Originally Posted by yodajazz
PeggyGee, you have earned the right to do whatever you want. I don't have the time now to write, how wonderful you are. But even if you are not really all the great things I think you are, you are a mature person, and I think that you can judge a man's character. I don't know Jade that well, but having seen her around, I would think that she has enough life experience to be a decent judge of character. The recent contoversy was about an 18 year old trans woman, who had oral sex with a guy, she met over the internet, and was murdered. She did not tell him and also left him alone in her apartment, when she went out.
I think very few men here would say that a trans woman has to tell when she meets a man in a supermarket. But to me it changes when you are a pre op and about to get physically intimate. It also makes difference it you plan on seeing the person again or not. I would say that a post op is different, than a pre op, because in some case the man might not ever know. She can go to straight bar, where a man is looking to hook up with a girl with a pussy, and that's ok. It is even ok for a pre op, but she knows that she is taking a risk. And that's the point, it's risky behavior.
I don't think many people would tell a 18-19 year it engage in risky behavior and not think about the possible consequences. I have read a lot of things written by trans women and most say that they would like to help younger girls. Not one male said that Angie deserved to die. Not one male said they would beat up a trans woman for fooling them. But I think most males felt that perhaps she might still be alive had she made some different choices.
And it is not even completely about transgender women. Many young women are raped and murdered, especially after getting into situations where they are not prepared to give a man what he is looking for at that time. So we try to teach them to avoid certain situations. Of course being trans adds level of complexity to the situation, but it still comes down to risky behaviors which are often fun, vs safety. People that you like, you want to be safe, in order be be sure that they stay around.
But as for the original poster, PeggyGee, you are smart and experienced enough to have fun. You have worked hard and deserve to best of everything. I just wish that I was in the position to give it to you, but fi not I can be happy knowing that you are in 'the pursuit of happiness'.
