Do you feel it's wrong?

I think as someone said already, it's not about what you have between your legs, or even your physical appearance for that matter. Sure, looks play a huge part in initial conversation, online personals etc., but what you have inside and what you have to offer speak larger volumes to your character as a person.

Sure people are going to start messaging you saying "hey sexy, what's up?" and that will evolve to "Let's do dinner sometime." But then, like you said - before doing anything you have to come clean and let the guy know.

Moral of the story - the sooner into the conversation you can be honest as to who you are, the better.

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

So I am on a few "straight sites"...and I put my status as female. And I talk to the guys for awhile to let them get to know me, then if I want to meet them I tell them. It usually works out in my favor, but there's always that small percent that get mad. Do you think I am wrong for doing it this way? Should I tell them flat out?

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Your a funny girl Kelly Shore. You start out mentioning some guys (small%) get mad, and you solicited an opinion from other members what they think.

Then you say Quote:Can one of the individuals that answered to yes its wrong..give their insight. I'd like to hear it.

Then...when the opinions you solicited thought it was wrong, you got testy...well you asked for them.

Thats a fine strategy, but you will probably run into alot of walls with it, theoretically. I can see were you are coming from, you consider yourself female even if genetically you werent born one, why is society so ignorant and prejudice....but it is what it is. Im sure you'll find some open minded guys, but your betting onthe long shot.

Didnt the movie Casino tell you anything about betting on the long shot??

I defintely dont think its wrong. If you are a woman you are a woman. And i agree, alot of times if you just put Transexual on a profile all of a sudden they prejude, they might think you sound manly or are just a freak. I wouldnt want to date a "tranny Chaser" either. I did once but i broke up with him, he treated me like i was his sex object.

On anything I was on before,(myspace, facebook...etc) i neversaid i was transexual or trans anything. Personally i am a woman. Nope im not going to say "i feel like im a woman"...because i dont feel like i am. I am. And thats that. Just because i was born with a penis doesnt mean i have to go around telling everyone.

This is something I have been debateing in my mind for a long time. Ive actually thought of not even telling my husband when i get married, but then i think i might if it gets that far for my sake aswell. If i didnt i would feel like our connection is not complete. But everyone must do what they feel is best for them.

But in the beging, im sure there are things about both parties past that both are not sharing with eachothe

I was dating a guy for a week before i told him, he said that he didnt know anything about me and that if i would have told him in the begining he would have just thought i was a freak. But i changed his perception and thoughts of what a girl like me was like.

Alot of people think girls like me are weird and they only judge from what they see on Jerry Springer or other shows that make girls like me seem.

LOL...if he is still with you now, probably he still would have been. Come on now. if a guy wants it, then its cool.

But im talking about genuinley straight guys ONLY into pussy who want no part of dick.

SOme guys will say 'oh i didnt know' when they really knew the whole time, it just satisfies what ever straight ego they have in them. Or maybe it makes them feel 'less gay'...if u see what im sayin.

Actually he said it didnt matter to him but we broke up since he couldnt handle the whole thing about me having it still. He said it would be diffrent if i had had the operation. We are still friends though. But still i changed his mind about what a girl like me is or might be.

i see what you are saying....if given a chance,they might see 'you the person' as opposed to 'you the transsexual' and once they get to know you and see you are as feminine as a woman, it opens them up...

But like I said, then there the dick issue. Some dont mind, others do.

Yes, some do mind and some dont mind.

Theres always the possibility that the one that do mind could turn very violent, whether thats physically or vocally violent.

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Originally Posted by KellyShore

So I am on a few "straight sites"...and I put my status as female. And I talk to the guys for awhile to let them get to know me, then if I want to meet them I tell them. It usually works out in my favor, but there's always that small percent that get mad. Do you think I am wrong for doing it this way? Should I tell them flat out?

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Your a funny girl Kelly Shore. You start out mentioning some guys (small%) get mad, and you solicited an opinion from other members what they think.

Then you say Quote:Can one of the individuals that answered to yes its wrong..give their insight. I'd like to hear it.

Then...when the opinions you solicited thought it was wrong, you got testy...well you asked for them.

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I got testy cause you twisted my words per usual

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Originally Posted by ohioboy

Thats a fine strategy, but you will probably run into alot of walls with it, theoretically. I can see were you are coming from, you consider yourself female even if genetically you werent born one, why is society so ignorant and prejudice....but it is what it is. Im sure you'll find some open minded guys, but your betting onthe long shot.

Didnt the movie Casino tell you anything about betting on the long shot??

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I've never had a problem lol I have had one boyfriend for 6 years the next for 3 years and another for about 2 years all straight all their first "transexual" and thats the way I like it.