I lost my chance to be a transsexual

I grew up in a small town where transsexual was not even heard of. I have always been bisexual, a bottom, small, slim and good-looking so I believe I would have made a decent transsexual if I had had the chance. I also do dress as a girl when I get fucked. It was all there. However the time passed and now I too old to "pass". When I look at shemale porn I see myself as the transsexual sucking and getting fucked. Its my biggest regret of my life.
O any of you have the same feeling as I do? And the girls here; do you see men who "missed" it?

I know other people with same situation as you. Sometimes things happen for a reason. I always try to convince girls to start early for that reason, I started a bit late but just in time to be able to make it and I am very happy of the people that help me and advice me to transition.

Thanks for your kind answer. I do imagine that many men have the same problem. When its in you there is not much one can do. For those who are like me but at the right age, I would say go for it!

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Originally Posted by deuxglass

Thanks for your kind answer. I do imagine that many men have the same problem. When its in you there is not much one can do. For those who are like me but at the right age, I would say go for it!

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Anytime girl!

deuxglass.... missed your chance is an odd way to put it. Surely you "are' a trasexual or not. it's a question of whether you realise that in a public and visible way. I met a middle aged TS in Scotland once who came from a very small village. She had been a merchant seaman and was very very masculine looking. Also married. And yet she also knew she was a woman inside and so transitioned in her mid fifties. Remained with the wife and lived in considerable discomfort socially in her small community on a Scottish island. We went to the village pub with her and they thew us all out for "bringing that pervert in here." So it is a challenge.

you make a good point. But for me I prefer being passable in public as much as possible. when I dress up for sex men get very excited and say I look very good but I cannot deny that age is catching up now. o go for transitioning now would be just too late. Everyone is different but my perception of myself is not that way.

I'm 37 years old, I think I am too old for starting transition altough I looks younger, but always the decision is very personal.

37 is not to old at all .... get on those hormones :) age just slows down the process that is all ....with surgery today so many things are possible ..

if your 37 and a very slim,femme framed person to start with then there is no reason ...

hell in the uk we have people in their 60s transitioning.

People, PLEASE stop transitioning after 30. If you couldn't handle transition when you were still young enough for pleasing results, then it's going to be exponentially harder later in life, and frankly I'm tired of 50 year old CDs taking 2/mg estradiol a day and calling themselves women, not even transsexuals, but 'women!' They're not, believe me.

And considering that teenagers are starting to transition, allowing them to blend better socially over the long run, you'll just stick out even that much more as older transitioners become fewer and fewer in number.

Do what you want, but nothing beats youth, time, and a whole lotta planning.

~BB~

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Originally Posted by LibertyHarkness

37 is not to old at all .... get on those hormones :) age just slows down the process that is all ....with surgery today so many things are possible ..

if your 37 and a very slim,femme framed person to start with then there is no reason ...

hell in the uk we have people in their 60s transitioning.

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Thanks a lot Liby, but I think it is harder at certain age, I really admire those 60's transitioning, but actually I've lost the best part of it :(

It could be a really exciting life being a shemale in my 20's and 30's, now I see the things differently, although sometimes I really want to change & my gf encourages me to take the step.

so... as I said is a very personal decission, who knows.. maybe in a couple of year I am being photographed in one aduld magazine XD (.. dreams...)

P.D. excuse my bad english. And a big hug for those girls that have the courage to take the step.

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Originally Posted by BellaBellucci

People, PLEASE stop transitioning after 30. If you couldn't handle transition when you were still young enough for pleasing results, then it's going to be exponentially harder later in life, and frankly I'm tired of 50 year old CDs taking 2/mg estradiol a day and calling themselves women, not even transsexuals, but 'women!' They're not, believe me.

And considering that teenagers are starting to transition, allowing them to blend better socially over the long run, you'll just stick out even that much more as older transitioners become fewer and fewer in number.

Do what you want, but nothing beats youth, time, and a whole lotta planning.

~BB~

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hmmmm let me see im 49 never transitioned till after 40 and hotter then 90 percent of you people so i have no clue where your anger comes from kiddo as you know when your clock goes off you do what you have to do period regardless of age body size or anything else.im in my 50th year and trust me im way more woman then you could handle.how would you like it if i said people like you cant transition cause your 6 feet tall and mouthy?you wouldnt like it so dont tell her who or what makes a woman at any age period.

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Originally Posted by BellaBellucci

People, PLEASE stop transitioning after 30. If you couldn't handle transition when you were still young enough for pleasing results, then it's going to be exponentially harder later in life, and frankly I'm tired of 50 year old CDs taking 2/mg estradiol a day and calling themselves women, not even transsexuals, but 'women!' They're not, believe me.

And considering that teenagers are starting to transition, allowing them to blend better socially over the long run, you'll just stick out even that much more as older transitioners become fewer and fewer in number.

Do what you want, but nothing beats youth, time, and a whole lotta planning.

~BB~

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What about me? I started at 37, thats when I found out I was a woman. Before that I never knew. :tongue: :dancing:

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Originally Posted by BellaBellucci

People, PLEASE stop transitioning after 30. If you couldn't handle transition when you were still young enough for pleasing results, then it's going to be exponentially harder later in life, and frankly I'm tired of 50 year old CDs taking 2/mg estradiol a day and calling themselves women, not even transsexuals, but 'women!' They're not, believe me.

And considering that teenagers are starting to transition, allowing them to blend better socially over the long run, you'll just stick out even that much more as older transitioners become fewer and fewer in number.

Do what you want, but nothing beats youth, time, and a whole lotta planning.

~BB~

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That's ridiculous. I think no matter what age someone is they should transition. It's NEVER too late, don't say that. That's a load of crap. It's never too late to be happy, and sure they'll have different problems but that's totally unfair to say. You're basing happiness on looks alone... even calling people who've not had the means to transition younger and maybe not pass NOT real transsexuals. It sounds like you don't even understand being trans at all. Whether I took hormones or not I'd still be a woman... maybe not look like an ordinary woman but I'd still be a woman. Now, I decided to take hormones and it's definitely better to start younger but don't try to say that older transitioners aren't real women... that's incredibly judgmental and totally NOT true. I started hormones when I was 15 and I really feel for those older girls who maybe didn't even have the chance to transition and I think they're so strong to be able to deal with not passing and still live their lives and be themselves.

Here's my advice to you.... TRANSITION... but be prepared mentality, and realize that you may never pass... but you may pass... with FFS surgery and all the other techniques out there it's not impossible.

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Originally Posted by TatianaSummer

What about me? I started at 37, thats when I found out I was a woman. Before that I never knew. :tongue: :dancing:

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I am 37 atm.. I'd love to have a nice transition as you :) you looks a lot younger and very very pretty !

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Originally Posted by lisaparadise

hmmmm let me see im 49 never transitioned till after 40 and hotter then 90 percent of you people so i have no clue where your anger comes from kiddo as you know when your clock goes off you do what you have to do period regardless of age body size or anything else.im in my 50th year and trust me im way more woman then you could handle.how would you like it if i said people like you cant transition cause your 6 feet tall and mouthy?you wouldnt like it so dont tell her who or what makes a woman at any age period.

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Lisa you look fantastic!!!!:Bowdown::Bowdown:

I started in my 30s, I wish I had started earlier but I didn't. I don't regret being who I am now however. I know people that have started at 46, 50, and 32 and all of them are better off being who they are now rather then continuing to deny that truth. I'd like to know how old the OP to better judge whether they have missed a window or not. I wish I could have started at 20 I won't like but everything happens for a reason. I transitioned when I was suppose to and I am who I am now because of that.

Ashlee

it seems that regardless of what age girls start they always regret not starting sooner and lament over the years lost.. myself included.. That being said, their r tons of women that transition in their 50s and 60s that pass.. In fact sometimes its easier for some to pass at that age because an older woman may not be subject to as much scrutiny in their day to day lives.. btw Lisa you look FANTASTIC!!

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Originally Posted by maddygirl

That's ridiculous. I think no matter what age someone is they should transition. It's NEVER too late, don't say that. That's a load of crap. It's never too late to be happy, and sure they'll have different problems but that's totally unfair to say. You're basing happiness on looks alone... even calling people who've not had the means to transition younger and maybe not pass NOT real transsexuals. It sounds like you don't even understand being trans at all. Whether I took hormones or not I'd still be a woman... maybe not look like an ordinary woman but I'd still be a woman. Now, I decided to take hormones and it's definitely better to start younger but don't try to say that older transitioners aren't real women... that's incredibly judgmental and totally NOT true. I started hormones when I was 15 and I really feel for those older girls who maybe didn't even have the chance to transition and I think they're so strong to be able to deal with not passing and still live their lives and be themselves.

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Oh, jesus... all Bella's trying to say is that transitioning over the age of 30 on hormones alone doesn't produce the same results as transitioning at a younger age. She just didn't include the minority of complainers who have transitioned post-30 and can go out in public without getting clocked. Plastic surgeries can usually make up for any image issues, but if they can be avoided by transitioning during or just after puberty, isn't that the preferable way to go?

I can kinda understand her beef with older transitioners because... well, she's jealous; but she's got good reason to be. In contrast, I can't stand it when dolt teenagers figure out how to reformat and reinstall an operating system then start calling themselves computer technicians. If they haven't been doing it for years and haven't been through the same experiences I have, they've got no right calling themselves techs. I know that's largely off-topic, but I think it works pretty well as an analogy. lol... I said "anal"ogy.

I have a good friend who trans at 48 and looks great a good doc can turn anyone fish

It was still a poorly worded comment.

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Originally Posted by maddygirl

That's ridiculous. I think no matter what age someone is they should transition. It's NEVER too late, don't say that. That's a load of crap. It's never too late to be happy, and sure they'll have different problems but that's totally unfair to say. You're basing happiness on looks alone... even calling people who've not had the means to transition younger and maybe not pass NOT real transsexuals. It sounds like you don't even understand being trans at all. Whether I took hormones or not I'd still be a woman... maybe not look like an ordinary woman but I'd still be a woman. Now, I decided to take hormones and it's definitely better to start younger but don't try to say that older transitioners aren't real women... that's incredibly judgmental and totally NOT true. I started hormones when I was 15 and I really feel for those older girls who maybe didn't even have the chance to transition and I think they're so strong to be able to deal with not passing and still live their lives and be themselves.

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Maddygirl has the correct answer. "It's never too late, to be happy." The real issue of the original post is about age. Some people find it hard to accept their age. There are gg women in their 40's trying to look and act like they are in their 20's. But the happiest ones accept change and also understand that there are others, usually their onw age who appreciate them for who they really are. I have seen many attractive older transitioners on YouTube.

Well, you can be over 30 and start taking hormones if your hormonal balance is already in the female range anyway. Meaning (at least to me) that some transsexuals are truly intersexed to some extent. When I started my hrt my testo levels were way low and my estrogen levels were very high for a boy. As a boy I was mostly mistaken as a girl, and even when I tried to be an adult male, I was mostly mistaken to be a lesbian tomboy.

It's tougher when you're older as more male hormones and male activities start making your body harder and not as easy to feminize. Even though I didn't start taking any hormones in an official capacity till around 32 I didn't have a problem with that as I wasn't one of these guys who joined a gym, worked on a fishing boat, a dock worker, drove a pickup truck, left the toilet seat up and drank Miller Lite beer.

So I think I would say that super-masculine confused guys should be discouraged from transitioning, because a lot of them are just that... confused.


-Tara

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Originally Posted by alizia

I am 37 atm.. I'd love to have a nice transition as you :) you looks a lot younger and very very pretty !

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:) I was just kidding girl. :wiggle:

There are exceptions to every rule. It's just that most of them already posted on this thread I think. :lol:

Look, people can do whatever they like, and if they think transition will bring them happiness, then so be it. But they should be aware of the risks and if they transition expecting passing privilege and don't get it, they really shouldn't be surprised.

I'm just being real.

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Originally Posted by GrimFusion

I can kinda understand her beef with older transitioners because... well, she's jealous; but she's got good reason to be.

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I'm what now?! DAMN that's funny! :lol:

~BB~

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Originally Posted by BellaBellucci

I'm what now?! DAMN that's funny! :lol:

~BB~

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Maybe resentment was the right word. I always fuck those two up. Was I completely off with the whole analogy bit, too?

As one gets older it is socially harder to transition because you end up losing much at an age when you are usually less flexible emotionally and intellectually. You would probably lose your job and your circle of friends and family to a great extent. Transitioning younger gives you the time to rebuild your life around what you want it to be. At an older age you often have long-term friendships, jobs and family (kids for example) that you risk losing. Life is easier to start over when you are young. Transitioning young you still lose these things but you have more emotional strength and optimism to start over. Do you agree or disagree?

I agree but if you really feel you're trans, then it's a risk you have to be willing to take..

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Originally Posted by Prospero

deuxglass.... missed your chance is an odd way to put it. Surely you "are' a trasexual or not.

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Fraking right.
This lady transitioned when 75 years old: BBC :East Sussex pensioner to have sex change op
She'll be 80 when she has SRS.

Also being a TS is zero to do with "Passing"
though it makes life easier if you do.

And it's also zero to do with dressing up for sex with men:

• A transsexual woman takes her clothes off for sex.
• A CD/TV puts their 'girly' clothes on for sex. http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/s...basic/wink.gif

Anyway, you're not about to transition, so this doesn't really matter.
So just enjoy doin' your thing and relax and have fun.

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Originally Posted by Tyler___Durden

Fraking right.
This lady transitioned when 75 years old: BBC :East Sussex pensioner to have sex change op
She'll be 80 when she has SRS.

Also being a TS is zero to do with "Passing"
though it makes life easier if you do.

And it's also zero to do with dressing up for sex with men:

• A transsexual woman takes her clothes off for sex.
• A CD/TV puts their 'girly' clothes on for sex. http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/s...basic/wink.gif

Anyway, you're not about to transition, so this doesn't really matter.
So just enjoy doin' your thing and relax and have fun.

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Of course I am not a transsexual! I never claimed I was. I just am saying that I feel I missed my chance of being the prettiest transsexual I possibly could. For me my being beautiful is important. Why? It's just human nature. Many guys with to have more muscles; wish to be handsome and attract girls better. Many girls wish they had better tits. It's human nature to want to please the other. I have no problem with dressing up for sex. Why should I if me and my partner find it excites us better.

Eh?
How can you "miss the chance of being the prettiest transsexual I possibly could".
You are either Ts or not. It's not a lifestyle choice.
You mean: "I missed the chance of being the prettiest CD/TV, I possibly could". coz that's exactly how your posts read.

I hope that clarifies your thoughts for you.

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Originally Posted by deuxglass

Of course I am not a transsexual! I never claimed I was. I just am saying that I feel I missed my chance of being the prettiest transsexual I possibly could. For me my being beautiful is important. Why? It's just human nature. Many guys with to have more muscles; wish to be handsome and attract girls better. Many girls wish they had better tits. It's human nature to want to please the other. I have no problem with dressing up for sex. Why should I if me and my partner find it excites us better.

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honey we are all vein in nature,ive never known a tgirl who doesnt see flaws in themselves,beautty doesnt make you more trans it just makes you more beautifull but thats not what being trans is all about so let me fill you in,being trans is all about peace and tranquilitty its about love and understanding of ones soul,its about strength dignity and self beleaf and most of all its about standing you ground and knowing you belong just as much the next person.for two decades i had felt i lost my chance i put everyone i know family and friends ahead of me,i couldnt be selfish its never been in me i made everyone around me happy being funny well just being me so i waited and waited till the right time and i realized that there never is a right time so i made calls to the right people mainly Dr.Tam and we planned out a sked that fit.and now after a decade of transitioning i still dont pass but thats ok cause that wasnt high on my objectives but i achieved my number one goal and that was to fit in never change my personality and to stay true to who i was and who i am afterall my only main objective was to change the shell and ive done that very very well.

Here is a person who transitioned in their late 40's, and says it's only been about two years into it. Each person is different. But I have heard other stories, where the person was able to accumulate money to make their transistion easier. Also, as a person ages, they produce less male hormones. So then they have less of them to fight off the effects of female ones,

Transition Late In Life Part 4 - YouTube

looking at your photo I would say that you pass very well! Thanks for the good advice. It is very much appreciated. maybe it is just a question of courage to take they step and do it. maybe I should stop dreaming of it and act.

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Originally Posted by lisaparadise

honey we are all vein in nature,ive never known a tgirl who doesnt see flaws in themselves,beautty doesnt make you more trans it just makes you more beautifull but thats not what being trans is all about so let me fill you in,being trans is all about peace and tranquilitty its about love and understanding of ones soul,its about strength dignity and self beleaf and most of all its about standing you ground and knowing you belong just as much the next person.for two decades i had felt i lost my chance i put everyone i know family and friends ahead of me,i couldnt be selfish its never been in me i made everyone around me happy being funny well just being me so i waited and waited till the right time and i realized that there never is a right time so i made calls to the right people mainly Dr.Tam and we planned out a sked that fit.and now after a decade of transitioning i still dont pass but thats ok cause that wasnt high on my objectives but i achieved my number one goal and that was to fit in never change my personality and to stay true to who i was and who i am afterall my only main objective was to change the shell and ive done that very very well.

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looking at your photo I would say that you pass very well! Thanks for the good advice. It is very much appreciated. maybe it is just a question of courage to take they step and do it. maybe I should stop dreaming of it and act

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Originally Posted by yodajazz

Here is a person who transitioned in their late 40's, and says it's only been about two years into it. Each person is different. But I have heard other stories, where the person was able to accumulate money to make their transistion easier. Also, as a person ages, they produce less male hormones. So then they have less of them to fight off the effects of female ones,

Transition Late In Life Part 4 - YouTube

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She is exactly how I want to be!

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Originally Posted by Tyler___Durden

Eh?
How can you "miss the chance of being the prettiest transsexual I possibly could".
You are either Ts or not. It's not a lifestyle choice.
You mean: "I missed the chance of being the prettiest CD/TV, I possibly could". coz that's exactly how your posts read.

I hope that clarifies your thoughts for you.

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You have a good point there. You mean that I could stay a pretty TV and just be happy with that? I could but frankly I want boobs! So I must transition to have them :).

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Originally Posted by lisaparadise

honey we are all vein in nature,ive never known a tgirl who doesnt see flaws in themselves,beautty doesnt make you more trans it just makes you more beautifull but thats not what being trans is all about so let me fill you in,being trans is all about peace and tranquilitty its about love and understanding of ones soul,its about strength dignity and self beleaf and most of all its about standing you ground and knowing you belong just as much the next person.for two decades i had felt i lost my chance i put everyone i know family and friends ahead of me,i couldnt be selfish its never been in me i made everyone around me happy being funny well just being me so i waited and waited till the right time and i realized that there never is a right time so i made calls to the right people mainly Dr.Tam and we planned out a sked that fit.and now after a decade of transitioning i still dont pass but thats ok cause that wasnt high on my objectives but i achieved my number one goal and that was to fit in never change my personality and to stay true to who i was and who i am afterall my only main objective was to change the shell and ive done that very very well.

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Very well put and I agree with just about everything said here. I would like to point one thing out as well, and maybe this is just semantics or splitting hairs but to me it's important. People don't "become" transsexual they are born that way. I think what the OP meant to say is that they missed their chance to start transition young. Well so did I, so did Lisa, so did my GF and so did a lot of other girls. But it didn't stop us from taking the steps we needed to take to be who we are and IF the OP really is transsexual it shouldn't stop them either. Yes it was hard, yes a lot of us sacrificed everything or nearly everything, but some sacrifices are worth making to be true to yourself. If the OP isn't transsexual then I'm kinda scratching my head wondering what it is they think they've missed.

Ashlee

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Originally Posted by deuxglass

You have a good point there. You mean that I could stay a pretty TV and just be happy with that? I could but frankly I want boobs! So I must transition to have them :).

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Uh what? You can get the best boob job on the planet and that doesn't mean you are transitioning. There is a lot more to transitioning then a boob job, or facial hair removal, or a new wardrobe. This isn't a costume you put on and take off, it is an entire life you are moving from one gender role to another. At this point I'm going to recommend you seek help from a gender psychologist to help you figure out exactly where you are on the gender spectrum because I'm not really sure you know yourself.

Ashlee

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Originally Posted by deuxglass

I grew up in a small town where transsexual was not even heard of. I have always been bisexual, a bottom, small, slim and good-looking so I believe I would have made a decent transsexual if I had had the chance. I also do dress as a girl when I get fucked. It was all there. However the time passed and now I too old to "pass". When I look at shemale porn I see myself as the transsexual sucking and getting fucked. Its my biggest regret of my life.
O any of you have the same feeling as I do? And the girls here; do you see men who "missed" it?

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i'm not a tranny, but i can assure you, that you're not late. post a nude picture of yourself here, then designate yourself a female name. not only will people treat you as a woman, but they will be scorned for even suggesting otherwise.

just don't mention this thread prior to posting as such.