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Originally Posted by GroobySteven
Communication is the key to ANY relationship be it love, friendship, or business, ALL will fail without communication.Quote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
now Im dying to see if she verified with a photo
More importantly, did your hubby spit or swallow?
Yes I did. I'm no TROLLQuote:
Originally Posted by Murmdrum
Shame. I feel bad for Upsetwife. One of her posts/comments sounded like my wife. Before this explosion. I almost feared that I'd been caught myself.
Shame.
All I can say is that he needs to get over this... I don't mean this as a joke, but get him Suzanna Holmes or that Ednita I've heard about...you sound like you're from the UK. But get the biggest cock TS escort for him,or a porn star (that nice man Mr Grooby above could help) he'd recognize if money allows; and let him get his life fucked outta him. (Don't be there - this is important).
I believe he needs to reach the climax of his fantasy. To realise it....and that could start ending his dirty desire. For me personally I need to get topped and cum with no hands stimulation (maybe 6 or more times over) and then I'll know I've conquered this TS phase I'm dealing. But after that I know I'll get bored and likely pull away.
Now don't delay in acting because year on year these ladies are looking ever more so beautiful than you natural women with re-usable vaginas. And their cocks are getting bigger etc. I personally feel in this modern age, 2018, today, it's sooo difficult to break away from the TS addiction. TS dick is goood with an extra o. And hell, he could end up dating one secretly and no one would ever tell in public they're so damn intoxicatingly beautiful. The key is in you starting the conversation,or you find out who his fantasy or Top 10 is one on these boards and have him come home to Yasmin Lee waiting to fuck the shit out of him literally in his bedroom. (Ahh man!😍)
But you need to act.
Pm me, and we can talk further if you'd like views from one of the married men on here.
Ok - I'll stand correct (I think) as I did get a photo of someone holding a message.
So I apologise for calling you a cunt. We've had lots of 'wannabe' come here and pull shit just to get off.
Here's the thing, you're complaining and crying about why your husband is attracted to this - but you're not listening - you're just complaining and then arguing that people are wrong.
No, we don't have to 'agree to disagree'. If you cannot except that trans women are women, regardless of their genitalia then you are just plain and simply WRONG.
I really think you'd be better looking for a support group then on a forum which is mainly dedicated to the adult industry.
Your husband has fantasies about this - whether he acts on them or not, does not make him abnormal. If he 'cheats' on you then it's irrelevant whether it's with any gender, if you're morally unable to come to terms with it (many people have no problem with this - as alien as it may seem to you). Whether cheating, or having fantasies or whatever - it doesn't necessarily and shouldn't be seen as a slight to you, or mean he has any less love for you, it just means he also needs this. And if you're functioning up until you found out as a happy couple, then just pack this into a box and live with it. He's not going to change.
Trolls can be female.
She's legit, I have know people who have been cheated on or who currently cheat on their spouse. It's one thing to hear of it and it's another thing to have people come and complain or tell how they found out. She doesn't know how to confront her husband. She has built a life with him and she is afraid to start over or to be alone. While a lot my friends cheat on their wives, I have known enough wives who had cheated on their husband or have stolen another woman's spouse. People saying she needs to get a strap-on or nonsense like don't understand it is not a solution.Quote:
Originally Posted by GroobySteven
Right now, she wants to know if this is porn he is looking at and can she gives him the same experience? If he is acting on it, was it something she did? I really think, if she can't confront him, give him an ultimatum or either they talk about it, they seek counseling or they go their separate ways. It is far worst then staying in something like that.
I could tell you some absolute funny stories on cheating, funny for me not for them. Some really deep discussions I had with people on it from their experience. I think we should encourage to try an console her marriage, because she won't find the solution here and she is just delaying it even more so.
Just come here and I'll tale care of your frustration ;)
He wants " The Dick" but wants it on a feminine form/visual even if he doesn't touch the dick.
He needs adventure, taboo......
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=qMoEs7eQeZE
Try not to rake it personal but sometimes a man can have a curiosity or a craving for something and pursue it. Not like it okay but it happens. Its just not fair or right when you do it and your already committed to someone. I know of a woman that has done the same thing to her husband and it was with another woman. Her husband was kind of upset but they're working it out. Maybe he was more upset because he didnt get join in... who knows. He is more embarrassed if anything. It happens.Quote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
Grooby, that's a very mean thing to say to women. If another man said this, you would banned them.
So I can say this to a man - and not get banned, or say it to a woman and get banned? That's equality for you.Quote:
Originally Posted by LittleGuy
How about this, I can say it to anyone I believe is a troll. And I'm still not convinced she's not a troll.
As one of the gatekeepers to this forum, I'm see 100's of similar posts like this over the years, usually by people with agendas or just providing their own jack-off material. Most of it doesn't get to you as one of the mods kick it early. In this case, I was wrong about it being a guy (I think I was wrong) and have apologised for that, but not about the trolling which we'll see.
If you don't like, I can offer you a full refund for what you pay for this site?
Or one of the millions of women who aren't too hung up to use a strap-on on their man, maybe?Quote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
I haven't commented on here for a while as have been trying to get my head around what to do about it. My husband and I spoke last night about swingers clubs and have agreed to look into it. Just us being together and probably others watching yo start with and of course watching others and then see where it goes although he did say he wouldn't feel comfortable going 'all the way' with anyone else or seeing me go 'all the way' with anyone so we will see
We have spoke in depth this morning about things that are on my mind and worrying me and although I didn't actually come out and tell him I knew about this site it was clear he knows I know about at least something, it's hard to talk right now as my son is about so he has said we will sit and talk more this evening once he's in bed. I've made it clear that yes I may be upset and hurt by things he has to say but I would def not go mad or be angry as long as he is honest with me and yes I can forgive anything as I do live him wuth all my heart so we will see how it gies. It surprised me how calm he was as he usually kicks off and has a hot temper.
Just want to thank all of those who have been so kind ad thoughtful and tried to help me with my feelings and understanding of this and to those that have been just plain nasty please just think about who your hurting with your words. I am real, I'm not a troll, and yes it's my life. I may not off dealt with it as I should and I probably shouldn't of come on here and starred ranting but I can't take it back, all I can do is apologise for interrupting anyone who didn't come here to hear this
I wish you all the best of luck
Xx
I have offered to use a strap on and he said it was going to far but has agreed to a prostate stimulatorQuote:
Originally Posted by johnnyshemalelover
[QUOTE=Upsetwife;1819317]I have offered to use a strap on and he said it was going to far but has agreed to a prostate stimulator[/QUOTE so, it seems that u have reconciled with each other
I am unable to produce the data if it exists, that says most people do not tell the truth about their sexual desires and their sexual history, even to their partners, but I have long believed it.
Most people across the world are brought up to believe that heterosexual relations that create a family are the building blocks of all human society, and moreover, that this is the most desirable form of social structure. It may be that for most people this is not in itself problematic, but I do think that it is clear that even with a happy or stable marriage, the two partners can be unhappy, and that the cause of this unhappiness is a lack of a sense of fulfillment of sexual desire.
Most men and women who pay for sex are in some way unhappy or dissatisfied with their partner, though this does not mean they consider that person to be inadequate, as it is their sexual desire, even fantasy that drives them to pay for sex. In some cases there may be a simple reason: the wife has lost interest in sex, and is indifferent to her partner's desire. What must be a genuinely distressing situation may be relieved if the partners simply open up and discuss it, yet for those who have desires that cross an invisible boundary marked by gender or social role, this could threaten the integrity of the family, and so prefer to hide the truth.
Imagine a man who can only reach sexual fulfillment when dressed in a rubber suit and face mask, led in chains and on all fours around a room by an Amazon with a whip. It sounds comical almost, like the Gimp in Pulp Fiction, but is in fact serious for the person concerned (cf Miike's film Ichi the Killer), as is also the case with men who only feel fulfilled when they are 'taking it up the ass' which for thousands of years has been typecast as a sign of 'de-masculinity' or weakness.
The solution, that partners should talk to each other, may thus be too risky, too difficult to achieve. The key point must be that if the partner discovers his or her 'secret' it should not reflect badly on either of them. Human beings are naturally curious and experiment with chemicals as well as foods, exercise and sex. It has been easy to cast doubt on the OP because of the history of this forum, but it does not mean we should not take seriously the issues concerned, even if there is no simple resolution to them.
It is a sign of weakness and demasculinity and no matter what you say or do, women and by proxy most of human society will view it that way. It's human nature.
This isn't going to end wellQuote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
Why?Quote:
Originally Posted by runningdownthatdream
We are getting there. More talking tonight as I haven't actually confronted him about this site yet but we will see how it goesQuote:
Originally Posted by mikelangelo1so, it seems that u have reconciled with each otherQuote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
He's always been very loving and touchy and always coming up behind me when I'm doing something for a hug and always kissing me but after our chat last night and this morning he's even more loving. He knows I know something, I can tell by the way he's looking at me but he hadn't opened up and admitted snything. I've hot a feeling he will deny it all anyway and say he's never actually gone through with any if it out of embarrassment and if that's the case I'm not going to push him for answers
I'm just taking it 1 day at a time from now on and see how it goes
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Originally Posted by runningdownthatdream
Well for one not all guys that like TS are into having there own butts played with.Quote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
He stated on here that when this certain ts fucked him wow his horizons where widen so I'm guessing he likes it, besides he likes it when I finger his arse and he's admitted he wants me try a prostate massager on him which I have bought so we will seeQuote:
Originally Posted by CaptainPlanet
Realistically quite a few married guys visit, or have visited, escorts. Of course I understand how your actually finding out that your husband is doing so has upset you. Curious as to why you were snooping in the first place?Quote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
Anyway, assuming you love him and want to stay together, it probably won’t hurt, and may help, for you two to have a frank discussion about what you’ve discovered.
Probably would be helpful to you for you not to have any expectations regarding his future behavior. He’s not going to stop seeing escorts occasionally. Either you’re going to give him what amounts to “permission”, or he’s going to get better at hiding these activities from you.
well then I stand corrected. Would you consider a 3 some with a TS and your husband? And how do you know he hasn't seen your post yet?Quote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
I did suggest we go to 1 of the swingers nights when there are ts/tv/cd's there but he said it would freak him out too much as he doesn't do men.Quote:
Originally Posted by CaptainPlanet
He hasn't seen my post cause he's account has been ban by the site
I know some folks in the swinging scene....they are quite content!Quote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
Addendum: I haven't read through the entire mess so forgive me if this has already been addressed. I think a key factor in understanding your husband with regard to his relationship with you is to find out whether or not he is a "top" or "bottom" with transgender women.
I wasn't actually snooping to start with. He was in the bath and his phone was on the sofa next to me and it went off, we often answer each other's phone if the other is not in the room but it was just an email but the heading shows on the screen without you opening it. It said it was from hungangels, his username and thank you for joining. As you can imagine I was shocked to say the least. I then looked on the site on my phone, entered the username and the password I thought he may use and it came up. I also knew it was def him as we met on POF a few years ago and it was the same username almost, only thing missing was the year he was born was on the end of his POF account and he had missed that off on hereQuote:
Originally Posted by KelliBlueEyes
Dude ggs are much better at the end than ts. Nothing beats that warm fuzzy natural pussy
Really?Quote:
Originally Posted by MrFanti
To be honest it isn't something I've ever thought about before but we spoke in depth last night about our sex life and although it us amazing and we have sex regularly we both said it wouldn't hurt to try new things. Both have agreed that we will look into it more in depth before we actually sign up and both decide before we go what our limits are although he stated straight away that in no way would he penetrate anyone else or want anyone to penetrate me and strictly no kissing which I agreed too.
The 1st time will probably be awkward and a bit embarrassing but who knows until we try. It may end up being the 1st and only time we go or we could end up really enjoying it, my husband said for him it's more about other people watching us as he loves watching my face when he makes me orgasm and would love to see if it has the same effect on otger guys as it does him.
You only live once hey
so, a new era seems to start for u both
If we ever get to the point where he will admit he's been with ts that's a question I will definitely ask but going by his comments on here he was a bottom when he visited the ts escorts. He enjoys anal with me as he had never tried it before and I had so I asked him to try it with me, it's not something we do regularly but we have done it quite a few times, he enjoys it in my arse while he uses a dildo in my pussy, really turns him on. I was also the 1st woman to use my finger in his arse, he was a bit shocked the 1st time and saud he wasn't sure he actually enjoyed it but a while later while I was in 69 position it was obvious from the way he had his legs spread wide and moving his arse up a bit more than usual he wanted me to try again which I did and he enjoyed it as came loadsQuote:
Originally Posted by MrFanti
Part of me when I found his comments on thought maybe if I hadn't introduced him to that then maybe he wouldn't of been curious about ts's and I was beating myself up about it but I know that's stupid
Maybe. He was quite shocked when I mentioned it last night lol he knows I'm very adventurous in the bedroom and I've done things he hadn't in my past but the look on his face was pricelessQuote:
Originally Posted by mikelangelo1
He loves my pussy lol says it looks and tastes like a peach lolQuote:
Originally Posted by legault
Yes.Quote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
And if executed correctly (this is the key) i.e. shed all jealousy and look at non-marriage partners as "toys", then it's a win/win for both people in the relationship. YOU get to try try things you only dreamed of and so does he...
Now you're starting to get it! :cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by Upsetwife
bottom.Quote:
Originally Posted by MrFanti