Re: Ladies and Gentlemen need advice for first time trans femme date
This was not a scam. We met publicly to get comfortable. As we started in, I initiated some conversation. She was looking for an oasis. And a confirmation of self wellbeing. She has a 11 y.o special needs child AND had just gotten into an argument over finances with her spouse. In anger the "faggot" term was hurled.
After the heart to heart sex was not as important to me. We now are friends. I offered and still offer a refuge of sanity for her. Actually this was better than the sex. It opened my eyes to the active and passive aggressive behavior a transgender is exposed to daily. She commented it took her 3 years post transition to let the anger to the prejudice go. She still feels the "other" stare. At 6'1" and athletic, but yet feminine, the general public's glances linger too long.
thank you for your impute Lovly-red. How is you life in rural Wisconsin?
I am bi so it is quite a bit easier for me to blend in. I still get internally pissed when a person expresses language, jokes etc., that are anti LBGTQ. Most here would refrain from "people of color" racist behavior. Yet strangely, sexual orientation is on the table!
And this above reply post. "You're worried about manners and how to behave while cheating on your wife?" How is this different from racism? Judgement without the the facts. Imposing one's own morals upon others. The Puritans (yes the Pilgrims) landed on Plymouth Rock. I wish the reverse was true. Sorry for the rant. I need to vent too.
Fetlife correspondence requires a degree of caution. It does offer a service to the like minded. As does this site. Neither would be so robust after a lengthy existence on the web.
Again thanks for the well thought out replies. Empathy is a skill learned. And needs continual revitalizing.
Re: Ladies and Gentlemen need advice for first time trans femme date
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Originally Posted by
zaphod
This was not a scam. We met publicly to get comfortable. As we started in, I initiated some conversation. She was looking for an oasis. And a confirmation of self wellbeing. She has a 11 y.o special needs child AND had just gotten into an argument over finances with her spouse. In anger the "faggot" term was hurled.
After the heart to heart sex was not as important to me. We now are friends. I offered and still offer a refuge of sanity for her. Actually this was better than the sex. It opened my eyes to the active and passive aggressive behavior a transgender is exposed to daily. She commented it took her 3 years post transition to let the anger to the prejudice go. She still feels the "other" stare. At 6'1" and athletic, but yet feminine, the general public's glances linger too long.
thank you for your impute Lovly-red. How is you life in rural Wisconsin?
I am bi so it is quite a bit easier for me to blend in. I still get internally pissed when a person expresses language, jokes etc., that are anti LBGTQ. Most here would refrain from "people of color" racist behavior. Yet strangely, sexual orientation is on the table!
And this above reply post. "You're worried about manners and how to behave while cheating on your wife?" How is this different from racism? Judgement without the the facts. Imposing one's own morals upon others. The Puritans (yes the Pilgrims) landed on Plymouth Rock. I wish the reverse was true. Sorry for the rant. I need to vent too.
Fetlife correspondence requires a degree of caution. It does offer a service to the like minded. As does this site. Neither would be so robust after a lengthy existence on the web.
Again thanks for the well thought out replies. Empathy is a skill learned. And needs continual revitalizing.
Its ok. I lived in smaller cities and towns my whole life. I prefer that over larger cities. Even with being trans. I can hunt and fish as a please. I don't get roped in to politics, and even though I just started my transition last year at 35. I haven't had any issues. All my male friends are still in the picture. I have made new female friends. I have never really felt in danger. Compared to when I vest big cities.
Re: Ladies and Gentlemen need advice for first time trans femme date
That is truly awesome. I am living in a rural setting for exactly the same reasons. I can more easily control my own experiences! Rural people are engaging if you treat each other with respect! It it the anonymous who might get out of control.
My immediate neighbor is a Trumper. We get along, just making sure to avoid "touch button" topics. Respect each others opinions and realize where the boundary of personal space is located.
I do know of rural neighbors I completely avoid. Their commonality is they feel they have the "right" to control your thoughts and actions. "They know "the eye of God" and therefore have "received" the right to act. Both liberal and conservative. Religious related or not. There is an active "posse comitatus" group locally. (Like The Proud Boys). Scary people but avoidable.
My biggest concern is the meth and opiate trade. A town of 3,000 and we have opiate addition clinic. And not uncommon to have overdose deaths. The local police carry Narcan. Being a short drive from the interstate makes us a lucrative trade area! And near America's Water Park and Vacation playground, Wisconsin Dells. I do like the Dells. It also brings urban entertainment closer to me. Dual edged sword.
Re: Ladies and Gentlemen need advice for first time trans femme date
Quote:
Originally Posted by
zaphod
This was not a scam. We met publicly to get comfortable. As we started in, I initiated some conversation. She was looking for an oasis. And a confirmation of self wellbeing. She has a 11 y.o special needs child AND had just gotten into an argument over finances with her spouse. In anger the "faggot" term was hurled.
After the heart to heart sex was not as important to me. We now are friends. I offered and still offer a refuge of sanity for her. Actually this was better than the sex. It opened my eyes to the active and passive aggressive behavior a transgender is exposed to daily. She commented it took her 3 years post transition to let the anger to the prejudice go. She still feels the "other" stare. At 6'1" and athletic, but yet feminine, the general public's glances linger too long.
thank you for your impute Lovly-red. How is you life in rural Wisconsin?
I am bi so it is quite a bit easier for me to blend in. I still get internally pissed when a person expresses language, jokes etc., that are anti LBGTQ. Most here would refrain from "people of color" racist behavior. Yet strangely, sexual orientation is on the table!
And this above reply post. "You're worried about manners and how to behave while cheating on your wife?" How is this different from racism? Judgement without the the facts. Imposing one's own morals upon others. The Puritans (yes the Pilgrims) landed on Plymouth Rock. I wish the reverse was true. Sorry for the rant. I need to vent too.
Fetlife correspondence requires a degree of caution. It does offer a service to the like minded. As does this site. Neither would be so robust after a lengthy existence on the web.
Again thanks for the well thought out replies. Empathy is a skill learned. And needs continual revitalizing.
After all this you didn't suck her off?
