What's got you down about Miami, Janira?
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What's got you down about Miami, Janira?
The way I see it, sex can be for pleasure, for love, for money, or for emotional blackmail/revenge. Setting that last (and other) variants aside, the first three are quite distinct. As Janira says, she and many (if not all) escorts practice "work sex" for money, and "love sex" for love, and the distinction is quite clear. This is reflected by many escorts who will do anything with a client, but will not kiss, as they consider that the one intimate act that they reserve for their lover. (Others of course don't make the kissing distinction; that's just an example.)
Some (many? most?) people make no distinction, and to them, all sex is the same: thus, for them, there can be no separation between one or the other type. That limits who they will abide as partners, and (as Kelly points out) will make them hypocritical if they pursue sex for pleasure while forbidding their partners to pursue sex with someone else (for money or pleasure).
I am holding my clients as guys I would date, but I know just want a first time or sex. If they just want their first time or sex they are going to pay me to use me as their science project. And I can name a few girls that you go goo goo ga ga over but I don't want to start any drama if you would like to discuss that in private I will be more than willing to.Quote:
Originally Posted by Legend
What motivates me is what I just said, if a guy I choose to be with that has the intentions of just wanting to use me , he doesn't need to give me the BS lines or work on me he just needs to pay me the price and he will get what he wants. Its that simple. And thats how I am looking at escorting, not to see how much money I can make, not to see how many clients I can get, not to make a fortune. I leave that to the girls that are willing to do that, and thats fine for them. But for me personally I don't see myself doing so.
This whole thing is complex to me from what i understand from everyone who commented basically you girls do it for the pleasure of fulfilling other strangers fantasies or in kelly's words some form of science project not just money and if your were dating a girl who escorts little things like kissing dictates love between the bf and john why is it that you won't kiss a total stranger but you would have sex with them odd.
I'm really not trying to disrespect any of you girls who escort, im just so curious as to why you do it because if you liked someone and thought they were straight edge but found out they escort you would want to know why.
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BUT I CANT ITS NOT THAT I CANT STOP ESCORTING, IF I WANTED I COULD,, EVEN IF IT CAN BE ADDICTING,, NOT THE WORK ....THE MONEY
Ive heard this line before, and every time ive proven it wrong...Sorry, I dont personally believe you because your already an addict. Just like someone doing Horse, cant believe a word they say when its comes to quitting.
Your pretty, and intelligent... but your cutting yourself off from a whole section of men. I seriously have to question the validity of any *man* thats okay with letting there girl take another man's(men?) cock....Thats right, I said it.
Every girl has her own motivations and her own way of approaching the business. Personally I find myself at odds with most escorts because I don't really distinguish the play that I do for pay and the play that I do for fun. I tend to like most people, and I enjoy making people feel good. End of story.
I've got more than enough love in my life and I make that clear to men that start fixating. So I don't really have this dichotomy in my brain that creates an emotional hierarchy.
Let's get real guys; in the off chance that a beautiful and intelligent lady who escorts decides to date you for free, you are going to turn around and insult her and refuse the connection? That's crazy. If you guys like T girls then you should support us, and stop being so judgmental about the paths we choose to finance our transition.
Well that's true tho Legend. If a girls likes you enough..maybe even love you that much and really cared for you, her and your relationship she will quit without you even asking her. That's exactly what I think I would do. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Legend
As Kriss mentioned on 1st page (which I found very funny), I myself might ask for some "Arears" tho as a collateral! LOL J/k :lol:
~Kisses.
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LEGEND I wouldn't escort if I was in a relationship thats retarded
Can you elaborate that?Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyShore
The only reason I'm choosing to escort now is because I am single and not tied to anyone. Nor am I trying to look for anything substantial at this moment. I have been in three long term relationships, since I was 14. I find it okay for me to do this at the moment, but once I get back into the dating or serious mind again. I will quit doing escorting. I don't rely on it in life personally, especially since I've only done it for the past two months. I never claimed to be a season professional, never claimed to be the best, and this is how I am comfortable with doing it. So while others may disagree with me, especially girls that are seasoned veterans in the field. I look at it differently, and this is how I choose to do it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Legend
But relationships to me are based on being comfortable and honest with one another. You may see it as wrong for yourself personally, while another guy may just be okay with his girl doing escorting or having sex with other guys in general. To each their own, and I hope you find what you are lookin for.