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It's hard for me to offer any advice because I can't imagine putting myself in that situation, but if she really is your best friend and you don't want to lose what you have then talk to her about how you feel.
(Maybe sleep in the bath tub too until the sheets are fresh lol :P )
I'm really not seeing what it is that you think anyone here can do for you. You made a choice, it was the wrong one for you apparently, now you have to live with whatever the consequences turn out to be. Whatever happens between now and the fallout depends purely on what kind of person you are and the actions you do or don't take. You can't force her to change if she doesn't want to so your either going to have to change yourself or just enjoy it while it lasts.Quote:
Originally Posted by BarryC
Have you told her it bothers you now?Quote:
Originally Posted by BarryC
Choices:
Tell her it does, and unless it stops, you're out.
Tell her it does, and find a way to deal with it.
Keep quiet, argue like fuck...break up anyway.
And at the very least, for fucks sake, make her change the sheets after a client...That's just nasty! :shrug
No we're not e.g. I gave you a reply with a link to another guy who was in a ts relationship.Quote:
Originally Posted by BarryC
Anyhow we have no idea how old either of you are, what country/culture/lifestyle you have - it seems that you may have met before she took up prostitution and if so how long you were together before that or were you a client? Is this your first relationship? Are you living together - does she support you on her earnings or vice versa? In reality is she just your fuck buddy? Realistically what prospect has this relationship got? Is it just your pride that's taking a dent here 'cos you have to share your free ts hooker with paying guests?
Leaving the TS factor out of it there have been many examples of relationships with hookers failing because of the lack of trust - go and read any punting forum e.g. punternet.com and you'll find the same dilemma crops up.
IMHO quite frankly I don't see a future in it you've already lost the trust :(
Tiffany Starr and I work out of our own apartment... we have specially reserved sheets we throw on whichever bed we're gonna use. No fuss, no muss.
We have no issues with sex work because we both do it. We both know exactly what the other one is doing and what's going through our heads, we help write each others ads and even refer each other to our various clients.
Dating someone in the sex work industry is waaaaay too hairy unless you're running the same hustle right along side 'em. I lost a fiance of three years because of it, just a heads up.
Well, here's the problem. Now you're trying to change the rules in the middle of the game. You can't do that and expect not to get dumped.
Another problem is that her mindset is probably changing to accommodate the high number of complete fools and jackasses she has to deal with. Once that mindset changes, I don't know (seriously, I don't) if it can change back. If you try to change it up, she may feel attacked and dump you.
Yet another problem is if she has regular clients, I'm sure that the client has developed some sort of relationship with her and vice-versa. They may not want to give that up. According to the rules you agreed to, she may feel like you betrayed her if you try to change it up now.
Also, if she's used to spending that extra money's she's making, she's probably not want to give it up. If she's saving it, I would assume she'd be more open to quitting the escorting.
I think you're going to need to go ahead and break this off.
why if after connecting with your boyfriends or girlfriends (for those that are trans-lesbians) and for the mate, is it okay that you continue to assist others to connect with you, even if it's just for the minutes/hours they paid for?Quote:
Originally Posted by amberskyi
does it cheapen your love and connection if it can be paid for (especially those offering a girlfriend-experience service with massages afterwards)?
True words. I dated a girl in the industry. Had good times; even went on the set for her shoots (solo ones though). I looked the other way for a minute, but after a while I couldn't take it anymore. She left me to go back to her ex...who not only couldn't handle the fact she's in the industry, he couldn't handle the fact she was a Tgirl in general...Quote:
Originally Posted by Jamie French
I'd recommend breaking this one off as well. Your heart might be with her, but your mind might not be.
Nope.
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Originally Posted by bluesoul
Tough tough bind. I see heartache and maybe heartbreak for the two of you. Advice is not for listening to really. You will in the end find your own way out of this.
The bottom line is communication. Both of you - no holds barred - talk and talk till you figure out what do do. It might hurt. But that's the only way through IMHO.
And as Rod said I think the fact she is transgendered is largely irrelevent. You are both people caught in a tough bind. Communicate.