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Originally Posted by amberskyi

i think its real naive to think that sex work doesnt have an effect on ones mental and emotional self.
im a sex worker and would consider myself a sex positive feminist but im not going to sugar coat shit.this life is a hard one filled with many pitfalls and obstacles to watch out for. If the girl is smart shes going to do her best to avoid the dangers that cling to this industry but its impossible to avoid them all and it takes a very strong person to endure unchanged.
you can try to blame it on the issues associated with GID (and im not saying there arent) but we also see gg escorts/strippers/pornstars struggle with the industry and the impact it has on their life

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:iagree::iagree:

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Originally Posted by robertlouis

Wise words as ever, Sammi. It's all good and that final para is absolutely bang on; you are indeed fortunate to have that sort of support access. Across the water it's both the cost and the ability to get to psychological advice that makes it so difficult for girls when they are at their most fragile. It takes enormous personal strength and determination to get through those earliest stages of transition, and it seems certain that nobody comes through it unscathed.

And I guess that when some of us complain on HA about some of the moronic and insensitive comments that posters all too often aim at the girls, that's merely the tip of the iceberg in comparison to the kind of abuse you'll get elsewhere.

Being transgendered is no joke, and when you hear bigots describe it as a lifestyle choice it makes me want to strangle them. Idiots.

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I agree. Is there any supporting group or organization or anything, where could young tgirls come and get all needed support, guidance and advises, which could be a base of support for them and which could monitor her transition and eventual work in adult industry and where could girls return in need or to get help and advice? Most important is, that girls are not alone. Many don't have family or friends where they could go.

In my opinion, even in forums as this one it is important, that girls get respect and positive experiences.

I don't think it's fair to say the adult world doesn't cause "any" negative impact.

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

I don't think it's fair to say the adult world doesn't cause "any" negative impact.

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Not saying it doesn't, because I wouldn't know anyway, but many things can potentially cause a negative impact...friggin high school can cause a negative impact...

I will say this the main companies that shoot for trans-porn are very respectful..there are lot of producers who aren't. Will make you feel like shit, abuse you, and degrade you.

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Originally Posted by SammiValentine

Regardless of ones mental state before starting work in the industry, work such as being a model/escort puts you on peoples radar and your going to get attention be it good or bad. It increases the chance of both, at the start you will get a hgiher percentage of bad compared to say 5 years down the line. To say its a cause is not right, but it definitely amplifies things.

I think its fair to say "many of us" get plenty of "not very flattering" comments in the early transition days. Thats a down side, a plus side is having got ballsdeep in the industry at that stage, and getting through the shitchucking stage (well most of it, it still comes, it always does if your put in a focal point) is that it really is one of the best things you can do to help speed up transition, financially etc.

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Actually, I found that the more transitioned I became, the fewer comments I received at all. Men liked me more when I looked like a boy in a dress, according to my income anyway, because they know that hormones affect one's sexual function. #cockhounds

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Originally Posted by EvaCassini

I always tell them that one MUST be stable. That's the very first thing I harp on. Stable in life, transition, and financially able to undergo what doing porn requires.

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Umm... weren't you homeless when you got into this business? :?

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

I will say this the main companies that shoot for trans-porn are very respectful

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HAHAHAHA! That's cute. :lol:

~BB~

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Originally Posted by BellaBellucci

Umm... weren't you homeless when you got into this business? :?


~BB~

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No, I started to live with Jamie not 2 weeks after my first shoot she did of me. That 2 weeks was just planning to move from San Antonio to Dallas ( about 4 hrs apart )

Whilst in San Antonio, I was with my mom and step dad who were and still are very supportive of my life's choices.

An appropriate song...

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=evapJ8q8NBo

Or here

http://vimeo.com/m/44087767

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Originally Posted by BellaBellucci

Actually, I found that the more transitioned I became, the fewer comments I received at all. Men liked me more when I looked like a boy in a dress, according to my income anyway, because they know that hormones affect one's sexual function. #cockhounds

~BB~

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haha i havent found that specifically but for sure
i still get people saying they preffered me in 200-2007 etc (basically when i looked like a romanian orphan on smack. (before ffs, boobs, early hormones, was "ill" through anxiety bla ) and its like yeeeea you just loved the manfat mmmmmmm x

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Originally Posted by EvaCassini

No, I started to live with Jamie not 2 weeks after my first shoot she did of me. That 2 weeks was just planning to move from San Antonio to Dallas ( about 4 hrs apart )

Whilst in San Antonio, I was with my mom and step dad who were and still are very supportive of my life's choices.

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That's not how I remember it, but OK.

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