Alot of you guys are mistaking passable with beautiful.

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Originally Posted by AllanahStarrNYC

As a personal prefference, given the choice, I'd rather be beautiful or striking than "passable". Maybe that has to do with growing up feeling ugly? But, I think if one is comfortable with oneself, and lives her life happily to her own aesthetic desires then she can be satisfied and you then you let all those worries go. Some girls just want to blend in and look unnoticible. Still, there are certain people and places who will always clock you. That is just life. We are not talking cross dresser here- or an obviously bad attempt to look like a woman. I don't care who you are- you are bound to get spooked on occassion.

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I agree. Given the choice, I would rather be beautiful than passable. In this world, beautiful people will always be treated better than average, or below average looking people. I believe that holds true for transsexuals as well. Even if people clock you as a TS, if you are beautiful, they will most likely be nice, or at least civil to you.

One thing that we also forget about human nature - if you have a great personality, it tends to help your physical looks. People don't look for your flaws as much and they are willing to give you a break. Conversely, if you have a bitchy or ugly personality, many people will not see you as beautiful no matter how physically beautiful you may be.

Another thing you mentioned... about being comfortable and happy with yourself. I truly believe that if you are comfortable in your own skin and at peace with yourself, the people around you will pick up on that vibe and be more comfortable and relaxed around you, thus helping with your passability.

In my life, I don't care if I get clocked or not as long as people treat me well and with respect.

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I agree. Given the choice, I would rather be beautiful than passable. In this world, beautiful people will always be treated better than average, or below average looking people. I believe that holds true for transsexuals as well. Even if people clock you as a TS, if you are beautiful, they will most likely be nice, or at least civil to you.

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I totally agree, that's what I was trying to convey but u did a better job of articulating it for me. Amen to that.

wtf is a boogawolf????

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Originally Posted by BlackAdder

wtf is a boogawolf????

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see the poster above you ... :wink:

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Originally Posted by aTsLiKeN0oThEr

in regards to what Allanah n Shalaya r saying... my 2 cents... EVERYONE is clockable by SOMEONE whether it's another queen, a guy, or some old lady. it doesn't matter. some folks have tranny radar n i can ALWAYS tell. my opinion ... what matters isn't that your clockable but that even if u get clocked that the person who clocked u will say she's a guy but god dayum that's a pretty one. if they still desire you or recognize your glamourous after they clock then u know that your a bad, bad bitch.

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You had to go and spoil predjudice against you, didn't you? :rolleyes:

I think the TS's who would rather be beautiful than passable have a better chance for hapiness. There are many, many beautiful TS's. There are very, very few truly passable TS's.

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Originally Posted by Shalaya

I would rather be passable than pretty........

I would rather look like a regular girl than look like a made up transy wit big boobs and loads of makeup.Maybe that sounds strange but I feel as though looking real is more important than being pretty.Its about survival in this lifestyle.Especially for the girls that dont escort.Pretty isnt going to get you a job if they can still clock you are a tranny.Pretty isnt going to protect you from the boys on the block when you walk by.Its about being real and being able to blend.Thats my goal.I dont want to be flawless absolute beauty like most transexuals.I just want to look like real tuna so when I walk into a womens bathroom they dont call the police on me.Me being passable is my survival, its my sheild.It allows me to work a daytime job at wal-mart. and it aloows me to survive.Even if I was a ugly tranny I wouldnt care just as long as u cant clock I got a dick im fine.

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co-sign

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Originally Posted by AllanahStarrNYC

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I think that is a truly ignorant comment. There are alot of "prostitutes" as you say that are "real" and "homely". Have you seen the Hookers on Huntspoint documentaries?

I am not sure were you live- but it seems like a dangerous place. In your post you talk about being able to use the womens bathroom without getting the police called on you- or walking down the street without getting a beat down- maybe it is because I live in NYC- but I have never had that happen to me in all my years of being a trannsexual. If you carry yourself a certain way- people will respect you- they might stare, but they will respect you. Act like a lady and you will get treated as such-

I am a fan of glamour and beauty- and I don't hold a day job. Hence why I have 36DD implants. But that is my choice and I am happy with it.

Life is not a beauty pageant or a competition- which is how most transsexuals see it. Everyone is always worried about who is prettier, younger, this, or that.

Well- the truth is THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMEONE younger, prettier, more passable- what have you.

If you realize your own happiness and designing your looks to comply with your happiness- then you have succeeded whatever that may be.

I have lived many lives- before the porn world. I worked in night clubs, I waitressed, I worked at a make up counter, at a dungeon as a mistress, and I have had long term relationships. Ultimately, who ever loves you is going to love you for you.

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co-sign 2 this 2 :D

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Originally Posted by Shalaya

Only a prostitue would think beauty sells over realness

Ha Ha Ha

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This was the best post ever. Very funny. You are absolutely right.

Passable and beautiful.