LOL - Lesson learned, ALWAYS get the arrangement made in advance and get your $$ and return ticket up front. LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
Hugs,
TS Jamie :-)
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LOL - Lesson learned, ALWAYS get the arrangement made in advance and get your $$ and return ticket up front. LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
Hugs,
TS Jamie :-)
Look if they have been together for 5 years and are happy, then why criticize? It's working for them and that is not an easy thing to find.Quote:
Originally Posted by phobun
Sail on Captain...
I was with a Tgirl for 3 years and very much enjoyed it. She returned to Guatemala last year to undergo treatment of a chronic pancreatic condition. I hope she is able to return soon and we can get back together. I really miss her.
i wish i could have a relationship last that long. It always end up becoming a power struggle! They always end up pressuring me for sex and dont understand that if im not in the mood, IM NOT IN THE MOOD! Sometime's i'll do it when i really dont feel like it, but then it begins to feel like im being used and i start going into the whole ITS YOUR BODY empowered role and i get REALLY bitchy. Then we usuallly start fighting a lot. I start to dread being intimate and avoid it at all costs. After i while they continue pressuring me and i get so turned off to all the things about them that i once found to be cute and tell myself that all they care about is sex and thats not the kind of relationship i want to be in.
Thanks for sharing Ruby. It's good to hear the girls' perspective on this. Relationships are tough, and not always smooth. Looking back now though I only remember the good things, and I miss my Tgirl.Quote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
I dated a t-girl for sometime and she was the one true love of my life, did not matter that she was a t-girl, best relationship I ever had and want her back everyday........t-girls...GGs they are all people you can make whatever you want work.
Then stop dating "cute" assholes.Quote:
Originally Posted by RubyTS
Cute may be good for a one-nighter, but for a relationship its only a small bonus. A good and fitting personality is so much more important.
yeah i dated an older gentleman who turned out to be just as big of a cock whore as the restQuote:
Originally Posted by Teydyn
I actually met my bf on a Yahoo group for tgirls(forgot exactly which one it was) back in 2003, I was not full time or taking any hormones and did not even meet him as a girl I was just to scared back then but he really did not care he still treated me as a girl he also took me to my first goth club and gladly intorduced me to all his friends, but he was/is very much into the fetish world and at the time that frieghtend me so I broke up with him. We still kept in touch and after a few years we met up again at a convention and that is when we actually fell in love.
He often wonders why i'm with him, granted he's not the best looking person but he's so loveable and nice and I support him in everything he does and give my honest opinion about everything. He does treat me more than I treat him well, until recently due to the economy but he makes more money than I do since he runs a few of the big fetish events in NYC and rents sheet music to orchestras and I only work at Starbucks but I am a very low maintenance person and am always worried about the money we spend.
As for the prostitution thing, I used to escort and there has been many times when I made $200 in one week and thought "Damn I could be making that in one hour." but after the horrible experience of being arrested in a hick town(going in my comic *angry face*) I really really do not want to go back to it, true it was easy to make that money I useually had to only shove my cock in their mouth but gah! Holding that money was great and after the first few times I did not care how ugly and fat a client would be as long as they had the money. Since then i've taught myself to wait instead of wanting it now now NOW! All good things come to those who wait eh? Now i'm trying to decide where I should finish my degree. What did my bf think of what I was doing? He had escorted himself at one point and understood the motivation for me but was constantly worried about my safely as a good boyfriend should be.
Another story, me and a few of my friends from the support group decided to go to the gay club and an older divorced guy came up to me nervous, but saying how hot I was. I was seriously talking to him untill he told me how much hotter I was than my friends and I took offense to that so yeah I got him to buy me a full cup of a butterynipple for $8 I drank it down really fast, went to dance then left without one word leaving him there waiting for me to come back.
Being in a relationship means maintaining a level of positivity in order for the relationship to remain functional. As adults we learn to abandon teenage habits of collecting things which only serve a temporary purpose with no lasting positive effect in one's life. As a couple, we must move to the next stages of our lives together in the most harmonious and progressive way as possible. If any time one individual compromises more than the other, resentment will brew within the one who feels pressured and usually the one who is obviously not compromising enough.
Having a monogamous, long term intimate partner means exclusivity if such premise is mutually agreed upon as being the parameter of the relationship. If so, then the pursuit of personal fantasies, fetishes and taboos must be abandoned, in order to make room for mutual and more satisfying exploration between the pair! The practice of self discipline and sense of responsibility over rides selfish indulgences once practiced as a teenager, ex: every time Mom and Dad left the house the horny devil tears off the proper child costume, who couldn't wait for this moment to masturbate 10 times with every flip of the pages in his private stash of nudie magz. What happens with the pair are committed in matrimony and one or both parties continues their eager bad habits of porno diving once the other one is not around? Temporary thrills no longer have the same appeal and will never bring you to the same intensity of satisfaction as it once did at age 12, so get rid of it!
What kind of a monogamous, long term intimate partnership is that? Why not remain single if its that much work and almost sexually frustrating when you can't wait to jump right into all the possible pornographic sources, just as soon as your partner is away. Where does that mentality come from?! Well they stem from your teenage years, unfortunately many people do not out grow.
More often than not the shame and embarrassment which follows, is quickly covered up and justified with extra, and more frequent I love yous, overly smothering compliments and much firmer embraces, which otherwise do not exist normally when present in each other's company. Rather, eyes are glued and distracted to shinny moving objects from both television, and computer screens!
You are lying to yourself, there is no healthy picture of a relationship there because you are incapable of such, being that you may not have had a true long term relationship before. When someone is so caring and so different, show sets a new bar of standard, who sets the finest example of how to be a partner, wouldn't clue in as soon as possible to preserve what is most precious in your life? Obviously potentially mutual and engagingly loving relationships don't exactly come around every day when you sit lazily on the couch waiting for it to happen. You must make it happen. Make choices to improving one's self is hard work and dedication, you do not learn this over night being alone. It is a divine opportunity when life gifts you someone so caring and so utterly giving of themselves they would sacrifice literally everything for you. However, if you do not see yourself doing the same, please don't keep them like you keep a huge collection of most other things which simply take up more and more room, which continue to pile on more and more stress in your life. This opportunity of a relationship is a great learning tool to better yourself. You must deserve to have a great relationship, it doesn't just happen because you are really good at convincing them you really love them, or that they are the world to you. Be proactive and have something to show for it rather than words alone.
Begin by throwing things out and making room for meaningful, and things which constantly bond one another, which serves purpose in the relationship for a life time!