Originally Posted by bkkldby
i am not one to tar all folks with the same brush, and by no means are the greater percentage of sex workers here (or any where) out to rip you off, screw you over or scam you, but it only takes one. further, those who are into it are of every kind. some will go for the jugular before you even go short time, others will wait, some will marry you, and take everything you have in a divorce or legal proceeding.
i know of a GG who was married with kids and she had a Thai husband and family, as well, living on the other side of town. she waited what i believe was 13 years before she pulled the plug on this poor Italian guy in Phuket and sued him for divorce and took his businesses and all of his real estate and money. he had to higher a local lawyer, go home to his native country and wait to get the case overturned and his assets returned to him, which did happen (rare case, GOOD lawyer). this is a documented case of something that is not just a one off occurrence, it is an industry here, and everywhere in the world where there is play for pay. i repeat, 13 years she conspired with her husband and she went as far as to have children with the man.
there are a few mamasans who will help you, but the general consensus of all the guys i know is this, they are the ones who teach the others how to screw you over and they will always most certainly tell you what they think you wish to hear. rarely have they had sex with the person of your desire and rarely do they have any clue as to whether she is a "good" girl or not. about the most they can tell you is if they are pre or post-op.
but that does not mean 100% of the time this will happen.
in regard to going home to meet the family, this can be one of the most enjoyable experiences that you could have here, or, the worst. it would seem that Katoey-Thaiger was lucky. others are not so lucky.
true case example and not uncommon:
back in the 80's i was seeing a GG here, i had yet to move her. she came to stay with me at my hotel, i had been with her previously, fell in love (fool that i was at the time) and had also been sending her money so she would not have to work. one night after staying with me for about a week her "sister" (later found out not really related at all, manager more like it) came to the hotel (pre mobile phone days) to say her "brother" was killed in a motorcycle accident in the rain, it just so happened he was run over while driving in the rain by a cement truck and had gotten himself smushed between the rear wheels.
so we went the Lumpini Police Hospital to claim his body (another scary story for another post) and we took him to the temple for the week long funeral. i was asked by the family to help pay for his funeral, which i did, this means the rental of the room at the temple for the body to be reviewed and blessed for a week. meals for all the monks twice a day and all who come to visit all day and all night. i sat with her and her family and friend FOR A WEEK, watched the cremation and then my holiday was over, so i went home.
on my next trip a girl who had been friends with my GF asked to talk to me with a translator, so we went to a service so i would be certain the translation was unbiased and accurate. turns out the "brother" was her husband, right HUSBAND, and the entire family, all their friends and even the people at the temple had all conspired to help get me to foot the entire bill. the translator told me the story was undoubtedly true because this girl was pissed off that she was not invited to enjoy the money i was sending every week. and, the motorcycle her husband was riding, was bought and paid for with my money. CAN YOU SPELL KARMA?!.
SO MY LESSON IS THIS, BE CAREFUL, DO NOT ALWAYS BELIEVE WHAT YOU SEE AND HEAR, AND JUST TAKE YOUR TIME AND BEWARE OF ANY REQUEST THAT MAY SEEM OUTLANDISH. most people who run personals website will always have a little tutorial on how things work in international/inter-cultural relationships, and they all agree and advise that a genuine person who is really in love will rarely ask for money or assistance of any kind. think about it.
i will also add that years later i met a girl who was a go-go dancer, we feel in love and we got married and she never lied, cheated or stole from me. we did constantly argue about her mother always asking for money, and other things led to our separation, but she still calls weekly (today in fact) and she also told me that she now understands that her mother was way off-base and simply using her to get money from me, or anyone else.
AGAIN, NOT ALL FAMILIES ARE LIKE THIS, BUT THE ONES THAT KNOW THEIR CHILDREN ARE SEX WORKERS AND DO NOT CARE, HAVE SEEMED TO BUY INTO THE PROCESS AND WANT THEIR FEE TOO.
the story i related above, about the Italian divorcee, is from this book which i know is fact, i met the guy in Phuket as his restaurant and talked to him about it. he wants everyone to be aware. we actually were commiserating with each other.
as far as going about your daily business with a LB on your arm, that is totally up to each person, but i know many guys are shy about this, or do not wish to be outed as homosexual/bi, or are married and wish to be discreet about cheating on their families. fact of life.
but, this is all just my opinion...