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And for the record, I’ve never tried to ‘play real’ for the boys when they try to kick it to me.
I like to whisper it in their ear. And if they’re with friends, I’ll tell him to go back to them and tell them that I said I’m a lesbian as to avoid embarrassment.
I didn't really go over too many posts in the topic so I apologize if this was covered already, but reading the first post I wouldn't really consider what the lady did to be anything to get worked up about, considering she was probably looking out for her friend. I mean even you said yourself that you guys drifted apart.
Honestly I wouldn't blame her. If I was in her position i'd do the same. Even though you and your friends and family have accepted who you are, you would be deluding yourself to thinking that everyone else would see you crossing over genders as being a minor thing to bring up during conversation. To many people its still a major thing.
That's just my 2c on the issue. I do hope you find someone but I really don't think that lady did that for the reasons you think.
Also, completely off topic, sorry, but Alyssa, you're absolutely gorgeous. <_<
well thank you very much, kind sir.
No need to thank me, i'm just telling it how it is. :P
The post is old but I still feel the same way. Your "T" is your business and you are not obligated to tell anyone.
If a guy had one testicle, couldn't have kids or only had a 2 inch dick.....he wouldn't tell you in first meeting you. If a girl stuffed her bra she wouldn't tell you. If a guy lives at home with is mom he wouldn't tell you. If he was bisexual he wouldn't tell you. The list goes on and on.
People go out and put on their best faces and dont tell people their deep personal business, so why should we be expected to?
Damn......
This one's still gettin resurrected.
Bottom line though.....if you plan a third and fourth date with dude, for real.....it's about time to come clean about havin a cock though, for real.
I don't think you can compare looking like a woman but having nice set of male bits to a guy having only 1 testical or a puny peter, or living at home with mom.
I can see where you're coming from but in the end I really can't just agree with you. I didn't mean to reignite the argument, i just saw the topic on the front page and had to put in my 2c.
I think it all depends on the situation. If you meet someone, have a good night hanging out and you feel a vibe from him, wait until the end of the night before you say anything. Determine what kind of guy you feel he is based on the time you've just spent together and use that as your measuring stick.Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie
If you think it's safe to tell him, then tell him when the night is over and you're ready to head home. Trust your gut, because if you've found him to be someone that you really feel strongly about, then you should get one of two responses; either he won't have a problem with you, or he will but will just casually excuse himself and that will be that.
I think you can easily tell the other type of asshole in the first 5 minutes, so you don't need to worry about what to do there.
But overall, no, I don't think you need to go out and tell people that you still have a penis before you let them into your world. Your penis is not the measure of who you are as a person and as a woman, and if someone is unable to handle that fact then you need to keep searching for that someone who can love you for who you are, no matter what is between your legs.
I can't imagine how difficult it is to find that perfect someone who has the looks, intelligence, personality, and the willingness to love you for all you are. Oh, wait, duh! I'm right here . . . ;) IF I were available Julie, I would PROUDLY walk with you on my arm and be as good to you as any man possibly could.
You'll find that guy, I know you will. You're too beautiful and too sweet to not have it happen for you.
I think this is really all you can say. Only you can know when the time is right. I said above that you should tell him when the evening is at an end, but maybe it takes 2 or 3 evenings to get to that point. But my point was simply that you need to trust your gut, and do what feels best for you, because in the end it's all about you and what you want for your life.Quote:
Originally Posted by NYTSJulie