Would you have a relationship

yes, I ABSOLUTELY.. NOT just would BUT I want to have a relationship with a TS... I want to experiment everything.. from the spending time to getting to know each other, to eventually the sexual etc....
Unfortunately, a lot of TS are scare at first because they think thats all what the guy wants. Majority of the time it is... BUT is other cases where that isnt the case.. Like mine, I want it.... and I know someday I will find it!

Im gonna be completely honest, I would not have a relatlionship with a TS. I havent noticed anyone answer 'no' besides me, so i suspect some people of deceit. Hear me out. Whether you respect my honesty or think im an ass. it doesnt matter. Firstly, i wouldnt have a relationship with any1 at the moment. I was in a 5 yr relationship with a gg that was hell. Im recently single. I ve been thru enough bullshit relationships 2 know that i dont want another girlfriend until i find some1 that i could possibly marry. I want children someday. Not adopted kids, MY kids. A TS can never give me that. If i would have answered this question 6-7 years ago my answer wouldve been "definitly yes." But the realities of my current life point towards me stayin single for a good while, having lots of crazy wild sex, and then eventually finding a GG that can 1 day proudly call my babys momma lol. Obviously, if i met a TS who was absolutely gorgeous, took care of me in every way, and turned out 2 be my soulmate, i might have a change of heart. Im open to dating and see what happens but i probably will always prefer a long term relationship with a gg. So my answer stands at no.

Yes, I would definitely have a relationship with a TS. Unfortunately, it's always been hard for me to find that special someone. I've always dated women -- and I had a few sexual experiences with T-girls ... a few escorts and a couple of one-night-stands with non-escorts t-girls.

The problem is that whether it's a TS or a GG, I'm real particular. I'm not a perfectionist, but just someone who is attractive and who could be my best friend -- a spiritual connection, if you will. I can find TSs and GGs that I can be friends with. And I can find some that I'm sexually attracted to, but I have trouble finding both in the same person. And when I do find someone who I think has real possibilities, she's usually not interested in me.

Also, with a t-girl, she would have to be passable and living in stealth. I'm known as a straight person, and I don't date men, so I want to continue to be known as a straight person -- and, unfortunately, at least in the minds of many people (including unfortunately some T-girls), if you are a male -- and you date t-girls, then that makes you gay -- or at least bi.

Let me say that another problem in having a relationship with a t-girl is that, sexually, I wouldn't want to be the top all the time. I don't want to bottom all the time, either. I'd like to switch off.

So, givev all my criteria, that, unfortunately, limits my options a lot with t-girls.

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

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Originally Posted by suckseed

Hey, Kelly...are you saying that he doesn't want people to know about your relationship, or that you're not a gg? If everyone assumes you're a gg, isn't that okay? Or do you want to be publicly TG?
Oh, and hi.

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No he doesn't want people to know he is dating a transexual and if they were to find out I am sure he'd leave me.

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Unfortunately, I can understand that. However, since you're on the Internet and you do entertaining and escorting, it might be very difficult to keep your status a secret. Would you be willing to give up all of that other stuff for him? Would that make him feel better about it? Or does he know about your escorting, etc.?

I once corresponded with a t-girl I met on Craigslist. She said she was living in stealth, and I really wanted to meet her -- I thought she had real relationship potential. She wrote me several times and told me she wanted to meet, but when it came right down to it, I could never get her to meet me. It was very frustrating.

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

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Now I remember why I'm pissed at you. That was a weak post, suckseed (and despite our differences, suckseed generally is a pretty good guy).

If a guy has some issues with your gender status, whatever it is, dump the loser. He's an asshole.

You seem way too pretty and sweet to put up with some other persons problems.

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It's not who he is it's the enviroment and society that is helping him make his decision and men are afraid of change

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I think it's unfortunate that t-girls are so much identified with the gay scene. It's really a transexualism is very different from homosexuality. I really view transexualism as a medical condition -- a form of being Intersexed -- and homosexuality as a lifestyle and sexual choice. Unfortunately, though, the general public is alway going to confuse being t or t-friendly with being gay. Is your boyfriend well-known in the community, such that he it would be in the media if he were outed?

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

See for me I've always had the dream of prince charming that he would love just for me and I may be a little girl for still believing in that but I am a hopeless romantic

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With all due respect, I do think that's an unrealistic dream. There's nothing wrong with dreaming -- we all need that. But relationships take work. EVERYONE brings some baggage to a relationship. We are all flawed human beings. You can try talking and see what some of his fears really are. Maybe there are things he can learn to deal with. Maybe there are things you can learn to deal with. A relationship between a t-girl and a "straight" guy can be difficult. I know, because I've been looking for such a relationship for a long time now, and I haven't had much success. But I keep trying nonetheless. I hope you'll keep trying to work things out.

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Originally Posted by suckseed

Never believe for a minute that romantic men don't exist. It just depends on what waters you're fishing in. I was just having this conversation with my old friend back in Colorado yesterday. (He was one of the activists i got to know.) He suggested that I get involved with some group of people or another into camping or activism again. I must admit, the women I met there were probably the smartest I 've ever hung out with.
Every single one of my male friends would treat a woman great. We're all different, so there's room for individual preference. But going after Dirk Squarejaw at Club Grind is not where you're going to find the guy that wants more than a place to park the Pink Mustang.

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Romantic men exist, but she said that she was looking for a "prince charming." Unfortunately, Prince Charming does not exist. Most people are a bundle of neruosis and contradictions. Her current boyfriend may or may not be able to change in the way she wants him to.

I think I am open to it, I'd be open to marriage too. I am going to end up married in the next 5 years or less anyway even if to a GG . If it was the right girl who knows it could be substantially less. And hopefully it will last. Whoever she is , she has to be passable and feminine, opposed to cruelty and there has to be trust.
But consider this, that when a TS comes in like an unstoppable opinionated steam train in her profile for example with 100000 demands that I be this big public loud outgoing tranny chaser or something it scares me and puts me off. I have a life with GG's and male friends who wouldnt understand and who would consider me gay which I dont think I could cope with . In that case it would totally fuck up years of relationship building. It could seriously damage the warm brotherly trusting relationships I have with some men and give my enemies ammunition to use against me.
To consider that I might have to give up such good relationships with people who I love and would die for is the worst thing of all. I also wonder how it would affect my career advancement and business relationships.

Also how would I spend my time as this 'outed thing' ? ,I wouldnt feel comfortable or happy in a gay pub and the gay graphic sense of humor e.g 'hows your sausage' jokes etc isnt for me . In such a setting the absence of a brotherly male environment would seem soulless and empty to me. Truly I am fucked up. If I was gay I'd give everyone two fingers and consider the problem a lot easier and know where I stood.
Its' the fact the people I know best will never understand which bothers me the most. I also want kids. Its possible I could have kids with someone else and still be with a TS. So thats not an insolvable problem in itself.
But as I said before, when a TS comes in like an unstoppable opinionated steam train in her profile (here or elsewhere) with 100000 demands that I be this big public loud outgoing tranny chaser proud of the fact it scares me away. The only valid reason to put myself out there and my heart on the line and leave my old life is if I truly found true love. Only true love would be worth the sacrifice.
But if I made her my whole life and then we broke up and it turned out she wasnt serious about committment then I would be alone, with a nuked life and nothing left to live for except my broken dreams of the past.
I'm not a coward, have a spartan attitude towards life and generally meet problems head on. I think perhaps a streak of self destructive rebellious anarchy in my soul brought me here. I've always been a rebel against petty authority. I've stood up for weak people in the past since childhood, and always done what I think is right but the universe didnt reward me for it. Hence my youthful optimism has been replaced by healthy experienced realism. I have both my eyes wide open but feel like I am walking in the dark.

Hold on guys this thread was made around the time I was still with my exboyfriend Matt. Which was a year ago :lol:

istill think its a relationship for me Kelly, no stealth/undercover for my signiicant other (unless she wants it that way for her own reasons)

i think i prefer it that way even after one good try live in ltr and one unsuccessful attempt.....not dating currently but when the right girl comes along you just know....

:)