Is it really that impossible?

[North323]

I have been trying to date a TS for about 5 years now. It has certainly been rough going. I am tired of looking on craigslist and every other ts/cd so called dating site out there. Is it impossible to find a TS for long term relationship? I was in NYC for a month and actually met the most beautiful TS ever. She had everything but all she wanted was 'material' things. Wanted to know how much money I made, what kind of apartment would I get for her. I don't understand.

Anyone offer guidance?

I am not ugly and I do have a job.

[bluesoul]

i don't understand what kind of guidance you want. if you meet someone that wants something different from what you're willing to offer, you move on to the next person. there is no one magical place you can go where all the transsexuals are just sitting around waiting for someone to come and offer them a LTR.

you can try dating sites, personal ads, clubs etc- but this is still no guarantee until you're out in the field engaging people. when you tried craigslist- were you checking the casual encounters section? because that's not where i'd go looking for a girlfriend. unless, you want that girlfriend to be a casual encounter.

another thing: you said you're not ugly. is that your own personal assessment of yourself or a fact?

[North323]

I guess I feel I've tried everything and found nothing. Its a fact that I am not ugly

[LilyRox]

You could be looking in the wrong places.

[EvaCassini]

Why not just go out to clubs around your area that could have trannies as patrons? Get out, go outside, meet people face to face. Don't let the screen in front of you be the only way to meet trannies and hook up.

We are out there! Find out where girls like us go out drinking, and go there. If you are not ugly as you claim to be, then you shouldn't have any problem wooing some shemale at clubs. Buy her a drink, chat, chit, chit chat. Treat her with courtesy and respect and soon you be having her first kiss, sucking her cock, and then having your 1 yr anniversary.

[bluesoul]

I guess I feel I've tried everything and found nothing. Its a fact that I am not ugly

what does everything entail? because you only said you've looked on "craigslist and every other ts/cd so called dating site out there". isn't craigslist mostly for escorts?

have you tried putting a personal ad on hungangels personals section (http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/forumdisplay.php?f=8)? a fellow user of this messageboard recently recounted to us how he successfully met and engaged in sexual relations with a hung angel member- so dreams do come true.

[LilyRox]

Looking on craigslist for a serious relationship with a TS is a joke. TS dating sites are also normally very sloppy, boring, and a waste of time. I've signed up for a few TS dating sites and had horrible outcomes. Mostly it's just guys on there looking for a one night deal or thinking TS girls are "easy". It immediately made me shy away from TS dating sites. Your best bet is to go out and meet some people at popular bars or join some type of club.

[speedking59]

i've found that when i stopped looking and trying so hard things started to happen. this may not be the best advice. that's how i met my ex-wives

[LilyRox]

i've found that when i stopped looking and trying so hard things started to happen. this may not be the best advice. that's how i met my ex-wives

This is sooo true and can be applied to so many other things in life. Thank-you for this wisdom.

[EvaCassini]

Thats how I met and fell in love with Jamie. Been together a little over 1 yr now! :)

[Rozayrifa]

lookin on craigslist sucks my friend especially if your looking 4 love but why look 4 a relationship just have fun and let love find you

[North323]

I agree craigslist sucks as do the other sites. I have tried gay bars or going on nights where they have TS. NYC seems to be the only city that has specific times for that. I live in Cleveland where the TS scene is not as robust. I know she is out there. Just having a hard time finding.

[Ms.Stepford]

Just go "normal"places where artists and musicians hang out. That's where you'd find me. At least one guy a weekend successfully picks me up, and a few of them have come close to keeping me, but I'm never into it. I'm just too busy being a whore for a relationship.

Here's the thing though: if you can't provide for a girl the way she wants, don't stand in her way when she wants to step out and get it on her own.

[youngblood61]

i've found that when i stopped looking and trying so hard things started to happen. this may not be the best advice. that's how i met my ex-wives:iagree:

[robertlouis]

You could be looking in the wrong places.

I think Lily's just answered your question.

There are some genuine dating sites that feature tgirls who want a long term relationship and aren't hung up on material things.

And FWIW while looks help in the initial stages they're less important than chemistry in the long run.

Good luck.

[Jackal]

Do you have any platonic transwomen friends? Maybe they have friends who you could meet and maybe hit it off or maybe not. Try and good luck

[my my my!]

As someone who has been in serious relationships with transsexual women,

contrary to what some have said about craigslist, there are relationships to be found there, you just have to look for the right wording. At least the local one has casual encounters (nsa, whores, fwb), misc romance ( girls open for relationships) , missed connections (someone saw you at a bar/club and didn't have the nerve to say hello) And there are "t4m" variations of all the above.
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example from local casual encounters t4m:
hey guys hosting for any of you who want to come over some fun im verse so you tell me what you have in mind. send your pic with your reply all welcome and black and Caucasian guy$ a plus (whore, escort etc)
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example from local misc romance t4m:
Hello to all....just browsing and looking if theres any men....who are romantic gentlemen.

I am "name omitted", just looking for friendship and what may develops..No Expectation. Just be yourself, and honest maybe...I do work hard. And I do love to work..I do have two jobs right now and I am loving it.

I am 5'6 inches tall.....oh well I am not going to write so much about me...but anyhow hit me up. (girl readily admits to wanting/desiring real relationship/friendship)

================================================== ================================================== ==============
missed connections t4m section: empty
means there are no transsexuals that saw a guy they liked, but didn't have enough courage to talk to them

================================================== ================================================== ==============


You just gotta know where to look

anything with "daddy" "genrou$$" "fun" are just escorts mainly.

[TSMichelleAustin]

Cleveland has more than a few tgirls, but most girls seeking love would never go to a tranny party or a gay club. Most of those girls live normal lives and go to normal places. As for what someone said, when your not looking u find love... how I met my husband of over 5 yrs, we werent looking. We met at a function.

[runround04]

i've found that when i stopped looking and trying so hard things started to happen. this may not be the best advice. that's how i met my ex-wives

"Ex-wives" lol

[North323]

thanks all for the advice. will keep truckin along

[ARMANIXXX]

I agree craigslist sucks as do the other sites. I have tried gay bars or going on nights where they have TS. NYC seems to be the only city that has specific times for that. I live in Cleveland where the TS scene is not as robust. I know she is out there. Just having a hard time finding.


I disagree.

I've met some great people on Craigslist. Of course, I live in the Bay Area, where #1, Craigslist was invented here, and people still craiglist alot for practically everything

and #2, The Bay Area is probably the capital of the United States, if not the world for TS chicks and ratios.

Also, you should probably try the MISCELLANEOUS ROMANCE section of CL.

If you don't mind, what city/area are you from, North323?

[North323]

I have tried misc romance. Cleveland Ohio


I disagree.

I've met some great people on Craigslist. Of course, I live in the Bay Area, where #1, Craigslist was invented here, and people still craiglist alot for practically everything

and #2, The Bay Area is probably the capital of the United States, if not the world for TS chicks and ratios.

Also, you should probably try the MISCELLANEOUS ROMANCE section of CL.

If you don't mind, what city/area are you from, North323?

[bluesoul]

but most girls seeking love would never go to a tranny party or a gay club. Most of those girls live normal lives and go to normal places.

do you view tranny parties and gay clubs as not being normal then?

[dderek123]

I moved to Thailand and found a gf there. But hey thats not for everyone.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jsk1A0tsSc

[ARMANIXXX]

I have tried misc romance. Cleveland Ohio

You obviously haven't tried hard enough







http://akroncanton.craigslist.org/msr/3973134537.html
Looking for a relationship - t4m - 21 (N. Canton)

Posted: 2013-08-01, 1:40AM EDT


so, im finally stuck trying this. im a 21 year old preop transgirl. 5'10" 145, looking for an actual relationship. I'm a fairly simple person; I'm not hard to please. I'm not really outgoing. I'm a nerd. I'm transgendered. I love love love animals, of all sorts. I enjoy watching movies, playing video games, chatting over coffee, snowboarding, and long walks on the beach for cliche sake. i have 2 tattoos, and 0 gauges in my ears. i love to mess with the hair on my head a bunch. i dont wana sound pretentious, but i play way too many video games, and really only wana chat/date someone who does as well, to save on the 'you're still playing that stupid game?' conversations. change the subject to your hometown to talk ^_^
I'm very open to talking over the net, so feel free to message me!

[ARMANIXXX]

Here's a big girl.
She seems nice.






http://youngstown.craigslist.org/msr/3970901342.html


need a good man - t4m - 24 (salem)



Posted: 2013-07-31, 1:19AM EDT


I am looking for a man who knows how to treat a girl like a princes and fuck her like a slut I am a little over weight at the moment but it will change soon so if you want a real girl hit me up

[North323]

emailed them both and never had a reply (no pic attached). they are just fake on CL. And I dont want a 'slut'.

[bluesoul]

And I dont want a 'slut'.

then it sounds like you shouldn't be looking on CL (even though i doubt only sluts use those services)

[maddygirl]

Lmao.

[North323]

I don't use those sites.


then it sounds like you shouldn't be looking on CL (even though i doubt only sluts use those services)

[bluesoul]

I disagree.

I've met some great people on Craigslist.

you know i actually just remembered- i met a FWB GG on craigslist (years ago though). 2 years later, i saw her on a website called "bookworm bitches".

[ARMANIXXX]

emailed them both and never had a reply (no pic attached). they are just fake on CL. And I dont want a 'slut'.


They're probably real.

Sounds like you don't know how to communicate well on the internet.....and you have a questionable to bad attitude to boot.


Good luck with all of that......you're gonna need it.

[Lovecox]

It's hard to assess your problem since the only thing you say about yourself is that you are "not ugly" (whatever that means) and you "have a job". Believe it or not sometimes TS women, just like non-TS women, want a little more that that from a guy.

Are you funny? Confident? Ambitious? Fun? Smart? Decisive? Romantic? Kind? Generous? Charming?

As men we have to learn to cultivate these characteristics if we want to attract a partner. I have the tendency to be selfish, self-absorbed, vain, and insensitive, but I have learned to work on these faults and improve myself in order to be more attractive and fun to be around.

I live in Los Angeles and I have had 3 relationships with TS women lasting over a year, including my current one which is going on 18 months. I have also had even longer ones with non-TS women.

What are you doing besides being non-ugly and keeping a job?