have just thought i was a freak. But i changed his perception and thoughts of what a girl like me was like.
Alot of people think girls like me are weird and they only judge from what they see on Jerry Springer or other shows that make girls like me seem.
LOL...if he is still with you now, probably he still would have been. Come on now. if a guy wants it, then its cool.
But im talking about genuinley straight guys ONLY into pussy who want no part of dick.
SOme guys will say 'oh i didnt know' when they really knew the whole time, it just satisfies what ever straight ego they have in them. Or maybe it makes them feel 'less gay'...if u see what im sayin.
Actually he said it didnt matter to him but we broke up since he couldnt handle the whole thing about me having it still. He said it would be diffrent if i had had the operation. We are still friends though. But still i changed his mind about what a girl like me is or might be.
i see what you are saying....if given a chance,they might see 'you the person' as opposed to 'you the transsexual' and once they get to know you and see you are as feminine as a woman, it opens them up...
But like I said, then there the dick issue. Some dont mind, others do.
Yes, some do mind and some dont mind.
Theres always the possibility that the one that do mind could turn very violent, whether thats physically or vocally violent.
I got testy cause you twisted my words per usualQuote:
Originally Posted by specialk
I've never had a problem lol I have had one boyfriend for 6 years the next for 3 years and another for about 2 years all straight all their first "transexual" and thats the way I like it.Quote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
REAL TALK!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by Luna555
LMAO...per usual???? this is the first (and probably last ) time I ever engaged you in a serious topic!Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyShore
If you say so and I wasn't talking about just you..I was talking about the mass.Quote:
Originally Posted by specialk
Thats all im sayin. u hate to hear about people getting killed over stuff like this, but it happens. I just think some are being naive about some thing acting like 'oh it wont happen to me' or 'all guys eventually come around'.....im just sayin that is not true.Quote:
Originally Posted by Luna555
Ive never been that naive to think it could not happen to me. Its somthing i have in my mind whenever a guy wants to take me out or even talks to me.
But you know I can only try to do my best and be selective about which guys to just plain avoid and not even talk to again and guys that might be more openminded about it.
The mass= all the people who offered an opinion that differed from yours.Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyShore
Kelly, your way too defensive here. Your idea of holding off and telling later, in hopes that a guy will like you for who you are DOES HAPPEN!! It happened to me. 3 yrs. ago, when I was on a photo trip to Tx., I was eating dinner in a club/restaraunt, and a woman who was a total stranger bought me a drink. So, I invited her to my table. We talked for hrs. I liked her personality, her style. At some point she decides to drop the bomb on me. When I climed off the floor and got back in my seat, the conversation was all about TS. Ok, so now I'm curious and all, but I go to my motel room and sleep on it. She was supposed to call me the next day
and hang out with me while I'm shooting film. We had a lot of fun that day, I invited her to dinner that nite and the rest is history as they say. I dated her for about 3 months long distance, and gave it up out of the reality of long distance was too much to overcome.
HOWEVER....some guys could have seen it all another way, and maybe got mad when they found out, and I understand that point of view too!
I am not defensive at all..there are plenty of other girls that said they agreed, but I was singled out. It's not like I'm meeting them and sucking their cocks and later being like ha ha I'm a transexual. It's conversation to get to know someone the sex of the person shouldn't even be an issue, but when it starts getting intimate and the guy seems genuinely interested. I to do tell them. I don't hide it, but I don't need to broadcast it. Especially if I plan on dating a guy that doesn't want people to know? That is what I'm getting at Special K. I like being treated as a woman like I am..I don't like sitting there explaining everything I've done cosmetically, Everything I've done hormonally to look like I do. I don't want to talk about what I have downstairs either with a guy I'm interested in on the first date defenitely and the first 20 minutes of getting to know them. I don't think thats too much to ask for..and I think I made a VALID POINT...that guys will treat you differently when they found out you are a transexual..they will treat you like an OBJECT..and you think I type in caps to yell but its not it's to point out things I'm pointing out the most!Quote:
Originally Posted by specialk
Kelly you are the target of alot of scrutiny. I remember my first post you dogged the shit out of me in an undercover way...lol.
BUT you do contribute alot of action to this forum. They should put you on salary.
lol Ohio, did I really dog you? ha ha I feel so funny saying that last part.Quote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
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Originally Posted by KellyShore
I understand fully your point of view...I got that hrs. ago. However, you refuse to see any other point of view other than Kelly's ....which is all I've been saying here tonight. I'm not passing judgement on your way of handling it, I'm just trying (very unsuccesfully) to get your to understand another point of view.....Mon de' Jamina gi dei mort!!!
wutever i dont want to talk about it.
is my slang outdated or something??? im only 25 son!!!!
no I really want to know cause I honestly don't remember I think sometimes my hormones do the talking for me the female hormones that is lolQuote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
I get their point I'm just explaining mine. Thats great they want to be open about it. Good for them! And it's great they want to meet a guy on here or wherever they put themselves at. However I can give my opinion on things too as you stated.Quote:
Originally Posted by specialk
oh god female hormones...the one thing they should leave out!
you opined that i wasnt attractive, and that hurt my ego, because i dont like rejection.
No I just don't talk like that and it sounds funny. Thats so guy sounding.Quote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
I saw a picture of you?Quote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
yea.i posted it on a topic my first post. U were the first to attack<cough>...i mean, reply.
lol oh well can you post it again so I can seeQuote:
Originally Posted by ohioboy
why would i subject myself to that, when facts have already been established