I do. I don't see the big issue
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I do. I don't see the big issue
I would, as long as we have things in common.
thats the crunch isnt it? its already nearly impossible to find a suitable gg so the odd against finding a suitable ts are astronomicalQuote:
Originally Posted by TomSelis
I would definetly. On the same criteria as I would date any girl.
If I were not already in a good marriage (my wife knows I look), I would consider not just a long term relatioship with a TS, but a lifelong commitment.Quote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
For me, the important thing (besides someone I find good to look at) is an intellectual and emotional connection.
First time I saw my Annie, I knew she was the one for me.
If things had worked out differently, I could have found the man of my life or the TS of my life.
I'm comfortable enough to admit that I could have gone along any of these paths for a life companion.
Be well - Wendall (with the bit o' Wendy inside ,-)
I have had a relationship with a Trans which lasted for about a year. Basically good times with a really nice persaon, although I had to end it due to serious trust issues.
She was working as an escort on the side, which she didn't tell me in the first place. After finding out, I just couldn't continue. I wish I could have another ltr, but I can't with an escort.
and that was not the only ts woman that I have dated and just was not honest with her self nor with me and they say good men are hard to find when it is all about the looks good dudes are not on TS women's agenda's
it is a rare find
BTW I pray all is well with your mom Ruby and that the familly is doing well
Let's be honest.
A lot of film and photo stars frequent this board so of course some men will say "Why yes, I would introduce her to my parents, etc.". Bogus. There are no doubt a few good men here who know and understand not only the pleasures but the compromise it can sometimes take to be in a relationship with a TS.
I personally have been in 3 serious TS relationships in my lifetme. The trials tribulations with any relationship existed, but there certainly was an added pressure in certain situations (whether it be social or what have you) simply because of what she was. My first experience like this was with my first TS GF when I was 19 years old. I was going to realize quickly if this is what I wanted or not. I made the decision and said "you're you - that's all I ask for".
Sadly, it was her who could no longer take the social and other pressures. She deteriorated into a sea of drugs, depression and shady people. It wasn't your typical ending.
Men who date TS have to be aware that it isn't cut and dry, but it isn't all bad either. If you're comfortable within yourself and with the other person, the two of you can persevere. And THAT is quite a romantic notion...
That's a pretty important observation that a lot of people seem to forget. Dating is hard for everyone, every time I have had a relationship that didn't go anywhere- it was because of stuff totally unrelated to trans stuff.Quote:
Originally Posted by Azanti
Think of the long list of things that could ruin a relationship or prevent one from forming, the guy could be annoying, rude, nothing to talk about, no common interests, maybe they're too far away and you don't want to move or have a long-distance relationship, perhaps they have a job that makes it too hard (say someone who always has to travel, be deployed, be on the road, whatever). There's almost an infinite list of things that could be a problem before it even gets to the point where someone could say, cheat on you.
Finding a surrogate might be your only option. Some states, believe FL is one of them, have state laws prohibiting trans individuals from adopting (no idea if it applies to post ops). And other states may not have a written policy about it, but will have an unwritten policy that its to be frowned upon.Quote:
Originally Posted by Azrial
If the girl is preop, then with gay marriage being the issue it is, in most cases marriage won't be an option until/if she gets srs- so if you find a way to get a kid from any means prior to marriage (prior relationship, adoption, surrogate), the kid would in the eyes of the law be yours and yours alone, not hers. Even worse, if things go bad (say you die in a car accident) she might not have a chance in hell of gaining custody, meaning the girl that helped raise the kid might only end up watching as the state takes it to put it in the abusive foster care system. And then if the biological mother had a change in heart (at any moment in relationship) and decided she wanted joint or full custody, you'd be sharing or losing the kid to her- the tgirl wouldn't have any claims to the child if there is no marriage, and would have to overcome the "sexual deviant" stereotypes in court if there was a marriage.
Adoption in the US is, for non-trans people- slanted to be biased in favor of the middle & upper classes. It is very hard for lower SEC's to pull off an adoption, the system thinks your financial situation is directly related to your quality of care and then in addition the system tends to be very socially conservative. It is hard for even middle class single individuals to adopt without getting legally married first. I can't imagine the odds if a guy & a preop tgirl wanted to give it a shot, especially if they were working class on top of that. The alternative is adopting from overseas, but that's a big business that cares about money for separate reasons.
I like the part where you said you have to be comfortable with yourself. So true, I never date a man that has no clue who he is, I know who I am. I tell them to go experiment with someone else and get back to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by artemis2085
I would and have, and I will in the future. Never know when I will meet the one, but it will happen. And if it doesn't oh well too! lol At least I tried.