Why are there SO FEW Getlemen Left?

I think it all boils down to how parents are raising their kids today. These days, not very many people have good manners, morals, etiquette and breeding like they used to. ;)

~Kisses.

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I will generally open the door for anyone if they aren't too far behind and i normally address older people with maam or sir.It normally depends on how a person was raised.

I don't think it has completely disappeared nor is it just confined to young men either, many women could do with a lesson on manners.
The current culture of the individual rather than a culture of community is probably to blame. The increasing urbanisation of society, the breakdown of traditional nuclear families and so on. There are many more reasons I'm sure.
As a senior NCO I am expected to have a grasp on etiquette, and I was raised with manners in any case. I try to pass this on to my subordinates, many are simply ignorant of manners as it was never taught to them.

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Originally Posted by Hara_Juku Tgirl

I think it all boils down to how parents are raising their kids today. These days, not very many people have good manners, morals, etiquette and breeding like they used to. ;)

~Kisses.

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There are a lot of families without a father (or father figure) to pass along and teach those manners to their sons.



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There are a lot of families without a father (or father figure) to pass along and teach those manners to their sons.

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I respectfully disagree.

My parents divorced when I was very young. My mother was the one who taught me manners. A single parent, whether male or female, is responsible for the child's complete development.

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While in a romantic sense, I agree. You are, however, completely lost!

I too, came from a broken home, raised by a Mom, so in reality you are half-right. A single parent should instill the correct values, but when income is an issue and child support doesn't exist, some Mothers are forced to work copious hours to fill financial voids that other parents aren't required to fill.

In their altruistic attempt at preserving the nest, Moms who work these hours have a hard time relating to pubescent teen males and these males tend to not , initially anyhow, adapt to the stringent criteria society has impressed upon their peer group, creating outcasts.

Wait, am I giving too much of myself away here 8)

for the most part i am the nicest person you could want to meet.

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Originally Posted by braveman

I respectfully disagree.

My parents divorced when I was very young. My mother was the one who taught me manners. A single parent, whether male or female, is responsible for the child's complete development.

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While in a romantic sense, I agree. You are, however, completely lost!

I too, came from a broken home, raised by a Mom, so in reality you are half-right. A single parent should instill the correct values, but when income is an issue and child support doesn't exist, some Mothers are forced to work copious hours to fill financial voids that other parents aren't required to fill.

In their altruistic attempt at preserving the nest, Moms who work these hours have a hard time relating to pubescent teen males and these males tend to not , initially anyhow, adapt to the stringent criteria society has impressed upon their peer group, creating outcasts.

Wait, am I giving too much of myself away here 8)

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How do you mean I'm "completely lost?" Oh, you must mean that you disagree with me to a poing. That's cool.

Trust me, my mother worked multiple jobs to provide for her children. Nothing to do with "romantic senses," but cold reality. Invest in her childrens's social and educational development or risk leashing , as you put it, outcasts into society.

Every family is different, whether they are headed by one or two parents.
There are plenty of uncouth young men who grew up in homes where fathers/older male figures were present.

So, keeping in the spirit of etiquette, I will not say that you are lost. I'll just say that I respectully disagree with you.

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i totaly agree with you, my mom worked very hard when i was a child she was a house keeper for some very well off families... not a live in house keeper. she did everything in her power to make sure myself and my brother where raised properly and showed respect to those that desirved respect.

even if i am getting on the city bus i still allow the women to enter the bus first. i have no problem pulling a chair out for a woman if i go to dinner with her, or opening the door. it is called common curtisy... unfortunatly it is not all that common amongst a lot of people in this day and age. but it does exsist even if in just small doses.

...in the words of Dave Chappelle:
"You women are right: chivalry IS dead...and you bitches killed it!"

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A single parent, whether male or female, is responsible for the child's complete development.

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With you on that braveman. My mother did it after my father died. It's tough, it takes a hell of a toll on the woman or man, which the kids don't see most of, but you know you owe her, or him.

I do hear and see a lot of things about single-parent families...The fact is we live in an era when many of those single parents were themselves brought up by single parents and are even perhaps the third generation....I don't doubt that's tough.

Totally OT but cool, you like Wynonie Harris? I just D/L'd an album of his off emusic-- thank you!

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There are a lot of families without a father (or father figure) to pass along and teach those manners to their sons.

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I respectfully disagree.

My parents divorced when I was very young. My mother was the one who taught me manners. A single parent, whether male or female, is responsible for the child's complete development.

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Well... I never said that mothers couldn't do it. Believe me, I was in NO WAY belittleing moms. I was rasied by my mom, too. But I'll bet all those working mothers would have loved to get a little help.

With the disclaimer that, yes, every family is different, I was just pointing out a simple fact. I don't think it's right to let those absent fathers off the hook on this one.


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