with a Ts or just sex
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with a Ts or just sex
it's been viewed six times and noone has an opinion COWARDS lolQuote:
Originally Posted by KellyShore
I have had a few relatioships with tg ladys, sex is not always what we want some of us are looking for the happyending, ya know the real deal.
well thats good but I wasn't assuming either way I was just wanting opinions and viewsQuote:
Originally Posted by arc angel
I think you already know my answer, Kelly, but since I'm married, I'm not on the market for a relationship. However, if I were, yes indeed I would. I have many TS friends, some of whom I have been intimate with (I do have an open marriage :) ), and some of whom are "only" friends (actually, nothing "only" about it, I value them all).
that's awesome :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Ecstatic
yeh without a doubt i would have a relationship with a ts! sex would be a part of it but i always found sex better with someone you love is so much more fulfilling imho
totally I agree with thatQuote:
Originally Posted by sbgsean
I've been pretty anti "relationship" most of my life, personally. The most important thing for me would be open, honest, normal communication. Nothing in the world beats a great conversation.
I work at a nightclub, which makes sex pretty easy for me. Just hooking up with a girl has become boring.
I think everyone at some point pursues a relationship.
I prefer relationships I am currently in one but a lot of the stress from being quote unquote stealth has gotten to me after about a year of it, I have always been open and honest about who and what I am I wish I could find a guy that would accpet me no matter not that I don't care about him but it hurts that he is ashamedQuote:
Originally Posted by hondarobot
I prefer relationships I am currently in one but a lot of the stress from being quote unquote stealth has gotten to me after about a year of it, I have always been open and honest about who and what I am I wish I could find a guy that would accpet me no matter not that I don't care about him but it hurts that he is ashamedQuote:
Originally Posted by hondarobot
I prefer relationships I am currently in one but a lot of the stress from being quote unquote stealth has gotten to me after about a year of it, I have always been open and honest about who and what I am I wish I could find a guy that would accpet me no matter not that I don't care about him but it hurts that he is ashamedQuote:
Originally Posted by hondarobot
its a pity kelly he feels ashamed about your relationship, i think its sad that we let other people judge our lives and worry what other people think is right or wrong. I had the same thing when i dated my ex Jen she was ts but i knew i wanted to be with her i wasnt gonna let other people make me feel ashamed of someone i loved.
Heh, you can say that again, Kelly. Seriously, it's a bitch if he's ashamed. I'm waaaay too old for you, and married to boot, but one thing I would never be is ashamed to be with you, or any woman that I loved. In fact, I couldn't be in love with anyone if I were ashamed of her in any way. That just does not compute.
As for the sex / love dynamic, for me they really are two different things. They certainly can complement one another, but I've had equally awesome sex with someone I love and with someone I was not in love with (3 of the former and 4 of the latter if memory serves). However, I have to connect with my partner for the sex to be intense: it may not be love, but it has to be real.
yeah I wish guys my age had that attitude lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Ecstatic
Well, my 'relationship' node is pretty much broken from the abuses of past experience, so sex has been the driving force of my meetings with T-gurls, but if one sparked the heart electric...Who knows? :shrug
Yes Kelly, if I were to meet someone I would want a relationship..and hell, as for as the sex, that would be normal for two people in love...no matter what the gender. Just my bad fortune I live in the rural south and the chances of meeting a Transgendered lady is slim to none....but I still have my dreams...and of course HA...lol.
Hey hotfireman69, I don't know about Tallahassee, but Florida has a very substantial TS population, at least in Tampa and Miami. Miami I know is about 500 miles from Tallahassee, but Tampa is a lot closer as I recall.
Hey, Kelly...are you saying that he doesn't want people to know about your relationship, or that you're not a gg? If everyone assumes you're a gg, isn't that okay? Or do you want to be publicly TG?
Oh, and hi.
No he doesn't want people to know he is dating a transexual and if they were to find out I am sure he'd leave me.Quote:
Originally Posted by suckseed
Ok. then I'm a little confused still. You completely look and sound like an ordinary woman. I realize what you're probably saying is you're not advertising you're a TS, but not ashamed either, and he shouldn't be either.
Look, we all date people that aren't right for us sometimes. I've stayed on with women I knew weren't right for me in the past, and somehow, it wasn't just the sex, I felt something for them in spite of their flaws. I guess i know I'm not perfect either.
But a girl being ashamed of me? No way would I put up with that. If I were you I'd seriously consider this. Maybe talk to your mom?
It's the stress of dating someone taboo I'm the first transexual he has dated and he is worred about someone finding out from media from word of mouth from someone else and he doesn't want them to think he is gay the truth is he can't deal with itQuote:
Originally Posted by suckseed
Now I remember why I'm pissed at you. That was a weak post, suckseed (and despite our differences, suckseed generally is a pretty good guy).
If a guy has some issues with your gender status, whatever it is, dump the loser. He's an asshole.
You seem way too pretty and sweet to put up with some other persons problems.
It's not who he is it's the enviroment and society that is helping him make his decision and men are afraid of changeQuote:
Originally Posted by hondarobot
Kelly,
It sounds like, to me, your boyfriend has issues.
I think he needs to reevaluate his priorites and choose his "friends" or his girlfriend.
When you truly have feelings, outside of sex, for someone it should not matter how their friends feel or if he would feel gay.
You like who like and if your friends think you are gay or whatever, you need new friends.
Good luck to you, and hopefully it works out for the best.
Oh yea, some people just suck at life.
LATE
thanks FreddyQuote:
Originally Posted by FreddyB
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lol aweQuote:
Originally Posted by BeardedOne
Ok. Sorry not to know, but I haven't read everything you may have written; you may have already said whether or not you're preop and if so what your plans are.Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyShore
It's easy for us to sit in judgement of your man. But in your case, his being ashamed of you seems particularly hard to hear about, because you've been such an incredible positive role model. If you love him other than this....would you consider going to counseling together? If this is just a fling for you, then why bother, but if you love him....maybe he just need to confront some things. Ask him if he would not come to the aid of a gay person being harassed if his friends were watching. If he's not man enough to be comfortable in that scenario, then he doesn't deserve you kelly.
Did. Would again. All depends on personality types. I`m mellow,prefer no drama. Sex is better when there`s a connection,not too luvy duvy mushy wushy about it, so i`ll stop there.Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyShore
Here`s my number,call me when you`re single :P
555-5515.
both people would have to be comfortable with going to counseling -- I am pre-opQuote:
Originally Posted by suckseed
lol you're so sillyQuote:
Originally Posted by corbomite
Not really since I don´t believe in all the different practical definitions of the term relationship. It seems very unnatural to me to be artificially tied with anyone that way. Relationships are made of creepy shadows that leave people living together blinded by their own created realities. Maybe I´m wrong but I don´t want to be a liar and want to leave my nature. I want to be a free individual and relationships are not part of my nature. But if there is a T-girl or GG with a wonderful personality who´d share the beauties and dark sides of life (unfortunately also the nature of life) with me, that means reciprocal understanding, individual respect and the will to devote ourselves for each other, then why not. It can only be the best solution or the worst. But the whole (public) kissy-kissy thing, everyday ego-boosting compliments and mindless and endless "I love you" - phrases are nothing for me.
Estatic, You are most certainly correct. There are several transgendered women in Orlando, Tampa, and Sarasota. Each is about a 5 hour drive for me. Miami is more like a 9 hour drive. Yes I would love to meet someone.....but I would not even know where to begin as for as clubs or what not. Plus how productive could a long distance relationship be.
Kelly, I have to agree with Suckseed, if you really love the man, and he loves you, you guys should try some type of counseling before you both lose the best thing that you have (Each other).
Given that my view of TS is the same as GG, yes, I'd have a relationship with one. I'm even an aspiring actor, and if I ever somehow became famous (which isn't important to me, I just love the craft), and someone asked me about it, I'd be open and honest and not treat it as some dirty little secret. Could damage my career, but I don't really care.
I only get one life, and it's a short one, might as well spend my time here (on Earth) being happy and not worrying about what people think of me.
Also, if your boyfriend is worried about his friends abandoning him because he dates a TS, they aren't his friends to begin with. Not real ones anyway.
For crying out loud, some decent guy just email Kelly or vise versa, or some damn thing.
Take the leap of faith and talk to each other.
okay I understand wow lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Coroner
But Matt would have to agree to it, it's more than just me in the relationship and I don't think he is ready to have me come out if it were to happenQuote:
Originally Posted by hotfireman69
See for me I've always had the dream of prince charming that he would love just for me and I may be a little girl for still believing in that but I am a hopeless romantic