Where do you draw the line at?

[MsDazzler]

Since the trans world is a mysterious and murky world... how do you negiotate your limits? What do you draw your line at? Discuss!

[Stavros]

Not sure I understand what you are asking -limits in what way?

[Dino Velvet]

If you're saying what I think you're saying then that's the reason I tell people I'm better off paying for it. Easier and less confusing for both. My battle-plans tend to be specific and unyielding.

[BeardedOne]

Hmm...I think I understand the question.

I prefer that my dates not be insane. That's something I ran into a lot with many of my lovers and why I retired from the social scene many years ago.

That's just a basic rule. I'll think on it and try to come up with more later.

[Kire89]

The line must be drawn here! This far! No farther!

:D

[MsDazzler]

Not sure I understand what you are asking -limits in what way?

What will you do/not do? What will be unacceptable to you? Dealbreaker?

[MsDazzler]

For example... I've gotten some men telling me, "Is your hair real? I don't do dudes with wigs on."

Obviously for them, wigs is a dealbreaker. :smh

[Jericho]

Won't bottom.
Apart from that... :shrug

[RallyCola]

when presented with an image of an attractive person, i can tender my opinion on whether or not they are appealing to me but that's just imagery...

in "real life" i am not attracted to "part time girls" or crossdressers. Intimately, I draw the line at women. if you are not a woman and just like pretending to be one for the purposes of sex, please don't touch my penis. a few gorgeous porn stars confound this criteria, but since i will never meet them anyway, its ok.

apart from that, i have very few limits...no animals, no scat, no blood.

[nysprod]

For example... I've gotten some men telling me, "Is your hair real? I don't do dudes with wigs on."

Obviously for them, wigs is a dealbreaker. :smh

How about you answering a question: under what circumstances were these conversations held? What they're saying doesn't exactly sound like a romantic encounter...sounds more like a negotiation for an hourly rental if you ask me.

But then again, I think you need you need to explain why you ask all these questions. Doing research?

[RallyCola]

How about you answering a question: under what circumstances were these conversations held? What they're saying doesn't exactly sound like a romantic encounter...sounds more like a negotiation for an hourly rental if you ask me.

But then again, I think you need you need to explain why you ask all these questions. Doing research?

i thought about that as well, but at the very least, it is spurring conversation so i just dismissed what her motives are as irrelevant

[acouplenyc]

there are no limits if there is love. sounds all new-agey and whatnot, but it's the truth. i think the only dealbreakers for us are people who don't understand basic hygiene, are way out of shape, and who lack respect for people.

[nysprod]

i thought about that as well, but at the very least, it is spurring conversation so i just dismissed what her motives are as irrelevant

The whole dazzler thing is weird...teacher of young children/goes to bars to pick up men/complains there aren't enough young ones...claims she doesn't escort but has gruff conversations with men who want to make sure she isn't a boy in a wig, obviously as a prelude to taking the plunge with her...something's missing here.

[RallyCola]

The whole dazzler thing is weird...teacher of young children/goes to bars to pick up men/complains there aren't enough young ones...claims she doesn't escort but has gruff conversations with men who want to make sure she isn't a boy in a wig, obviously as a prelude to taking the plunge with her...something's missing here.

you are right...but it's a porn forum so i don't take anything here so seriously

[Lovecox]

I'm sorry, I'm lost. Could you be a little bit more vague?

[Stavros]

The limits are set by the circumstances and one's own codes. How does one meet transexuals; where does one meet them; when does one meet them? The way in which one interacts with a transexual changes from the bus and the supermarket to the club or the bedroom, which I think is how it is for most people anyway; I don't want to see two people groping each other on the bus or on the street, and I have seen it. I don't think I have ever been embarrassed by a transexual when out in public, and I don't believe I have embarrassed her.

As for intimacy, let's just say that if someone wants to use the bathroom, it is a small room next to the bedroom, not the bed itself or anyone lying on it.

[nysprod]

you are right...but it's a porn forum so i don't take anything here so seriously

Lol...that's putting things into proper perspective!

[rockabilly]

Draw a line in the sand , you do not piss on another mans rug!

[MsDazzler]

you are right...but it's a porn forum so i don't take anything here so seriously


lol, exactly. it is all harmless fun. Relax, Nysprod. I just am like that, questioning everything in real life.

[LovinThaTSLadiez]

No facial hair. LOL!

[Steve-Oh]

Talk.
And one sure way to get the other person to talk: ask questions.
Most people like to talk about themselves.

Like, are you a whore?
How many people have you killed?
How long were you in prison?
What medications are you on?
Etc.

[BeardedOne]

lol, exactly. it is all harmless fun. Relax, Nysprod. I just am like that, questioning everything in real life.

I've known you for a while and always found you to be a bit /n/o/s/e/y/ inquisitive. ;)

[RallyCola]

I've known you for a while and always found you to be a bit /n/o/s/e/y/ inquisitive. ;)

wow...he just called you a big-nosed ugly wretch and told you to step

[wiltthestilt]

I dont have any specific limits regarding escorts. The more real the better; but if the rest of her looks like Domino; I could deal with a wig.

[MsDazzler]

do you draw the line at implants?

[fivekatz]

No facial hair. LOL!Actually no lie. Nothing can make me go limp quicker than a hint of facial stubble when kissing, don't ask me why because I can't explain that. I don't need surgically implanted tits to be turned on by a trans-woman but a that feeling of stubble is a turn off.

As for wigs, that would real depend. Lot's of GGs and specially African-American GGs are into weaves and wigs. The wig itself isn't a line to me but I would say a real shitty wig would be simply because the person wearing it would not be visually attractive to me.

For the most part I suppose there is no line until you encounter that line. A person is either one that you find attraction to or not.

One of the phrases I hate the most is passable. First of all the idea that a person is passable means they pass the visual judgment of another.

The other thing is that they are some how passing themselves of as something they aren't. And there is my problem with that word.

Now it is just my opinion but someone who is transgender isn't passing themselves off for anything they are being themselves. They may be a "butt-ugly" woman but they are a woman according to them and that should be accepted by others as such. So a trans-woman or trans-man may be unattractive but they are who they are, they aren't "passing", they are.