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I think if you review the thread, and take a look at the statementsQuote:
Originally Posted by TJ347
of the women who have responded, you will see there is a consensus.
I feel the question itself is indicative of that very premise.
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Originally Posted by Vicki Richter
I see that the girls here seem to have a similar opinion, but the thing isQuote:
Originally Posted by peggygee
Peggy, when I asked recently what the ladies considered "gay", the answers of the women here were quite different from the answers I've received "in the field", if you will. I should have made it clear that I was talking about reaching a concensus beyond the board, as the opinions of the girls wherever it is whatsupwithat lives may well be different than those of the girls here. Where I'm at, some girls feel the way the girls responding here do, some don't. I can't imagine it'd be any different for him than it is for me.
I concur that you wouldn't find every single transwomen agreeing on allQuote:
Originally Posted by TJ347
the same things, much like you won't find all men agreeing to what it
is they are willing to do in a relationship.
There are wome who are wiling to top for money, but do not want to
top in their personal relationships. And the converse of that, without
sounding like a broken record is that a large pecentage of men that
are interested in transwomen want to be topped by these women and
that may not be something that some women are desirous of doing
in a non-monetary situation.
There are of course exceptions, and variations on the theme, there are
women that are more 'versatile' than others, but perhaps by the very
definition and act of them being 'women' they desire to be the receptive
partner.
What is interesting about the responses of the women on the board, is that
they represent many different demographics, regions, ages, race, current
gender status, and ultimate gender status, yet for the most part I perceive
that there is a consensus in their predilection.
However, I don't and won't go so far as to say that all men that are
interested in transwomen are gay.
In a very strict definition they could be construed as bisexual by members
of society. I however feel that a transwomen is a female, if she
is living as one, is making efforts to transition (whether or not her goal
is SRS), and of course if she has achieved SRS.
Thus a man that is in a relationship with her, would be seen as hetero-
sexual
Where I start to question the sexuality of the male partner in the
relationship is, what is his attraction to the transwoman. If the nature
of his attraction becomes very penis-centric, then I feel that his
position on the Kinsey sexul preference scale starts to drift into a
homo-erotic zone.
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0- Exclusively heterosexual with no homosexual
1- Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6- Exclusively homosexual
As we all know, for some men, their attraction to transwomen borders on
the strictly-dickly, we've but to read some of the words on this forum to
bear that out. Bear in mind this isn't in and of itself a bad thing, it's not
morally wrong, the person isn't evil, their worth isn't diminished one
iota.
What it does mean, that for some transwomen, this is not the ideal person
for them as a mate, and oddly and sadly often-times the very thing that
is attracting the male to the women, is the very thing that the women
may be the most uncomfortable about.
I of course realize that some of my views on this skew to the extreme,
and different women will have different degrees of angst or dysphoria, as
regards their body, but there is some degree of gender dysphoria, or the
woman would not have felt the need to transition.
No, it's just one of those "hard facts of life" things. Your points are usual well put and sum it up, I think.Quote:
Originally Posted by peggygee
After reading what Allanah & Nicole wrote, it good to see that there are girls that appreciate a plain ol' top.
Go Ladies!!!
what it means is generally speaking what vicki said
"only looking for a top"
looking deeper into it youll see it means a guy that treats the ts like a lady, treats just like any other gf he would have, bring around his friends, family, co-workers, public. if he doesnt then he shows he sees her as something less then the girls hes dated before her. it means he isnt all about her cock and will love her just as much w/o it as much as he would w/ it. he wouldnt leave her just bc shes going to go post/op and wouldnt leave her just bc she is staying pre/op. it means he is w/ her b/c of WHO she is and NOT for WHAT she is.
to be gay to me you have to be attracted to the male form. i dont have the body or face of a man, therefor a guy would need to be straight *ie: attracted to the female form* to be attracted to me.... having a girlfriend w/ a dick doesnt make a guy gay. having a boyfriend who wears womens clothing on the weekends does and so does being attracted to the male forms.
It's phenomenal that a star of your stature - and some of your sisters on our site here - are so candid, so giving and honest about who you are, what you want and where you're going. It's refreshing and for those of us who listen closely, a rare insight into the people that we've only been able to admire from afar with no understanding of who these girls were and are inside. Bravo, Allanah.Quote:
Originally Posted by AllanahStarrNYC
Maybe I didn't do enough of this before, but for that, you getQuote:
Originally Posted by tsntx
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It's about the heart - not the hard-on.Quote:
Originally Posted by MacShreach