Would you date an escort?

[Mike11]

I have been visiting this TS escort a few time since last year and she is gorgeous and quite a sought after escort in London. She has been really nice to me and very generous with her time and services. She keeps dropping hints at going out and stuff. I kind of say "yes sure and that would be really nice" but have not taken it beyond that.

Is it a good idea to go on a date? I really like seeng her as it is and happy to pay the fee for no strings attached fun. As much as I would love to take her out (she is totally passable) I am afraid of spoiling a good things. I wondered if others may have any thought/experience of this.

[Elisabeth_TS]

I think you are asking the wrong question, what you should be asking first and foremost is, "how would you feel knowing that while you are dating she will be having sex regularly with other people?"


Because if you can't deal with that, then you won't have any chance at making things work. Oh and then there is this blog post which is really worth a read too on dating a sex worker http://christianbvega.blogspot.co.uk/2013/04/how-to-date-sex-worker.html

[Jericho]

If you can separate business from pleasure, sure, go for it.
If not, run Forrest, run! :shrug

[jimme747]

D. E. That was a great blog, reading material for all relations.

[Mike11]

I think you are asking the wrong question, what you should be asking first and foremost is, "how would you feel knowing that while you are dating she will be having sex regularly with other people?"


Because if you can't deal with that, then you won't have any chance at making things work. Oh and then there is this blog post which is really worth a read too on dating a sex worker http://christianbvega.blogspot.co.uk/2013/04/how-to-date-sex-worker.html

Thats it you see. I am not really interested in that type of intense relationship. Even if I went out with her, it would be for fun and I would be happy to contimue paying her for sex. I am afraid however that meeting in this way will make the lines blurred and I can potentially end up spoiling a good thing. I must admitt though that I am quite tempted as apart from looking great, she is great company.

[Rusty Eldora]

I think you are asking the wrong question, what you should be asking first and foremost is, "how would you feel knowing that while you are dating she will be having sex regularly with other people?"


Because if you can't deal with that, then you won't have any chance at making things work. Oh and then there is this blog post which is really worth a read too on dating a sex worker http://christianbvega.blogspot.co.uk/2013/04/how-to-date-sex-worker.html

A very good link. I have a provider girlfriend (cis girl) and we are doing well. One cannot be jealous, be prepared to share with others someone you find special.

In the initial and intermediate I still paid for when we had sex, there is a big worry in women - do they really want me or are they just here for free sex. She was the one that said, "it is my choice to be with you".


I see your reply - I seriously doubt you will spoil anything - yes continue to pay for the sex. She also controls the clock. So the lines may blurr - she might become a good friend and your favorite provider. I travel with providers often, less than 10% end up as failure.


Yes, I do hear about her day. Yes, I do hear about the guy she thought was incredibly hot as well as the smoking sex. I also hear about the guys that basically repulsed her.

She chose me, her heart belongs to me, she loves that I see others myself and she has shared me with over two dozen of her friends. I have not ever asked her to quit, instead I have supported her about her career, it is clearly the best rewarding job she could do.

I don't push sex, she takes 'care' of me well, but there are nights she feels exhausted or sex will feel cold not cuddly. She often really wants to be held and told things will be OK.


In your case I would certainly try it with her, be very cognizant that her time is valuable and it is a gift to you. Ask yourself a question - would you prefer dinner with her more than by yourself. Duh!

[Mike11]

A very good link. I have a provider girlfriend (cis girl) and we are doing well. One cannot be jealous, be prepared to share with others someone you find special.

In the initial and intermediate I still paid for when we had sex, there is a big worry in women - do they really want me or are they just here for free sex. She was the one that said, "it is my choice to be with you".


I see your reply - I seriously doubt you will spoil anything - yes continue to pay for the sex. She also controls the clock. So the lines may blurr - she might become a good friend and your favorite provider. I travel with providers often, less than 10% end up as failure.


Yes, I do hear about her day. Yes, I do hear about the guy she thought was incredibly hot as well as the smoking sex. I also hear about the guys that basically repulsed her.

She chose me, her heart belongs to me, she loves that I see others myself and she has shared me with over two dozen of her friends. I have not ever asked her to quit, instead I have supported her about her career, it is clearly the best rewarding job she could do.

I don't push sex, she takes 'care' of me well, but there are nights she feels exhausted or sex will feel cold not cuddly. She often really wants to be held and told things will be OK.


In your case I would certainly try it with her, be very cognizant that her time is valuable and it is a gift to you. Ask yourself a question - would you prefer dinner with her more than by yourself. Duh!

Thanks for the thougthful post. Few years back when I had a larger ego, I would not think twice about it. I am older and wiser now and as such cautious. I also do not wish to hurt anyone's feelings. She is much younger and I have no intention of a relationship. I think I may take her out for a drink/meal but will be well upfront with her as to my intentions and see how it goes. Life's too short.

[saifan]

I am.

Telling someone what job they should or shouldn't do isn't really up to me if I'm not paying their bills.

[Idt20082008"]

Absolutely I would. If I date someone, it is because I enjoy having them in my life and that person really adds to it - I hate being without her. So her choice of work would be irrelevant, but I wouldn't go into it with my eyes close either. She is in the business of sex and I would be comfortable with this going into the relationship. I think Rusty put it well, her heart would belong to me and that is what is most important to me

[Mike11]

. I think Rusty put it well, her heart would belong to me and that is what is most important to me

If I really cared for someone and wanted to be in a proper relationship with them, I could not cope with them escorting as a career. This is in relation to GGs.

Whilst I love tgirls, I have never contemplated being in a long term relationship with one.

[hwbs]

i have over the 15 years in the scene....too much of a headache for me...i value my time too much to deal with a ringing phone 24 hours a day...not to mention dudes showing up unannounced ....and there is no jealousy about sex for me honestly ...its more about the interruptions when trying to have a date or just normal quality time .

[BLKGSXR]

I have been visiting this TS escort a few time since last year and she is gorgeous and quite a sought after escort in London. She has been really nice to me and very generous with her time and services. She keeps dropping hints at going out and stuff. I kind of say "yes sure and that would be really nice" but have not taken it beyond that.

Is it a good idea to go on a date? I really like seeng her as it is and happy to pay the fee for no strings attached fun. As much as I would love to take her out (she is totally passable) I am afraid of spoiling a good things. I wondered if others may have any thought/experience of this.
Read the title of this thread and that answers your question- Let that marinade THO!

[Ts RedVeX]

i have over the 15 years in the scene....too much of a headache for me...i value my time too much to deal with a ringing phone 24 hours a day...not to mention dudes showing up unannounced ....and there is no jealousy about sex for me honestly ...its more about the interruptions when trying to have a date or just normal quality time .

You are mistaking escorts with crazy ass whores.

[tarot]

I used to date a post op escort - she was from Singapore , and beautiful.When ever I told people she used to be a boy , they would all laugh thinking I was lying and joking .No one ever believed me , they just thought me weird for making up strange lies.
Anyway , I had a fantastic relationship with her , and I regret my immaturity of that time .
I was never bothered in the slightest by her being an escort .

[BLKGSXR]

You are mistaking escorts with crazy ass whores.
please elaborate...:smoking

[alpha2117]

The truth is it's a bit of a pain. You might be okay with it at first but if you love the person then you cant help but feel bad about them doing the job with someone else. That can lead to all sorts of issues. If you are just dating for fun - no problem but once you start getting real feelings then you have a whole lot of questions you need to ask yourself. Your scenario is even worse because if you start as a client and it then develops into anything else she always has that thing in the back of her mind that you went out and paid for it, no matter what it's always there.

[saifan]

The truth is it's a bit of a pain. You might be okay with it at first but if you love the person then you cant help but feel bad about them doing the job with someone else. That can lead to all sorts of issues. If you are just dating for fun - no problem but once you start getting real feelings then you have a whole lot of questions you need to ask yourself. Your scenario is even worse because if you start as a client and it then develops into anything else she always has that thing in the back of her mind that you went out and paid for it, no matter what it's always there.

I doubt most sex workers are that judgemental. More than anyone they should understand why some people choose to see escorts.

[tarot]

I'm sure an escort /client relationship could be successful.In fact it could be a fantastic if there were no judgements or morality.
Sex and love are two different things ( although debatable)

[Mike11]

I doubt most sex workers are that judgemental. More than anyone they should understand why some people choose to see escorts.

I am not so sure. I think many can be judgemental and trust may well become an issue if you have met them as a client.

[Tapatio]

been there, done that, got the STD tests.

[crystalsopen]

please elaborate...:smoking
As someone who had a roomate who could be well described as a "crazy ass whore" for while and who has some friends who escort, (I don't do either myself) this is how I see it.

Escorts (aka high end call girls) work to a high personal and professionaly standards such as: execute good judgement when deciding to let someone into their personal space, descression with their clients, and building a good clientel. They care about their name/ reputation as a provider. They are selective about their clients. And escorts tend to be the sort of charistamatic people that are fun to spend time arround. Escorts are all about quality.

"Crazy ass whores" are the furthest thing, in prostitutuion, from escorts.

Because escort charge MUCH more per hour than "crazy ass whores", "crazy ass whores" frequently claim to be escorts.

[Instrumental]

Nah, I wouldn't want to be with someone who views and has sex as a business. I feel like it'd ruin the intimacy of it. I'd also like the women I'm dating to be educated and focused on intellectual endeavors in and outside of their career, which while technically possible with an escort, I think it's a highly unlikely case.

[jameshargreaves]

I've dated several TS escorts. Diner. Cinema. Drinks. Usual stuff. Never an issue fir me or them. Do it.

[BLKGSXR]

As someone who had a roomate who could be well described as a "crazy ass whore" for while and who has some friends who escort, (I don't do either myself) this is how I see it.

Escorts (aka high end call girls) work to a high personal and professionaly standards such as: execute good judgement when deciding to let someone into their personal space, descression with their clients, and building a good clientel. They care about their name/ reputation as a provider. They are selective about their clients. And escorts tend to be the sort of charistamatic people that are fun to spend time arround. Escorts are all about quality.

"Crazy ass whores" are the furthest thing, in prostitutuion, from escorts.

Because escort charge MUCH more per hour than "crazy ass whores", "crazy ass whores" frequently claim to be escorts. I'm sorry but your point bears no water with me. Luckily you are 100 percent entitled to have an opinion which I will never try and take from you but know I will argue it if its not logical! In this case...

Is the outcome not the same? escort is just a nice way of saying; slut,whore, prostitute, working girl- at least in the eyes of the law it is!
The moment you take monies in return for sexual pleasure makes one a whore!! all that screening is to protect themselves! because only lord knows what eviLs are out there. Would you visit someone who is dominant when you yourself is dominant?- NO! that's what these reputations are meant for. End of the day don't sell yourself on what is and whats not- if you arent filing taxes its not legal! :2cent

[Tapatio]

Good point BLKGSXR- I don't know that the distinction matters- in addition to legality, the question is really "would you date someone who has sex for money?"

And as for "escort" being higher class than "whore"- good for them, but some of the filthiest, most diseased people I know are in the upper socioeconomic range. All the screening in the world won't necessarily prevent exposure from a nasty client.

[tarot]

At the end of the day it will be like any other kind of relationship .Some will make it , many will not .
It will all come down to whether the love is there .....period.

[wearboots4me]

As much as I would love to take her out (she is totally passable) I am afraid of spoiling a good things.

If you're happy with the way things are now, maybe you shouldn't change it.

[fred41]

Sure, it's just a date...we all gotta eat, sometimes I like company when I eat..so the answer is yeah...sometimes even the "crazy ass" ones.

[Vladimir Putin]

I would be open to it. It would not be just any escort, it would have to be someone I'm familiar with.

Provided she doesn't charge me for dating her.

[wearboots4me]

I don't think I would date a girl that I met as an escort. If I met a girl in the laundromat or something who turned out to be an escort, as long as she was honest with me about it, I would date her if I liked her. Until you get to know this girl better, I would keep things as they are.

[Kioji]

I would not let a protection stop me from dating someone that i clicked with and liked/was attracted too. That being said i have no idea how i would take the having sex with other people and our special time probably not being so fun due to over saturation. Really depends on the girl, I guess a combination of my reactions and her take on sex. I would be willing to give it the ole college try though.

[hairyguy]

i would love to but i am a polygamist by nature. i like having many girlfriends at once. one isn't enough and for most if not all girls, this doesn't fly. the ones i do have don't know (and don't need to) about each other. the female brain has a big problem with the j word. jealousy. they simply can't get that guys like to have a variety of pussy and ass to lick and fuck. it keeps us happy and life spiced up.

[crystalsopen]

I'm sorry but your point bears no water with me. Luckily you are 100 percent entitled to have an opinion which I will never try and take from you but know I will argue it if its not logical! In this case...

Is the outcome not the same? escort is just a nice way of saying; slut,whore, prostitute, working girl- at least in the eyes of the law it is!
The moment you take monies in return for sexual pleasure makes one a whore!! all that screening is to protect themselves! because only lord knows what eviLs are out there. Would you visit someone who is dominant when you yourself is dominant?- NO! that's what these reputations are meant for. End of the day don't sell yourself on what is and whats not- if you arent filing taxes its not legal! :2cent

Sluts do it for free, that is not prostitution. That you include sluts with prostitution speaks to your level of ignorance. If law is your only guideline tell tell what things are, then yes its all prostitution. I'm not going to argue with you about your choice of law as a value, which I do not share. If it was up to politicians where I live consensual, no money involved, sex with a boyfriend would be illegal (the Republicans here in Texas would pass an anti-sodomy law if they could).

Philosophically I don't think laws punish victim-less crime (or crimes with willing victims) do us any good. It all comes out of the power hungry pseudo-Christian bullshit of people wanting to run other people's lives. The power hungry use a so called "god", or "tradition" or "protecting children" or whatever else they can think of as an excuse to do so. I'm not an escort or a "crazy ass whore", but I love freedom and hate bullshit oppression.

As far as the difference goes: Let me explain this in analogy, and instead of prostitution I'll use meat. It's like I'm explaining the difference between ground chuck and filet minion, and you're saying something like "meat is murder".

[crystalsopen]

Good point BLKGSXR- I don't know that the distinction matters- in addition to legality, the question is really "would you date someone who has sex for money?"

And as for "escort" being higher class than "whore"- good for them, but some of the filthiest, most diseased people I know are in the upper socioeconomic range. All the screening in the world won't necessarily prevent exposure from a nasty client.

I think: "would you date someone who has sex for money?" is a shorter version the OP's question. Depends on the person obviously, but I would. I've met escorts I'd date and escorts I wouldn't. Relationships are difficult. Just because someone is good at their job, pretty, and a good lover isn't enough to make them the right choice as a life partner. I realize I'm not the intended audience. I think the intended audience is people who are guys who watch porn and/or hire escorts. I was trying to get the intended audience to see differences mentioned earlier.

[Tapatio]

I think: "would you date someone who has sex for money?" is a shorter version the OP's question. Depends on the person obviously, but I would. I've met escorts I'd date and escorts I wouldn't. Relationships are difficult. Just because someone is good at their job, pretty, and a good lover isn't enough to make them the right choice as a life partner. I realize I'm not the intended audience. I think the intended audience is people who are guys who watch porn and/or hire escorts. I was trying to get the intended audience to see differences mentioned earlier.

Also good points- it does come down to the relationship between people.

I would have problems dating an escort. Did have problems dating an escort. And would have problems because given the same connection I'd probably try it again anyway. Love makes exceptions for pretty much anything.

And regardless who OPs intended audience is, I'm glad you're helping to inform this discussion.

Thank you for weighing in. If the subtext is TS, your opinion means a lot.

[Jamie French]

I ONLY date escorts. Mommy needs to know rent's gonna get paid on time.

[Plaything]

I will. But I am not expecting a queue to form. :-)

[BLKGSXR]

Sluts do it for free, that is not prostitution. That you include sluts with prostitution speaks to your level of ignorance. If law is your only guideline tell tell what things are, then yes its all prostitution. I'm not going to argue with you about your choice of law as a value, which I do not share. If it was up to politicians where I live consensual, no money involved, sex with a boyfriend would be illegal (the Republicans here in Texas would pass an anti-sodomy law if they could).

Philosophically I don't think laws punish victim-less crime (or crimes with willing victims) do us any good. It all comes out of the power hungry pseudo-Christian bullshit of people wanting to run other people's lives. The power hungry use a so called "god", or "tradition" or "protecting children" or whatever else they can think of as an excuse to do so. I'm not an escort or a "crazy ass whore", but I love freedom and hate bullshit oppression.

As far as the difference goes: Let me explain this in analogy, and instead of prostitution I'll use meat. It's like I'm explaining the difference between ground chuck and filet minion, and you're saying something like "meat is murder".Im not going to be a rude child and start calling people I don't know ignorant but I will say you are fast to judge! Now onto the topic at hand!
Law was and is not the only reason I had, but I guess I could use it as my nicest reason. But taking gloves off on being nice.
Who the fuck in their right mind would try and find a future with someone who sells their ass for sex? People here in the States got shit fucked up! its a sad truth! Now dating can be argued!Examples: yes myself and "so-and-so" went out on a date- .vs. Yes myself and "so-and-so" are going out dating (on a regular basis) This is where I just say its OK to go out with someone you are trying to get with! but don't look for a future with an escort clean cut paste and dry!End of the day if you're looking for a future with someone who fucks or gets fucked by others as a "profession" then you are blind! Even worse you are lost in a facade!
Just my crusty 2cents! Now im cool as fuck with a lot of girls! But I know what they are looking for and what they aren't I guess it all lies on who and what the situation is!


Also good points- it does come down to the relationship between people.

I would have problems dating an escort. Did have problems dating an escort. And would have problems because given the same connection I'd probably try it again anyway. Love makes exceptions for pretty much anything.

And regardless who OPs intended audience is, I'm glad you're helping to inform this discussion.

Thank you for weighing in. If the subtext is TS, your opinion means a lot.
I speak from personal experience in the past, nothing but drama and headaches best it to be cool as fuck because end of the day they will label you a chaser or trade.
Some of these girls have facebook groups where they just tear guys apart!.. shit i've become a story on those before and just realized it these escorts or whores are the most vile people I have met! They are about one thing and one thing only!MONEY!

[Mike11]

I think: "would you date someone who has sex for money?" is a shorter version the OP's question.

It is certainly not shorter and is definitely not what I said. My main question was that if you have a good thing going with an escort, are you likely to spoil it by going out with her. Whether she has sex for money or is a brain surgeon makes no difference as I am not interested in a relationship.

[Ts RedVeX]

Hey guys, would you actually date anyone at all?

[Plaything]

Hey guys, would you actually date anyone at all?

I don't snowboard. But I do parachute. You show me yours. I'll show you mine :-)

[BLKGSXR]

Hey guys, would you actually date anyone at all?
Not I too close to valentines day Lol.
:werd: Best question ive seen this whole thread!

[Tapatio]

I speak from personal experience in the past, nothing but drama and headaches best it to be cool as fuck because end of the day they will label you a chaser or trade.
Some of these girls have facebook groups where they just tear guys apart!.. shit i've become a story on those before and just realized it these escorts or whores are the most vile people I have met! They are about one thing and one thing only!MONEY!

You forgot to mention the coke- lots of coke! That part was nice.

Sucks that this was your experience. My ex is a TS escort and one of the more popular dancers in LA- but one of the sweetest girls you could ever meet. Very caring toward her family, friends, and even the old CDs who get up and boogie on the floor at Oxwood (I made the mistake of a bad joke one night and she really tore into me- that's when I realized she really is the sweetheart she presents herself to be.)

She must have been pretty tame by TS standards- or maybe I'm a bit wild- but the worst thing for me was the constant, loud, (mostly) bad music- man, that wore me out.

[Tapatio]

It is certainly not shorter and is definitely not what I said. My main question was that if you have a good thing going with an escort, are you likely to spoil it by going out with her. Whether she has sex for money or is a brain surgeon makes no difference as I am not interested in a relationship.

Are you fucking kidding? If you have a good thing going with an escort (on, I assume, a transactional basis) you're definitely going to ruin it if you try to stop paying her.

[Plaything]

It is what it is.

[BLKGSXR]

You forgot to mention the coke- lots of coke! That part was nice.

Sucks that this was your experience. My ex is a TS escort and one of the more popular dancers in LA- but one of the sweetest girls you could ever meet. Very caring toward her family, friends, and even the old CDs who get up and boogie on the floor at Oxwood (I made the mistake of a bad joke one night and she really tore into me- that's when I realized she really is the sweetheart she presents herself to be.)

She must have been pretty tame by TS standards- or maybe I'm a bit wild- but the worst thing for me was the constant, loud, (mostly) bad music- man, that wore me out.
Lol I didn't want to label all the girls as users, So I left that out....Being said I think I know who you're talking about!
End of the day I gotten to the point where i'm in it for me no one else! If I can have fun oh well....Ive already been labeled in the eyes of escorts/whores/and sluts so fuck it! might as well live up to it!

[wearboots4me]

Are you fucking kidding? If you have a good thing going with an escort (on, I assume, a transactional basis) you're definitely going to ruin it if you try to stop paying her.

I certainly agree. If you're paying the girl, why would she want you to stop paying? That makes me view her with a bit of suspicion. (Not all escorts, just the one the OP is referring to)

[ilovesalt1892]

Yeah wanted to chime in even though its an old thread. FOR ME, Right now dating a transwoman knowing she sees and at any time will be with an array of other men in her profession doesn't seem attracting, knowing I would most likely meet her and pay her to get started also doesnt seem attracting. I am hopeful to meet a beautiful transwoman one day and treat the encounter just like I would any gg. Where she is not an escort, has a beautiful body and just wants to have fun and if it gets serious we consider being exclusive. Not to mention educated. This is a new world we are moving towards and I feel sorry that society has not accepted the trans population in some cases. Thank God I am in Ny but I have not ever come across a t-girl. We'll see if it ever happens. Also one more thing. I am not into escorts yet, not that desperate but I could see someone using an escort. There are plenty of gg porn stars I would have loved to do, even though sex is their profession. The chance of disease thing does scare me. Another reason I am hesitant to see an escort. I do look forward to performing oral and swallowing and topping her(me screwing her). Your telling me there are no transwomen out there who look as good as transwomen who do porn, who have a dirty mind that allow that and who want to be in a relationship with a strong guy who leads?

Btw I dont shame anyone who is or who is dating or seeing an escort. If your doing that then fine good for you. Whatever works. I dont care what others are doing as long as they arent lying or hurting anyone.

[Dima73]

I have, a couple times. They were GG's. That was my interest then. I would with a TG, if those stars aligned again.

[Plaything]

Anything and everything is possible.

But smart to recognise that there is an extraordinary emotional dynamic and lines you really don't want to cross.

But if you must muddy the water.

Buckle up tight.

'The louder you scream, the faster it goes'

Try and hold on - shit's gonna get crazy.

Like any good roller-coaster.

[youngfit93]

My TS girlfriend is an escort we recently moved in with each other.

I used to be so against it but I actually remember posting a rant on here about it and someone brought to my attention that a lot of girls do it out of necessity due to obvious discrimination etc this isn't the case with all of them however.

My gf I know she doesn't enjoy her line of work it doesn't make her feel good about herself and this is one of the reasons I can deal with it, to be honest with you it did take me a long time to come to terms with it I think mainly due to the fact my last relationship I was cheated on so she really has a great excuse if I was ever to be suspicious.

The beginning was very tough we had a lot of fights but we really are in a good spot now, I trust her and give her space to work so she might put me in a hotel or she goes hotel etc.

The thing that lets me accept it is this, 1- if she could have another job she would (there is a lot of shit going on which I don't want to disclose) 2- its sex that's it and to be honest most of the guys she sees are older, married or would never be with a TS in public so I guess I don't really feel 'threatened'. We both love each other, she comes to my family gatherings all the time, my parents and close friends all know about it inc her line of work and im fortunate my parents are so understanding so that makes it easier so im quite happy.

My advice is speaking from experience you have to really think and be honest with yourself if you can deal with that fact and what are the long term prospects with her, a connection is so hard to find and in my experience even harder with TS women because they are a lot more guarded for good reason but it will come down to communication, when we were going through our hard times we spoke to each other about how we felt and how to fix it and this is what saved our relationship as long as you both follow the boundaries you should be fine.

PM me if you want any other advice glad to help :)