My husband cheated on me with TS/TV

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Originally Posted by KelliBlueEyes

Realistically quite a few married guys visit, or have visited, escorts. Of course I understand how your actually finding out that your husband is doing so has upset you. Curious as to why you were snooping in the first place?
Anyway, assuming you love him and want to stay together, it probably won’t hurt, and may help, for you two to have a frank discussion about what you’ve discovered.
Probably would be helpful to you for you not to have any expectations regarding his future behavior. He’s not going to stop seeing escorts occasionally. Either you’re going to give him what amounts to “permission”, or he’s going to get better at hiding these activities from you.

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I wasn't actually snooping to start with. He was in the bath and his phone was on the sofa next to me and it went off, we often answer each other's phone if the other is not in the room but it was just an email but the heading shows on the screen without you opening it. It said it was from hungangels, his username and thank you for joining. As you can imagine I was shocked to say the least. I then looked on the site on my phone, entered the username and the password I thought he may use and it came up. I also knew it was def him as we met on POF a few years ago and it was the same username almost, only thing missing was the year he was born was on the end of his POF account and he had missed that off on here

Dude ggs are much better at the end than ts. Nothing beats that warm fuzzy natural pussy

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Originally Posted by MrFanti

I know some folks in the swinging scene....they are quite content!

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Really?
To be honest it isn't something I've ever thought about before but we spoke in depth last night about our sex life and although it us amazing and we have sex regularly we both said it wouldn't hurt to try new things. Both have agreed that we will look into it more in depth before we actually sign up and both decide before we go what our limits are although he stated straight away that in no way would he penetrate anyone else or want anyone to penetrate me and strictly no kissing which I agreed too.
The 1st time will probably be awkward and a bit embarrassing but who knows until we try. It may end up being the 1st and only time we go or we could end up really enjoying it, my husband said for him it's more about other people watching us as he loves watching my face when he makes me orgasm and would love to see if it has the same effect on otger guys as it does him.
You only live once hey

so, a new era seems to start for u both

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Originally Posted by MrFanti

Addendum: I haven't read through the entire mess so forgive me if this has already been addressed. I think a key factor in understanding your husband with regard to his relationship with you is to find out whether or not he is a "top" or "bottom" with transgender women.

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If we ever get to the point where he will admit he's been with ts that's a question I will definitely ask but going by his comments on here he was a bottom when he visited the ts escorts. He enjoys anal with me as he had never tried it before and I had so I asked him to try it with me, it's not something we do regularly but we have done it quite a few times, he enjoys it in my arse while he uses a dildo in my pussy, really turns him on. I was also the 1st woman to use my finger in his arse, he was a bit shocked the 1st time and saud he wasn't sure he actually enjoyed it but a while later while I was in 69 position it was obvious from the way he had his legs spread wide and moving his arse up a bit more than usual he wanted me to try again which I did and he enjoyed it as came loads
Part of me when I found his comments on thought maybe if I hadn't introduced him to that then maybe he wouldn't of been curious about ts's and I was beating myself up about it but I know that's stupid

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Originally Posted by mikelangelo1

so, a new era seems to start for u both

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Maybe. He was quite shocked when I mentioned it last night lol he knows I'm very adventurous in the bedroom and I've done things he hadn't in my past but the look on his face was priceless

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Originally Posted by legault

Dude ggs are much better at the end than ts. Nothing beats that warm fuzzy natural pussy

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He loves my pussy lol says it looks and tastes like a peach lol

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Originally Posted by Upsetwife

Really?
To be honest it isn't something I've ever thought about before but we spoke in depth last night about our sex life and although it us amazing and we have sex regularly we both said it wouldn't hurt to try new things. Both have agreed that we will look into it more in depth before we actually sign up and both decide before we go what our limits are although he stated straight away that in no way would he penetrate anyone else or want anyone to penetrate me and strictly no kissing which I agreed too.
The 1st time will probably be awkward and a bit embarrassing but who knows until we try. It may end up being the 1st and only time we go or we could end up really enjoying it, my husband said for him it's more about other people watching us as he loves watching my face when he makes me orgasm and would love to see if it has the same effect on otger guys as it does him.
You only live once hey

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Yes.
And if executed correctly (this is the key) i.e. shed all jealousy and look at non-marriage partners as "toys", then it's a win/win for both people in the relationship. YOU get to try try things you only dreamed of and so does he...

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Originally Posted by Upsetwife

You only live once hey

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Now you're starting to get it! :cool:

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Originally Posted by MrFanti

Addendum: I haven't read through the entire mess so forgive me if this has already been addressed. I think a key factor in understanding your husband with regard to his relationship with you is to find out whether or not he is a "top" or "bottom" with transgender women.

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bottom.