Why areT- Girls so disfunctional../ emotionally unstable ?

I have my own ideas but will save them for later. Let me jsut relate a case I dealth with to sort indicate where i'm coming form. I am in no way incenuating that T-girls are more unstable than regular gg.


About 6 months ago I dealt with a case it stands out in my mind because it was this transgendered woman who was at the time suicidal. So in an attempt to isolate the problem we traced her history from childhood.

Thing is her father left when she was very young, in an attempt to compensate for that loss of her father figure (which we discovered over a period of time) she at the age of 15 got into a homosexual relationship with an older man. At age 17 she began her transition, solely in an attempt to keep her partner who at that time began expressing concerns about the fact that he was in a homosexual relationship with her(then him). Two implants, hormonal therapy, and numerous surgeries later she still didnt it the bill of what his "ideal" woman was suposed to look like.

to cut a long story short everything came to a head in one session. I asked the question . Who are u doing all this for honestly?

Is it to keep your man or to keep your dad.

She is doing better.....

I'm not trying to say all if any transsexuals have this issue, but it is very disturbing the number of suicides/attempted suicides in the Transsexual Communitn. And i'm not talking about the adult community (cause both g and tg adult entertainers have their issues. I'm talking about genuine Transgendered women. And I know that the hormoned have adverse psychological effects on women but are there more explanations for these behavioral trends?

HORMONES !!!!!

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Originally Posted by Arianna

Certainly not all TS women are basket cases. However, there are a million reasons why we could be. But I agree. unfortunately, that there is way too much emotional instablity, depression, lonliness, fear, and suicide in our "community".

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I think that it is genuine cause for concern. Are there any organizations that deal specifically with these issues ? anyone

Being an ex- suicidial TS, I can relate to where ur friend is coming from. The only explanation I have for once wanting to take my life is the obvious. Look at how society looks at transgender people. I mean true I did choose this life on my own, but not before it was too late,not before i knew what i was really getting into. In this community there is hardly no one to reach out to, beyond our own kind, and sometimes even we can be our own worse enemies. Society thinks we are psycho and requires us all to take evalutaions before we go thru woth anything. Often times girls feel lonely and unwanted, doing everything in our power to meet others expectations. Then there are the affects of hormones, as u said, which only make things worse. The only way I overcame my low self esteem and over powered my will to take my life was to realize that I have to be my own best friend, that if not for anyone else I have to live for me. And once I started doing that everything else came into place.
I suggest to any girl who has low self esteem and is suicidal to understand that there is a reason to live, which may not be tangible , but we all were put here for a reason, it is up to us to find our purpose and make a differnce. Never let anyone influence our actions. Love yourself before you love anyone else.
Also, if we as TS ( and others in the gay community) reach out and accept one another, love one another, and be there for one another, instead of always trying to get ahead of each other, and down grade the next girl, then maybe we just might overcome societies hold on us. Lets do it together...as one.

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Originally Posted by SexxxyJade

Being an ex- suicidial TS, I can relate to where ur friend is coming from. The only explanation I have for once wanting to take my life is the obvious. Look at how society looks at transgender people. I mean true I did choose this life on my own, but not before it was too late,not before i knew what i was really getting into. In this community there is hardly no one to reach out to, beyond our own kind, and sometimes even we can be our own worse enemies. Society thinks we are psycho and requires us all to take evalutaions before we go thru woth anything. Often times girls feel lonely and unwanted, doing everything in our power to meet others expectations. Then there are the affects of hormones, as u said, which only make things worse. The only way I overcame my low self esteem and over powered my will to take my life was to realize that I have to be my own best friend, that if not for anyone else I have to live for me. And once I started doing that everything else came into place.
I suggest to any girl who has low self esteem and is suicidal to understand that there is a reason to live, which may not be tangible , but we all were put here for a reason, it is up to us to find our purpose and make a differnce. Never let anyone influence our actions. Love yourself before you love anyone else.
Also, if we as TS ( and others in the gay community) reach out and accept one another, love one another, and be there for one another, instead of always trying to get ahead of each other, and down grade the next girl, then maybe we just might overcome societies hold on us. Lets do it together...as one.

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Great post Jade . I think alot of times T girls have the illusion that getting implants and doing surgeries will make everything alright . Many times it's more of an internal/mental issue than it is a physical one . A geek who takes steroids and beefs up still is a geek until he stops believing that he is one .

coupled with the fact that they are universally accepted and hormones the feeling of loss and want for acceptance is a deadly combination,.

Sounds to me like this was not a true TS woman of who you are speaking of. This person's issues are something other than being transsexual. This person wrongly began calling himself a TS because he thought the term fit.

Anyone who begins living as a woman for a lover is not a transsexual at all.

A lot of people that call themselves TS women are not TS. I dated a girl who it took years for her to admit that she began first doing drag and then living as a female because so many people told her how pretty she was, and how easily she could pass and the number of men falling at her feet. Now here she is a STUNNING (I mean seriously FINE) vision of female beauty but she's got all kinds of issues.


But I will say that many TS women have emotional issues that stand out more than most but DAMN, imagine being A TRANSSEXUAL. Though many girls find happiness in who and what they are but that is still a pretty fucking heavy load to carry in this society.

Rejection, not being understood, being seen as a freak, having men desire you only for what is in your panties, having men who want you and 10 others like you for what is in thier panties, the insecurity of others like you and closest to you, ... I could go on.

But as many times as a TS friend, loved one, or acquaitence has driven me absolutely up a fuckin wall I wouldn't dare act as if i don't get whare a lot of that comes from.

I'm wondering how could anyone dare to ask such a question.

Personally, I detest the gay community. I wish TS would stay as far away from it as possible. That is one of the reasons TS are treated so oddly. Another is they talk wierd. They make up their own language regardless of education or background. It's really disturbing. I mean if you want mainstream people to accept you, don't act like a flaming drag queen. Act like a woman. Save the drama for message boards like Hung Angels.

I think the hormones thing is an excuse to misbehave or mistreat people. This one girl told her guy that she needed space because of the hormones. She blamed mistreating him on the hormones... I am sure that isn't uncommon. I mean it is very easy to say, "Oh I'm normal, it's just that I take hormones". Most of these girls are whack already. They post pictures of people urinating and say things like "drinky drinky"... I mean don't blame the hormones for obvious insanity or an inability to be stable.

However, I have seen very normal nice girls change dramatically... so something has to cause that. That draws me back to the subculture. If you hang around with whacky people enough, it is going to reflect on you.

Depression is an interesting thing. I can't explain why so many girls fall into this but tt is very common among TS girls. You really don't see many truly old TS around.

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Originally Posted by Vicki Richter

You really don't see many truly old TS around.

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You're not hanging out in the right clubs.

But in a culture where looks are everything, why would someone who's lost the "everything" they once had hang out anymore?

Oh my...if we currently had attachments, this is about the time JWBL aka Allanah :wink: would post that infamous "let's get ready to rumble" pic...

I guess here's as good a place as any to say it:

Considering how much intolerance they have faced from society, it seems surprising that the gay, TS and BDSM communites are so judgemental. But they are, in spades. I guess it's like the children of abusers growing up to be abusers: they all say they are never going to do it, but it's the only thing they know.