Confused By My Sexuality

Hi there, first post here, but I've been "lurking" for some time now! If this topic has been done to death I apologise, and I also realise it's probably a common "trolling" post. However, I am sincere in what I say and could really do with some input. So, until this year I considered myself to be 100% Heterosexual, despite having been watching TS porn for a good few years! I have been going to (Female) Escorts since May 2014, love sex with Women, and won't be stopping anytime soon. But the odd thing is, for almost a year now, I rarely watch Hetero porn! I just love TS porn so much, maybe it's the taboo thing that turns me on?
So, about 3 or 4 months ago, I took the plunge and went to see a TS Escort. I enjoyed it very much, have not had the self recrimination I thought I might, and hope to see another sometime soon.
I have realised that as long as sex takes place amongst consenting Adults the labels (Gay, Bi, Hetero, etc) don't really mean much. But just out of curiosity, how/do you define yourself? I have no interest in "Men" as such, but love being with Women, watching Hetero porn, as well as TS porn, and the aforementioned time with a TS Escort.
Does this make me Bisexual? As I said, it doesn't really matter, but it's obviously something that's going through my head, and I'd like to hear what others with the same proclivities think.





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Personally it thinks that it's whatever you think it is and doesn't really matter as long as you're happy.

As for the bisexual thing.. that I would think is only when you'd have sex/ be romantic with guys as well as women.. well something like that.

Yes you're right. This topic is :deadhorse.. but at least you were cordial about it

I don't define myself as anything. I've always been attracted to women and discovered my attraction to transgender women over a decade ago. Back then I was as conflicted and confused as you are currently. Presently as a mature and much wiser 31 y.o, IDGAF. I realize that to many people, we are considered homos (even some transgender women call us that). And I really couldn't care less.

The longer you're in this, the less you give a flying fuck about labels and other people's opinions. Cheers!

Thank you for your reply, agree with everything you said. The thing about only being Bi if you like Men was also said to me by the TS Escort, and a Female Escort (who is full on Bi) that I saw. I'm not really sure why I posted the question, as I have no regrets and am completely secure with my sexuality. I guess I just wanted to stop lurking and interact here.
I think the thing that's confusing me, is my heavy use of TS porn, but almost exclusive use of Female Escorts. Maybe it's a form of denial? On a side note, as far as the porn is concerned, I can't get over how amazing Chanel Santini is. Now for her, I could probably give up GG's!

last_stop, yes, I knew I was posting something that's been done to death. But as you rightly say, I am a little conflicted, and wanted to give my story for feedback. I'm not trying to antagonise or question others here, just want some input on my own situation. The crazy thing is, I'm 46 and only lost my Virginity 3 years ago (to an Escort). I've always been shy and of a slightly nervous disposition, but during the last 3 years have been with 14 Escorts (one of which being the TS).
So, my sex life is far from conventional, although I do refrain from using the word normal (what is "normal" etc).
I would probably have been with more TS, but find it much harder to find what I find attractive, in comparison to GG's. I've always used Adultwork for my encounters, perhaps it's not the best site for TS Escorts?

I would suggest that considering you lost you virginity really late (compared to most people) and it was to an escort as opposed to a standard relationship that you are playing catch up basically. If you could focus less on escorts and more on building/finding a relationship with a GG or TS-girl you will get more out of things in the long run. Porn/escorts are all good if that's what people want but they are selling a complete fantasy for a brief period of time; to get something longer lasting, more intense and basically more real you might need to move away from what could become quite addictive. Overall it sounds to me as if you are attracted to girls and that TS porn/escorts is a way of chasing more and more elaborate fantasy. But hey I'm no expert on anything so if you're happy and can afford the current lifestyle you have fair play.

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Originally Posted by Lester316

I would suggest that considering you lost you virginity really late (compared to most people) and it was to an escort as opposed to a standard relationship that you are playing catch up basically. If you could focus less on escorts and more on building/finding a relationship with a GG or TS-girl you will get more out of things in the long run. Porn/escorts are all good if that's what people want but they are selling a complete fantasy for a brief period of time; to get something longer lasting, more intense and basically more real you might need to move away from what could become quite addictive. Overall it sounds to me as if you are attracted to girls and that TS porn/escorts is a way of chasing more and more elaborate fantasy. But hey I'm no expert on anything so if you're happy and can afford the current lifestyle you have fair play.

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Yes Lester, you are bang on point with your words. I have indeed been playing catch up, I'm definitely addicted to Escorts, and my kinks/desires have been getting more extreme (nothing harmful, I'm not the sort to hurt others, physically or mentally).
I think it's the taboo nature of fucking a TS that turns me on. I have Male friends that I know find many TS attractive, but would never go with one, as it's some kind of "gay confirmation" to them. This last 3 years has been very liberating to me, as time goes on I am not feeling the need for labels. Maybe that's contradicting the base of my thread title a little, but I had to start somewhere!

Trying to label yourself is a fruitless and rather pointless task. You say labels don't mean much, so why bother?

I'm a tgirl but usually describe myself as bisexual if anyone asks. At the end of the day, I like what I like and I am what I am. Does anything else really matter?

Have to agree, I've never tried to label myself in terms of sexuality either. I like what I like and attraction to me is so much more than what someone has inside of their underwear.

I have been an entirely heterosexual guy all my life until meeting a trans woman and commencing a fledgling relationship without realising her gender.
Before things went that far we had "that conversation " and by that time I didn't care.
I am still entirely attracted to femininity and have no interest in guys so consider myself straight but have no problem at all if others feel the need to label me as bi.

Perhaps it makes it easier for them to understand and as I don't see the labels of gay or bi as being in any way negative or detrimental it doesn't bother me in the slightest.